Have YOU given up on dating and relationships?

[Myk13]

At 45 years of age, I have been on some nice highs and some pretty miserable lows when it comes to relationships. One failed marriage, three failed long term relationships and two beautiful daughters later. I am single again. I would like to think that somewhere, sometime, within these 45 years, I have picked up a little wisdom.

I have learned that you shouldn’t ever say “never”.

I have also learned that you should not let opportunities pass you by.

Even if I know that in 5-10 years there is an 95% chance of being heart broken again. I don’t want to miss out on the blessing of love.

I have already made more than my share of bad decisions in life. I can honestly say that I have no regrets. If I knew that I would be right here, right now. I would do it exactly the same way all over again.

No matter how bad I think I messed something up. I know that God has everything under control. He will take care of me.

[Anonymous]

As a man in today's social and political climate, I have given up on marriage. It's just not a wise decision for a man anymore.

I have not given up on relationships though. That's just silly.

[InsideBeauty]

No. I think it's ok to take a break but that's all. With all the respect, i'm against of separatism and radicalism ideologies such as MGTOW and WGTOW. Yeah dating/relationships problems excist, but i don't think MGTOW or WGTOW is the solution, I think that will only bring things worse. I think that have an chinese finger trap effect. I believe in union and construction, not the opposite. I think the solution is that men and women put ourselves in the place of the other and focus on understanding instead of attacking with the purpose of winning, defending or being right. Continue being good, because although sometimes it seems that not many people are good or dont care, the reality is that there has always been, there are and there will always be good men and women.

[PrincessPie]

No, not given up, but i take breaks from it, as it drives me nuts otherwise lol.

[ChronicThinker]

No. I have taken a few years off before because guys just weren't measuring up to my standards (not necessarily their fault, mind you, I tend to be picky) and to focus on my job.

[ManOnFire]

Mmmmm yes and no. I'm not exactly looking right now, but not entirely closed off either. It's complicated.

[splashofyellow]

After 24 years of being single, I've still not given up. I can't be bothered to make any effort either, though.

[jennifer_bloom]

I'll never give up. There is good things at the end of the tunnel.

[Allie_Oops]

Yes. Men are not worth the headache.

[Desconhecida]

Not yet. But its been a hard and blood war

[Kyren]

I can believe that everyone has a strong compatibility with someone in the world; it's a real challenge to find them though since it takes a lot of effort and research to understand what you're looking for in a relationship, along with finding that person with the personality type you favor. Mentally, I can believe almost everyone is wanting to be in a relationship but a lot of people either have given up or have been scarred from past relationships that's discouraged them from further pursuing a relationship. While I may be in a happy relationship, I'll never give up on providing people the advice and support they're looking for in a relationship to find out if the person they're with is truly for them or it's doomed to fail in the long run.

I'd highly encourage everyone who's single and looking for a significant other to not give up and settle for less. Love is an essential need in our lives; that one day our parents won't be around to provide that feeling we want and friends can't always be depended on since they have lives of their own. It's not to say some people don't mind solitude all the time but I can imagine even then they'll long for love as well at some point. I used to be a downer when it came to relationships since my parents got divorced along with my friends' parents who did the same thing but I have realized I am not them and that with enough dedication and hard work, I can truly find someone who'd I consider to be "My Soulmate" in which I believe I did! I honestly hope people who are single, looking for relationship continue to pursue one because it is worth your while when you find the right person!

[PinkMichae]

When people have bad experiences, get hurt, or rejected they give up. But love has a funny way of coming along when you least expect it and you fall. I thought I had given up too. And honestly the man I fell for and am with now was only suppose to be a f'ck buddy because I wanted nothing to do with love and only wanted to have fun with someone. But as we had fun we got to know each other and we fell madly in love. Been together 3 years now and have committed to a life sentence. Lol! I think love happens when you aren't desperate to find it.

[lovelyhoneybones]

I know I'm only 18 but a part of me has given up on love. It's not just because I've gotten my heart broken by a few guys. My entire life I've been devoid of love, growing up I didn't really feel like I was. I remember feeling like my own father hated me, sometimes he would say things that I child should never hear from a parent. Majority of my family wasn't there for me. I don't even know my own family. It just feels like nobody fights for me, most people don't make me feel loved regardless and that's just something I've learned to live with. Another part of me still has hope that I'll find someone who will love me endlessly.

[AnberlinCanucks]

I did for very long time. Then I pulled a random guy across a dance floor while drunk one night, never expecting to see or speak with him again. But nearly 4 months on, we’re seeing and speaking to each other every day and he’s slowly healing the last pieces of my heart that my ex destroyed in the abusive marriage. It’s when you give up that it finds you

[purplestardust]

Yes. I gave up. I'll never find what I want so why keep trying? All I get is my heart broken and after my last break up (a year ago) I honestly don't want to do that again. I'm not loving someone that much again to have that person shatter and destroy me. I haven't even got over the pain. 😞

[brezzaxo765]

So many young people saying they've given up on it.
Its sad really like i understand being independent and stuff but having a best friend and someone to help you through life is special.
I think people need to learn to grow with every break up or heart break. Its a learning experience it shouldn't alter your look on love.

[Anonymous]

Haven’t given up completely but sometimes dating gets discouraging. Getting dates or even flings wasn’t an issue, but keeping anything long term or sealing the deal.

I’ve always found that the ones I’m into don’t want me, at least not long term or the ones who do want me I’m not into. I also refuse to settle because that does NOT make you happier.

What’s really frustrating is that I get a lot of dates only to get ghosted. It’s like how can I improve myself or know what I’m doing wrong if I never get feedback?

And I say this without the whole “I’m nice”, “all women are bitches” or “I bought them drinks, dinner, etc so I’m owed this”. It just feels like I can never do anything right sometimes.

[thesongwentonforever]

Yes, and no.

I've given up on LOOKING for a romantic relationship--it was taking up too much of my time and energy that I could use elsewhere (such as hobbies, education and well, enjoying my own life). With that said, if I meet someone along the way, great, if not, I'm not going to sulk on about it like I used to, I have more interesting things to do

[Blonde401]

Yes. Completely. I pretty much decided last year I’m really not ever going to find someone, so I’ve completely closed myself off from meeting people full stop. Absolutely pointless and all I end up with is users and time wasters so what’s the point. People are selfish and are only after satisfying their needs.

[Elaine_17]

Yep. It will probably never find me again. It's hard to make me feel anything since getting to know me on a personal intimate level is difficult because most people don't make me feel anything other than contempt at times.

[SkipStop]

I have never been in a relationship or on a date. At this point, I don't even want to try. I can't see myself as a father or a husband. Plus, the whole #metoo and feminism these days, I am now a MGTOW. I believe I will be happier this way. And to tell you the truth, I am happier this way. The only downside is that I have upset my parents and grandparents. They want to see me get married and have kids someday. But they just don't understand what all that is like in the 21st century.

[szewczykkit]

When you're moving on it can feel like he/she was the best thing ever happened. But over time, you'll realize there are far more better compatible soulmates out there. So I don't ever give up on dating.

You never know when you meet that one person you'll settle with for life.

[BrittBratt2416]

No, I am in a relationship but if my boyfriend and I were to break up then I think I would just remain single and focus on myself. Anxiety and not being that great at conversation wouldn't work in my favor of dating, plus I'm not the most attractive women out there so most dudes wouldn't be checking for me anyway.

[Paris13]

I have Had my Fair and Square Share of Many Dates and Mates. I even Have a Husband out in Egypt that I had Left behind.
I am Living with another Ex who is my Bestie Friend, so for Now... Taking a small Break to focus on my writing career and Get things back in Order. xx

[McKellar]

Yes unfortunately I have. Everytime I get myself involved with a woman, the results are still the same over & over & over again.

We meet, we get to know each other, we date for a little bit, she breaks it up for some reason (s), & as soon as I meet the next girl, the same pattern repeats.

When I meet some girl online, we agree to meet, we finally meet, we have no chemistry,... the pulse between her & I is dead.

If there might be chemistry, we go on more dates, she gives off no reaction, she gives very little to no communication, she breaks it off claiming there's no feeling,... it all has ended.

After so many tries in various ways,... you just get tired of it, there's very little to no hope at all left within you, regardless on how confident you are or seem. Then you often think,"What's the point of it all if they are all going to be like this? Fuck'em. I'm done".

Then unfortunately porn or any form of sexual lust comes into your life.

[One_J_Boi]

Giving up is kind of a strong word, for me it's kind of: never started... I didn't see the point of it. You go to school, get a job, wait for retirement and die afterwards. Knowing that No one will remember me, it sounds suicidal but it's not. It's how I see life, so being in a relationship would be pointless

[Anonymous]

I don't know what wgtow means but I have given up just bc I dont want children. So I dont see the point in dating really , I just wanna eat nice food , workout , be good at the shit I like , get my dream job and die. Not really looking for a companion. sure I still get feelings and crushes and it stings when I can't be with them , but I can get over it pretty quickly. I've always been kind of a loner anyway so it's not anything new.

[dark_knight59]

I'm shocked at all these differences of opinion. So many people that have given up on the opposite sex and others that enjoy the ride.

Personally it's sad how many "bad eggs" are out there waiting to make you feel terrible or as though you aren't like the rest and aren't destined for love. I went through the rollercoaster until I gave up on trying to date and took time to better know myself.

After you're completely satisfied with who you are and can be happy and single, that's when someone will see that individuality and confidence in being who you are. They will take you by storm and you with your newfound understanding of what you want will be overjoyed with this person and happy with them or quickly move on avoiding the hurt until you finally find what you want.

Good luck out there!

[Fitness-Fanatic]

No. I've been in unhappy failed relationships. But if I'd given on them, I would never have found the love of my life. It's good to take breaks and spend time being single, but I don't believe in giving up all together on relationships

[Idk33]

Literally I’m just done with people in general 😂😂😂😂

[Sortofa]

I took a break and then bam, this guy just waltzed into my happy single life when I least expected it. I'm falling for him.

[SaoirseS]

No, not at all. Dating and relationships take a lot of time to figure things out. Just because a series of dates or a relationship doesn’t work out doesn’t warrant an “I quit - that’ll show them” response. Seems like a cop-out to me. Live and learn.

[Silver158]

no, I'm currently not dating due to staying with my mum as I went back to school a few years ago. Not to sound conceited but i do get attention from women, Either from women I don't find attractive, or women I do find attractive but don't approach because I think they wouldn't want me, if that makes sense?

[BugattiC]

I never give up on anything lmao but dating at times can be a cruel period and I am currently in that period hopefully in the future I’ll get out of it and fine someone that’s worth it but as for now🤷🏻‍♂️

[StonerDude16]

Really just try to stay with friends or friends with benefits, cuz all the relationships I've been in either don't work out or they screw me over on way or another I'm done I am just going to have friends and then friends I'm going to have fun with and I ain't trying dating for awhile

[skiron]

Dating is good for the people who have hope. Usually the hope is gone if you can't even get a date

[Lieseeker]

I am rich. Rich that can't be seen, but can be touched. Women are cut from their body of (name your saint, for all are devine for bringing forth the truth of why we exist. And being treated illy by all. Sad. Breaks my heart. MLK here in US... i stammer) anyway, women dont recognize true richness. I give up.

[Ellie-V]

Have I given up? No. That implies that I was already an advocate for relationships. And honestly, I’ve never cared too much for them.

[SweedyPie]

Not actively looking but not in any of those categories. Open to whichever wonderful people life sends my way whenever they are sent my way. Just focussing on building for the future. 😊

[jessture]

For now yes. Been single over 3 years and I'm more than happy. For instance, this weekend is coming up, I am free from any work obligations, and a woman hasn't filled it up with pointless crap that ruins a day off. Winner.

[4nication]

No. That whole MGTOW is such a hissy fit. I get there are problems, but that is the most drama queen like "solution" ever.

[silverqueen]

Lol no, I mean I love being single but I also love when I really like someone and have a relationship with them.

[aficionado]

Yes, I have. Dating is a maximum investment, minimum returns preposition. I am no longer interested in it.

[Udbhav_Bantwal]

After all the heart break I have experienced, you'd think I would give up but I haven't and I never will give up... I just know that it will work out for me...

[LesterJester]

I'm married so yes... But if something were to happen in the future like death or divorce then I still wouldn't go out and seek another relationship

[CandacePerry]

Not yet but. j have my bad relationship in past. not letting any more bad guys in life. it only good guys. I have my current boyfriend for now.

[Anonymous]

My parents had a bad marriage, so I’ve always been skeptical. I tried hard for a bit and nothing planned out well so I decided maybe serious ltrs & especially marriage aren’t my thing.

[VincentLaw]

I'm only a week into my first one, I'd be pretty dumb to give up now

[scottalanmiller]

I did for a while, and that's what made it easier to actually find someone after a few years.

[Lance1965]

Yes pretty much so. It is just not worth the risk or the effort required. I still open to being with someone but she would have to be amazing for me to even consider it.

[LokiWhite]

Dating the love of my life, going to marry her. Good things happen.

[Argus14]

Give up? Hell no lol. Dating is actually pretty fun.

[Schrodingerscat]

Yes I am contemplating giving up and adopting a baby when I'm settled down.

[aceexp]

No, I've only had one but I already want to. Gonna keep trying though

[DizzyDesii]

If it doesn't work this time around. Then by 2019 i will

[kaskas19]

If something happens with the relationship I'm already in, then I most likely will give up on dating and relationships.

[Amanda__Murphy]

I'm only 18 so no.
Plus I do think there is the right person out there for everyone.

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/PDEki_FzP9k

[Dee0707]

I'm Young so I can't exactly say I gave up but I did stop trying for awhile, took a break and it leaded me in the right direction, I've become a better person.
Never give up
But it's chill to take a break

[Malita55]

No but im starting to believe there aren't any good men out there

[pervertedjester]

I have but that's because it's hard for a woman to compete with the great memory of the last one.

[ValeriusDover]

Can't give up on something you never attempted in the first place. That being said, my chances are nil with my appearance rank being 2 out of 10.

[DaDon72]

I just want to be loved and love someone to share my life with and maybe have a family. I don't know why and I feel it's weird sometimes but I just want to have my own happy family

[LegateLanius]

I've been rejected every time for
14 years. I decided to never ask someone out again.