At 45 years of age, I have been on some nice highs and some pretty miserable lows when it comes to relationships. One failed marriage, three failed long term relationships and two beautiful daughters later. I am single again. I would like to think that somewhere, sometime, within these 45 years, I have picked up a little wisdom.
I have learned that you shouldn’t ever say “never”.
I have also learned that you should not let opportunities pass you by.
Even if I know that in 5-10 years there is an 95% chance of being heart broken again. I don’t want to miss out on the blessing of love.
I have already made more than my share of bad decisions in life. I can honestly say that I have no regrets. If I knew that I would be right here, right now. I would do it exactly the same way all over again.
No matter how bad I think I messed something up. I know that God has everything under control. He will take care of me.
As a man in today's social and political climate, I have given up on marriage. It's just not a wise decision for a man anymore.
I have not given up on relationships though. That's just silly.
Many men feel the same way! Thanks for the comment.
No. I think it's ok to take a break but that's all. With all the respect, i'm against of separatism and radicalism ideologies such as MGTOW and WGTOW. Yeah dating/relationships problems excist, but i don't think MGTOW or WGTOW is the solution, I think that will only bring things worse. I think that have an chinese finger trap effect. I believe in union and construction, not the opposite. I think the solution is that men and women put ourselves in the place of the other and focus on understanding instead of attacking with the purpose of winning, defending or being right. Continue being good, because although sometimes it seems that not many people are good or dont care, the reality is that there has always been, there are and there will always be good men and women.
Well Said!
No, not given up, but i take breaks from it, as it drives me nuts otherwise lol.
If you find love a chore to give up and take break it isn't love that's a fling.
@Macdaddy905 I'm not taking a break from "love" just looking for someone in general.
Cool. Lol l thought u were saying love drives u nuts my bad.
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No. I have taken a few years off before because guys just weren't measuring up to my standards (not necessarily their fault, mind you, I tend to be picky) and to focus on my job.
After 24 years of being single, I've still not given up. I can't be bothered to make any effort either, though.
You describe my situation pretty well.
@Silver158 I don't think I am but people tell me otherwise.
I'm surprised.
@jdrrichmond Don't be. If you knew me you probably wouldn't be.
Why is that? Are you mean?
@jdrrichmond Among other things.
Gotcha.
@Silver158 Brutal honesty is kinda part of the whole mean thing.
Crazy? Violent? Evil spawn of Satan?
@jdrrichmond All would probably describe me to an extent. Depends who you ask, though.
@jdrrichmond mean girls can be fun, just spend the whole relationship insulting each other lol
Hmm... Now I'm curious. You can't be that mean...
@jdrrichmond I'm not mean to everyone. I'm just mean to people who deserve it.
Gotcha. So the question is what makes someone deserve it?
@jdrrichmond Being an asshole is a good start.
LOL. So it's pretty subjective
@jdrrichmond Of course.
I think you're fine.
Mmmmm yes and no. I'm not exactly looking right now, but not entirely closed off either. It's complicated.
I'll never give up. There is good things at the end of the tunnel.
That's not true at all, LOTS of people die heartbroken.
Banana is right :/
Shit that's sounds weird
Not yet. But its been a hard and blood war
Yes. Men are not worth the headache.
I can believe that everyone has a strong compatibility with someone in the world; it's a real challenge to find them though since it takes a lot of effort and research to understand what you're looking for in a relationship, along with finding that person with the personality type you favor. Mentally, I can believe almost everyone is wanting to be in a relationship but a lot of people either have given up or have been scarred from past relationships that's discouraged them from further pursuing a relationship. While I may be in a happy relationship, I'll never give up on providing people the advice and support they're looking for in a relationship to find out if the person they're with is truly for them or it's doomed to fail in the long run.
I'd highly encourage everyone who's single and looking for a significant other to not give up and settle for less. Love is an essential need in our lives; that one day our parents won't be around to provide that feeling we want and friends can't always be depended on since they have lives of their own. It's not to say some people don't mind solitude all the time but I can imagine even then they'll long for love as well at some point. I used to be a downer when it came to relationships since my parents got divorced along with my friends' parents who did the same thing but I have realized I am not them and that with enough dedication and hard work, I can truly find someone who'd I consider to be "My Soulmate" in which I believe I did! I honestly hope people who are single, looking for relationship continue to pursue one because it is worth your while when you find the right person!
When people have bad experiences, get hurt, or rejected they give up. But love has a funny way of coming along when you least expect it and you fall. I thought I had given up too. And honestly the man I fell for and am with now was only suppose to be a f'ck buddy because I wanted nothing to do with love and only wanted to have fun with someone. But as we had fun we got to know each other and we fell madly in love. Been together 3 years now and have committed to a life sentence. Lol! I think love happens when you aren't desperate to find it.
I did for very long time. Then I pulled a random guy across a dance floor while drunk one night, never expecting to see or speak with him again. But nearly 4 months on, we’re seeing and speaking to each other every day and he’s slowly healing the last pieces of my heart that my ex destroyed in the abusive marriage. It’s when you give up that it finds you
It's when you get old and fat and the abusive sociopaths don't want you anymore that you accept a decent man who treats you well.
@BeMeanToGirls Old and fat haha! Dude, I’m fucking hot and thin as fuck for my age and having had 5 kid’s
Omg your guy is raising another man's sperm, too?
😂😂😂 You found a nice cuck to carry you into old age. Can't say that's bad on you if HE is willing to extinct his own genes and make another man's DNA survive.
@BeMeanToGirls He doesn’t want kids of his own and I don’t want anymore. So it works out well. Don’t need a Daddy for my kids anyway. Divorce doesn’t always mean absent father
@BeMeanToGirls 5 kids... hmmmm yeah no thanks. Poor guy raising someone else's kids.. she sounds like a user while her ex is banging other women she use this guy until she finds someone else who better fits 😂😂
@Luke123456 Sure. If that’s the opinion you want to form. You’re the exact reason I won’t date younger than me. Too immature and childish. Don’t want to raise a 6th. He’s got the maturity and chooses to stay. He’s free to go if he wants to. But he doesn’t. He wanted a big family but not with the wrong woman. Now at 36 he doesn’t want to start. He’s my first since my divorce but if he wants to go I won’t stop him. But hey he chooses to stay so something is working for us 🤷🏼♀️
Sorry your childishness has still left you single. Seems the women you encounter aren’t interested in immature children
Lmao tell yourself what you want. A cuck is a cuck.
@BeMeanToGirls Well I admit I had to look up the definition. Yet neither of us are that. We aren’t even in an official relationship, at least we haven’t labelled it that. Yet neither is looking elsewhere, loyal to each other. Exactly how it should be. I’m sorry that failing to find that for yourself has made you so bitter. Perhaps if you weren’t such a dick to make up for what you lack between your thighs, you’d be able to find something good lol
Keep going. Tell me more about me.
@BeMeanToGirls Good to know my assumption was correct. Enjoy the chronically single life dude! I’ll enjoy the happy life with the amazing man I’ve waited way too long for
Jesus christ shut up.
@BeMeanToGirls No thanks. I don’t succumb to the demands of bored angry boys with tiny penises. You know they have drugs for that right? Must have been rejected by too many women to count 😂😂😂
@BeMeanToGirls I mean I’d ask if condoms come in your size but 1. I’m not interested and 2. With a dick that small and the ego of a psychopath to make up for what’s lacking, guessing you’ve never gotten the opportunity to find out cuz the women run when they can’t even see it 😂😂😂
@uruds sadly not accurate for many people I was not looking for love and it got shatterd now im done with love permanently
Yes. I gave up. I'll never find what I want so why keep trying? All I get is my heart broken and after my last break up (a year ago) I honestly don't want to do that again. I'm not loving someone that much again to have that person shatter and destroy me. I haven't even got over the pain. 😞
I'm sorry to read this, I got dumped a few days ago and I feel like crap, just focus on yourself and see what happens I guess?
I'm sorry that happened to you, but know that with time it does get better. Mine it's been a slow process but its getting less painful
Hey, it might not matter as I'm just some letters, but I hope you feel better :) keep your chin up ❤
Thanks. I hope you feel better too 🙂
So many young people saying they've given up on it.
Its sad really like i understand being independent and stuff but having a best friend and someone to help you through life is special.
I think people need to learn to grow with every break up or heart break. Its a learning experience it shouldn't alter your look on love.
Yes, and no.
I've given up on LOOKING for a romantic relationship--it was taking up too much of my time and energy that I could use elsewhere (such as hobbies, education and well, enjoying my own life). With that said, if I meet someone along the way, great, if not, I'm not going to sulk on about it like I used to, I have more interesting things to do
Yes. Completely. I pretty much decided last year I’m really not ever going to find someone, so I’ve completely closed myself off from meeting people full stop. Absolutely pointless and all I end up with is users and time wasters so what’s the point. People are selfish and are only after satisfying their needs.
Yep. It will probably never find me again. It's hard to make me feel anything since getting to know me on a personal intimate level is difficult because most people don't make me feel anything other than contempt at times.
I know I'm only 18 but a part of me has given up on love. It's not just because I've gotten my heart broken by a few guys. My entire life I've been devoid of love, growing up I didn't really feel like I was. I remember feeling like my own father hated me, sometimes he would say things that I child should never hear from a parent. Majority of my family wasn't there for me. I don't even know my own family. It just feels like nobody fights for me, most people don't make me feel loved regardless and that's just something I've learned to live with. Another part of me still has hope that I'll find someone who will love me endlessly.
I have Had my Fair and Square Share of Many Dates and Mates. I even Have a Husband out in Egypt that I had Left behind.
I am Living with another Ex who is my Bestie Friend, so for Now... Taking a small Break to focus on my writing career and Get things back in Order. xx
Yes unfortunately I have. Everytime I get myself involved with a woman, the results are still the same over & over & over again.
We meet, we get to know each other, we date for a little bit, she breaks it up for some reason (s), & as soon as I meet the next girl, the same pattern repeats.
When I meet some girl online, we agree to meet, we finally meet, we have no chemistry,... the pulse between her & I is dead.
If there might be chemistry, we go on more dates, she gives off no reaction, she gives very little to no communication, she breaks it off claiming there's no feeling,... it all has ended.
After so many tries in various ways,... you just get tired of it, there's very little to no hope at all left within you, regardless on how confident you are or seem. Then you often think,"What's the point of it all if they are all going to be like this? Fuck'em. I'm done".
Then unfortunately porn or any form of sexual lust comes into your life.
I don't know what wgtow means but I have given up just bc I dont want children. So I dont see the point in dating really , I just wanna eat nice food , workout , be good at the shit I like , get my dream job and die. Not really looking for a companion. sure I still get feelings and crushes and it stings when I can't be with them , but I can get over it pretty quickly. I've always been kind of a loner anyway so it's not anything new.
I'm shocked at all these differences of opinion. So many people that have given up on the opposite sex and others that enjoy the ride.
Personally it's sad how many "bad eggs" are out there waiting to make you feel terrible or as though you aren't like the rest and aren't destined for love. I went through the rollercoaster until I gave up on trying to date and took time to better know myself.
After you're completely satisfied with who you are and can be happy and single, that's when someone will see that individuality and confidence in being who you are. They will take you by storm and you with your newfound understanding of what you want will be overjoyed with this person and happy with them or quickly move on avoiding the hurt until you finally find what you want.
Good luck out there!
No. I've been in unhappy failed relationships. But if I'd given on them, I would never have found the love of my life. It's good to take breaks and spend time being single, but I don't believe in giving up all together on relationships
Literally I’m just done with people in general 😂😂😂😂
I took a break and then bam, this guy just waltzed into my happy single life when I least expected it. I'm falling for him.
Have I given up? No. That implies that I was already an advocate for relationships. And honestly, I’ve never cared too much for them.
I never give up on anything lmao but dating at times can be a cruel period and I am currently in that period hopefully in the future I’ll get out of it and fine someone that’s worth it but as for now🤷🏻♂️
No, not at all. Dating and relationships take a lot of time to figure things out. Just because a series of dates or a relationship doesn’t work out doesn’t warrant an “I quit - that’ll show them” response. Seems like a cop-out to me. Live and learn.
Haven’t given up completely but sometimes dating gets discouraging. Getting dates or even flings wasn’t an issue, but keeping anything long term or sealing the deal.
I’ve always found that the ones I’m into don’t want me, at least not long term or the ones who do want me I’m not into. I also refuse to settle because that does NOT make you happier.
What’s really frustrating is that I get a lot of dates only to get ghosted. It’s like how can I improve myself or know what I’m doing wrong if I never get feedback?
And I say this without the whole “I’m nice”, “all women are bitches” or “I bought them drinks, dinner, etc so I’m owed this”. It just feels like I can never do anything right sometimes.
no, I'm currently not dating due to staying with my mum as I went back to school a few years ago. Not to sound conceited but i do get attention from women, Either from women I don't find attractive, or women I do find attractive but don't approach because I think they wouldn't want me, if that makes sense?
I have never been in a relationship or on a date. At this point, I don't even want to try. I can't see myself as a father or a husband. Plus, the whole #metoo and feminism these days, I am now a MGTOW. I believe I will be happier this way. And to tell you the truth, I am happier this way. The only downside is that I have upset my parents and grandparents. They want to see me get married and have kids someday. But they just don't understand what all that is like in the 21st century.
Since you're a MGTOW: Do you hate women?
@Lady_Frost No, MGTOW don't hate women. We just don't bother dealing with them. We focus on ourselves instead of following what society expects from us.
It is good to see not all MGTOW being women haters just like not all feminists being men haters.
When you're moving on it can feel like he/she was the best thing ever happened. But over time, you'll realize there are far more better compatible soulmates out there. So I don't ever give up on dating.
You never know when you meet that one person you'll settle with for life.
No, I am in a relationship but if my boyfriend and I were to break up then I think I would just remain single and focus on myself. Anxiety and not being that great at conversation wouldn't work in my favor of dating, plus I'm not the most attractive women out there so most dudes wouldn't be checking for me anyway.
@arasuking What? I don't have whatsapp
Dating is good for the people who have hope. Usually the hope is gone if you can't even get a date
Not actively looking but not in any of those categories. Open to whichever wonderful people life sends my way whenever they are sent my way. Just focussing on building for the future. 😊
No. That whole MGTOW is such a hissy fit. I get there are problems, but that is the most drama queen like "solution" ever.
Lol no, I mean I love being single but I also love when I really like someone and have a relationship with them.
Giving up is kind of a strong word, for me it's kind of: never started... I didn't see the point of it. You go to school, get a job, wait for retirement and die afterwards. Knowing that No one will remember me, it sounds suicidal but it's not. It's how I see life, so being in a relationship would be pointless
Not yet but. j have my bad relationship in past. not letting any more bad guys in life. it only good guys. I have my current boyfriend for now.
Yes pretty much so. It is just not worth the risk or the effort required. I still open to being with someone but she would have to be amazing for me to even consider it.
Dating the love of my life, going to marry her. Good things happen.
Give up? Hell no lol. Dating is actually pretty fun.
Yes I am contemplating giving up and adopting a baby when I'm settled down.
That's a shame. You're obviously intelligent and educated. you're only 22. You have plenty of time and a lot to offer
@jdrrichmond thank you but there are a lot more to the whole thing...
You're pretty, too. I know you've had medical issues, but that won't stop someone who likes you.
What else could be the issue?
@jdrrichmond medical and some other issues is the main reason.
I know it stop anyone who likes me, but why would he like me in first place when he is getting a better option?
If he isn't shallow, he'll realize you are the better option. You have a lot to offer with that brain of yours.
@jdrrichmond awww I'm just alright but thank you :)
Maybe you have me fooled, but I've always been impressed.
If it doesn't work this time around. Then by 2019 i will
If something happens with the relationship I'm already in, then I most likely will give up on dating and relationships.
I'm only 18 so no.
Plus I do think there is the right person out there for everyone.
I hope you're right.
I'm Young so I can't exactly say I gave up but I did stop trying for awhile, took a break and it leaded me in the right direction, I've become a better person.
Never give up
But it's chill to take a break
No but im starting to believe there aren't any good men out there
I just want to be loved and love someone to share my life with and maybe have a family. I don't know why and I feel it's weird sometimes but I just want to have my own happy family
@EnocV, same for me, except im aiming for 30 now, but it doesn't look promising.
Besides, in todays society people would rather break up than work out their differences.
How do you invest in a life with someone who can't commit to a life with you.
Maybe i really should give up on relationships and dating.
I've been rejected every time for
14 years. I decided to never ask someone out again.
Well, I once met this ENTJ girl,
she was very intimidating. Gave off that "we're doing it this way, I dare you to mess around"
I was laughing inside, but I can imagine how people would be intimidated by her lol
Also, she has high standards. Needs no man. Pretty too. Even when she would be conversing socially, sometimes she comes on too strong to others. Her perfection scares people. I told her to pretend to be less perfect, she doesn't get it lol.
Almost. I haven't seen the girl I'd fancy and, let's face it, I am not getting any younger...
Too much work. Me and my boyfriend are like friends, we dont go on dates, but we can do whatever we want when were together.
I still try to get into relationships and will probably continue to, but I'm definitely pessimistic about it every time I try
No ita dating that has given up on me😂😭
Really just try to stay with friends or friends with benefits, cuz all the relationships I've been in either don't work out or they screw me over on way or another I'm done I am just going to have friends and then friends I'm going to have fun with and I ain't trying dating for awhile
I'm single but I really want a serious, longterm relationship.
You will find mr. Right don't listen to this A hole.. Everyone deserves an amazing long term partner.
I am rich. Rich that can't be seen, but can be touched. Women are cut from their body of (name your saint, for all are devine for bringing forth the truth of why we exist. And being treated illy by all. Sad. Breaks my heart. MLK here in US... i stammer) anyway, women dont recognize true richness. I give up.
No. I've had several longer single phases in my life and I was fine with them, but it's not my end goal.
Yes. Absolutely.
It's a rigged, one-sided game where the women waste all their best years on abusive sociopaths then let the worthwhile men pick up the scraps that are left when the women hit their 30s.
For now yes. Been single over 3 years and I'm more than happy. For instance, this weekend is coming up, I am free from any work obligations, and a woman hasn't filled it up with pointless crap that ruins a day off. Winner.
I'm tired of dramatic men.
I'll only have a relationship with a woman now.
Is why I become bisexual. When one side isn't working the other team is always looking. Lol
Thanks for the homophobic answer. You're such gentlemen. I meant an asshole
Yes, I have. Dating is a maximum investment, minimum returns preposition. I am no longer interested in it.
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