Guys have you given up a passion for your relationship and own well being?

[lightbulb27]

Tom Brady retired... but he just can't... stop... so he's back to football again. That appears to have stressed his wife and relationship. Why can't we just stay strong men forever?

I have the same challenges... getting older, my mind wants to do what I did as a kid, but I pay the price physically quite easily. It sucks to lose our strength.. here's my testosterone?

I've seen this happen to others... where the guy wouldn't stop what gave him that "rush" and it cost them their wives. Notice how the word "wive" is close to "wise"... the women see us and have wisdom. There's a time to quit... how do you determine "that time" without stressing out your mate?

Tom... it's time to retire, easy for me to see... Play some flag football, coach some games. If his relationship is messed up and emotions are off, he's not going to play well anyways. Why go out seeing yourself fade... go out on top!

https://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/tom-brady-gisele-bundchen-need-open-communication-resentment-may-kick-in-relationship-expert-says

I have

I have not

[Anonymous]

Professional athletes are a unique breed. These people generally have had one focus since late childhood, early teens. Everything is for the furthering of that goal and to be the best. It's exhausting I'm sure. But take that away all of a sudden and the athlete suffers from an identity crisis. If they're not a great ball player anymore who are they? Yes, they they are conditioned to ignore pain, weakness is only in thoer mind. Pop some pain killers and keep going. But there reaches a point where you just can't will your body to do more. I found that out last year. And I feel like I went from 20 to 80 in 1 calendar year. I can only imagine what that's like for an athlete that has the eyes and expectations of thier organization entire fan base upon them.

Also your question reminds me of a segment on "Real Sports" on HBO. They were talking to retired football athletes (obviously this mostly had to do with the dramatic increase of CTE over the years". But they were comparing the avg. Lineman of 50 years ago to those of recent years. And how many were dying young because of the stress they put on thier bodies. NOBODY SHOULD WEIGH 300LBS. Even if most of it is muscle. All that mass is stress on your body's organs. And I forget the guys name but they had this former lineman that was taking a cocktail of meds to keep him alive till he could receive a heart transplant. And they asked him knowing what he knows now would he do it again. And he responded "in a heartbeat"! And the interviewer said " even knowing where it has lead you"? And he said, "until you've been there... the lights... the crowds you'll never understand". Some people would give everything to be treated like a God just for a little while. So maybe just being in the limelight, center stage is the biggest drug of all.

[lightbulb27]

yes, seems professional wrestlers die young as well. A lot of stress to always perform, but I'm sure it's amazing while it lasts.

[exitseven]

It does suck to get old. I ran marathons and when I got into my 30s I had too many injuries and I finally had to give it up My wife is a physical therapist and told me that I was beating myself up and I needed to find something else to do. I had a hip replacement a year ago so she was right.

[lightbulb27]

🚴 good

[Rosexøxø]

I just read the question and said: well I would hope so!

Seems pretty easy to see, and I'm sure women athletes who really love their sport, have experienced similarly.

Mostly a guy thing, with this 'loss of power' being a huge blow, just as the loss of youthful/ vibrant/ "full" looks is a huge blow for women.

I never watched Serena Williams' last game for this reason. Couldn't bear to watch.

I heard the news, and said "well maybe it was fitting to end that way. She started off in her sport not being so good, and she finished it somewhat not being so good." The middle of her career was the prime time and where she had the luxury to be the best.

Same applies to male athletes who love these sports.

Gotta appreciate when the going is good, and let the love for the sport, and its patriots, never fade.

[FilmGuy93]

This is honestly a lesson that people sometimes need to learn the hard way, but it is so true; be able to recognize when something has run its course. You had your time in the sun, that time has passed, it's all good. Live a better life by not trying to force something that isn't working anymore.

[Rosexøxø]

@FilmGuy93 That last sentence is GOLD. I gotta write that down.

The last sentence was the lesson you typed. Words before it was just you giving context. Helpful indeed.

[Jamie05rhs]

"let the love for the sport, and its patriots, never fade.". I see what you did there. ;)

[Rosexøxø]

@Jamie05rhs hey thanks :) mission accomplished haha

[Jamie05rhs]

Haha. You're welcome.

[lightbulb27]

@FilmGuy93 oh man, I hope you aren't pulled the book of Ecclesiastes on me, I know how that ends.😂Very true...

[AsaKyo]

I wouldn't give up something I love for someone most likely temporary

[BJP21]

@asakyo High five girl!

[lightbulb27]

That kinda means you don't have confidence or that anyone is worth it? Or maybe you are a realist, but I've known more than a few that met in high school and are still married.

[AsaKyo]

I do
If someone tells me to quit art or video games for them, then they're not worth it to me because if you loved me, then you would support my passions, not shun them and make me quit them

[USLegionary]

Tom Brady is only 45 granted that's 200 in Football years but he's still playing better than most at an elite level. What's he meant to do retire and get fat? Is 42 year old super model Gisele going to retire. I think if Brady retired his wife Gisele would get bored and run off with some Hollywood actor or Pete Davidson.

[DJB72]

Only because I emigrated to get married. Initially. Now I'm injured so I'm having to re-evaluate anyway

[Jamie05rhs]

Women are entirely fickle and contradictory, and they have no consistency in their logic.

"I want to marry a man who has ambition and who has goals!"

"Baby, you shouldn't work so hard!"

[BJP21]

I gave up my love of classic car meets over a girl but getting back into it because as @asakyo said Im not giving something I love up. You can have hobbies that are different.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, people should only date people with shared interests/hobbies.