I’m dating my friend’s ex and she blew up on me?

[Anonymous]

My friend and I stopped being friends after I dated her ex boyfriend and she basically over reacted so badly. Tbh Its not my fault if the guys want me and not her, she has always had it easy in life anyway and has always been the “pretty” one with guys attention. She’s so up herself. I wanted to take her ex to show I could get what she has because she doesn't deserve it. She always acts like she’s better than everyone and I’m sick of it. Anyway, after I dated him she blew up on me and called me a “jealous fake friend” and called me “ugly on the inside and out.” And she told our friends what I ‘apparently did’ and now everyone has sided with her? Isn’t she in the wrong here? Why has everyone taken her side and not mine? She literally called me ugly.

[OlderAndWiser]

Can anyone possibly be this self-absorbed and clueless?

1. Let's start with the title: "I’m dating my friend’s ex. . ." Do you have ANY comprehension of the idea that friends are supposed to be loyal to each other. If this other girl is REALLY your friend, you would NEVER. . . NEVER. . . NEVER date her ex. Period.

2. Continuing with the title: ". . . and she blew up on me?" WTF did you expect? A thank you card?

3. "My friend and I stopped being friends after I dated her ex boyfriend and she basically over reacted so badly." The only person on the planet who thinks this is an over-reaction is you and perhaps a few acquaintances who aren't willing to be honest with you.

4. "Tbh Its not my fault if the guys want me and not her" No, that's not your fault, but you don't need to date him just because he wants to get revenge on his former girlfriend. Are you THAT desperate to get a man?

5. "She’s so up herself." Look in the mirror!

6. "I wanted to take her ex to show I could get what she has because she doesn't deserve it." You just wanted to be the mean bitch and you did a good job in that role.

7. "Anyway, after I dated him she blew up on me and called me a “jealous fake friend” and called me “ugly on the inside and out.” All ugliness is not external.

8. "And she told our friends what I ‘apparently did’ and now everyone has sided with her?" That's because it's very clear what you did.

9. "Isn’t she in the wrong here?" No.

10. "Why has everyone taken her side and not mine? She literally called me ugly." Did you expect her to call you and express gratitude for the fact that you are now fucking her ex?

[Mickey48-28]

I dated my boys girl.
He died in a motorcycle accident. One night he came 2 me in a dream.

The crazy part is she told me the same thing happened 2 her with the dream.

I was divorced with children when we got together.
Her Dad wanted natural Grandchildren.
I broke up with her so she wouldn't have difficulties with her father.
I loved her so much.

She has marital problems as of 12 2021

[Anonymous]

You are in the wrong here. If you we’re her friend you wouldn’t have to prove to her that you can get the same guys. No real friend would date their friend’s ex to get back at them. Put yourself in her shoes. If she did this to you do you think it would be okay? Probably not. You need to reflect on what you did and work on your insecurities.

[Aurora1010]

No, regardless of her previous attitude you took someone she might still love just to prove you can and not only this you are playing with him as he's only like a game prize to you from what you said so far.
You're even worse than her I guess.

[888theGreat]

Well if you were really friends , which you never were , since you are jealous of her, then you would have respected that. I think you will break up with this guy if not already and then you will always have an enemy. Good job , you won only to really lose.

[Albino010]

Seems like you did what you did out of jealousy, so in this case, your friend is right.

[Miristheiss]

You broke the code.
You don't date your friends exes.

You are an ass and deserve to lose your friend and you deserve scorn.
You betrayed your friend and broke the friend code.

[boggboss]

Lol why are u acting clueless here like u didn't know it would end shit with your only justification being everything for her has been easy u honestly sound like a shit person to know let alone be friends with

[Asker]

How am I a shit person? 😂 it’s her ex boyfriend, plus she always acts like she’s perfect and better than everyone. It’s not my fault if he likes me and not her

[boggboss]

He dont like u lol he hot with u because he ain't with her your so diluded but meh gotta be diluded or begging for validation to still think your in the right

[Biancam13]

I agree ^, you’re trying to reassure yourself he chooses you over her to convince yourself you’re better than her… because you’re jealous. Work on your self esteem first because this is very toxic

[boggboss]

U hit the nail on the head she is so insecure that any glimpse of being seen as better she is grabbing and not seeing how petty and small its making herself look this is so desperate its painful

[Asker]

@Biancam13 I’m not jealous of her ffs

[boggboss]

Its so obvious u are wouldn't have got with her ex if u was not jelouse u got with him as a statement not for another reason lol

[Asker]

No I got with him because he LIKED ME FIRST. And not her. He dumped her recently because he found her boring, that’s what he told me

[Biancam13]

Ok keep lying to yourself. You know full well you’re jealous and insecure of your friend. She deserves much better tbh

[Asker]

He made me his girlfriend but go off I guess. Not my fault she’s just a shag at best

[Biancam13]

You’re a very insecure person. Again leave your friend alone she’s better off without the both of you

[boggboss]

Ahahahahaha he liked u first but got with her before u yes that story is adding up and he told u he loved u so clearly its the truth your not just a easy choice desperate enough to take him 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

No he dumped her and got with me. And he says she wasn’t even pretty to him that I’m better

[Biancam13]

😂😂I can’t believe what I’m actually hearing. And you really believe that he’s telling you the truth? He’s just trying to appease you because he probably deep down knows you’re insecure and jealous of her

[boggboss]

Lol his comments are irrelavent just use your thinking brain for a sec if he didn't think ahe was pretty why would he have got with her in the first place if u was better he would have got with you from the start but guess what he didn't if it was not for her u would never have been with him now he is using you to get at her and your so insecure your taking it as a victory that u are a tool for his enjoyment

[Asker]

Because he used to get with anyone , she didn’t matter to him at all. He used to be a player and so got with her just because she was there. I was the game changer and special to him

[Biancam13]

Nah girl, the other answerer @boggboss is right, he’s just saying everything because they didn’t work out for some reason and he probably knows you’re insecure.

[boggboss]

Ahahahahahahahaha u was special to him and changed him and u think he didn't tell her that img this I'd gold to be fair tho u are the prime example of why I advice women that are insecure and poor self awareness to not date as u are being manipulated and its so obvious to see that yet u are happy its happening

[Biancam13]

You both ain’t shit, you for being a jealous and toxic friend and him for getting with his ex’s “friend” and using you as his second option.

[Asker]

No cos he loves me, he never loved her or any girl before me. He doesn’t find her attractive and never did. She is just a piece of meat to him

[boggboss]

Lol its funny how your are describing yourself in his eyes but directing it at her

[Biancam13]

She’s delusional. You’re being delusional OP. Anyone else can see it but you.

[DonkeyDan]

Wow, you're literally the worst kind of friend, she's lucky to be shot of you.

[hhadeshatesme]

this whole post screams insecurity. hope you find some self love and stop projecting

[Anonymous]

Ecclesiastes 7:28 -

while I was still searching but not finding,
I found one upright man among a thousand,

but not one upright woman among them all

[Biancam13]

You sound like a horrible friend tbh. And jealous of her. Yes she shouldn’t have called you ugly but you should leave her alone, I would side with her too. You don’t date your friend’s exes unless they give you permission to do so.

[Asker]

Yeah but why should she care, it’s her EX. Plus she deserved it, she needed to know that I’m actually better than her

[Biancam13]

I think you need to work on yourself and your self esteem, love yourself before having friends because you clearly treat them badly

[Asker]

She’s the one who’s jealous, she’s just annoyed she can’t keep a guy and they like me better

[Biancam13]

No, you are.

[Biancam13]

Please take my advice and work on self esteem, I promise it’ll help you out in life in general

[Asker]

Go away

[Biancam13]

No I won’t

[Danny_dan92]

Because you lack respect and you’re a piece of shit friend

[Twalli]

Considering the reason you wanted to date her ex, I would agree on the ugly on the inside. Plus what you said about her on here reinforces that view.

[Seinna]

Lol, some friend you are. No, she didn't overreact. You're simply a dog.

[Asker]

Who cares though it’s her EX and they weren’t that serious anyway, he didn’t even like her he wanted me all along

[Danny_dan92]

Wow. If he didn’t want her then why tf would he have made her his girlfriend you dumbass?

[Asker]

@Danny_dan92 because he wanted to hookup, and I was in a relationship at the time. But he wanted me all along

[Wise4myage]

Not a slick move on your part.

[Wise4myage]

You sound very jealous.