I noticed back in January this girl was leaving messages on his wall saying how she loved spending time with him and loved him, etc. I'm pretty sure it's his ex. Though his Facebook has said single the whole time.
I'm just not sure why he would decide to contact me after all this time. When I did visit him there was nothing sexual. Never kissed, held hands or anything. I even slept in the same bed as him and nothing happened. He had even offered to sleep on the couch. So no one can say "he wants a booty call" cause that's not the case. It's not even like we were super close friends and he wanted to get back in touch with me. I knew the dude for about 2-3 weeks. I expect most guys to just blow you off and never talk to you again, though his actions confuse me. So I'm sitting here thinking, why me?
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I know you keep asking "why you" and you keep saying you didn't have sex with him but getting in a guys bed is a step closer to sex. You'd be amazed on how they can break that stuff down. I mean if he is talking to another girl and she doesn't get in his bed, which girl did he get further with? Especially if you were only talking to him for a week and were willing to get in bed. I know in a world where so many women have sex on the first date sleeping in a bed seems like nothing. But to a guy who isn't getting any physical contact, it is a lot.
You sound like you have it all worked out already. He was looking for a girl on a dating website, you guys talked for a little bit, stayed together a few days, then he wasn't interested cause his ex becomes an option and he wasn't emotionally attached to you yet, so he didn't keep talking to you. Now his ex is out of the picture and he thought "Hey Punchxcore was nice." I really do think you know what is happening. I just think you need to decide whether you want to get over the insult. He didn't contact you and it was a jerky thing to do. So now you have to go from there realizing it is still really casual to him and he may do it again. If you are cool with that, then contact him. If you don't want to risk another slight, then I wouldn't contact him anymore.