At 45 years of age, I have been on some nice highs and some pretty miserable lows when it comes to relationships. One failed marriage, three failed long term relationships and two beautiful daughters later. I am single again. I would like to think that somewhere, sometime, within these 45 years, I have picked up a little wisdom.
I have learned that you shouldn’t ever say “never”.
I have also learned that you should not let opportunities pass you by.
Even if I know that in 5-10 years there is an 95% chance of being heart broken again. I don’t want to miss out on the blessing of love.
I have already made more than my share of bad decisions in life. I can honestly say that I have no regrets. If I knew that I would be right here, right now. I would do it exactly the same way all over again.
No matter how bad I think I messed something up. I know that God has everything under control. He will take care of me.
As a man in today's social and political climate, I have given up on marriage. It's just not a wise decision for a man anymore.
I have not given up on relationships though. That's just silly.
No. I think it's ok to take a break but that's all. With all the respect, i'm against of separatism and radicalism ideologies such as MGTOW and WGTOW. Yeah dating/relationships problems excist, but i don't think MGTOW or WGTOW is the solution, I think that will only bring things worse. I think that have an chinese finger trap effect. I believe in union and construction, not the opposite. I think the solution is that men and women put ourselves in the place of the other and focus on understanding instead of attacking with the purpose of winning, defending or being right. Continue being good, because although sometimes it seems that not many people are good or dont care, the reality is that there has always been, there are and there will always be good men and women.
No, not given up, but i take breaks from it, as it drives me nuts otherwise lol.
No. I have taken a few years off before because guys just weren't measuring up to my standards (not necessarily their fault, mind you, I tend to be picky) and to focus on my job.
Mmmmm yes and no. I'm not exactly looking right now, but not entirely closed off either. It's complicated.
After 24 years of being single, I've still not given up. I can't be bothered to make any effort either, though.
I'll never give up. There is good things at the end of the tunnel.
Yes. Men are not worth the headache.
Not yet. But its been a hard and blood war
I can believe that everyone has a strong compatibility with someone in the world; it's a real challenge to find them though since it takes a lot of effort and research to understand what you're looking for in a relationship, along with finding that person with the personality type you favor. Mentally, I can believe almost everyone is wanting to be in a relationship but a lot of people either have given up or have been scarred from past relationships that's discouraged them from further pursuing a relationship. While I may be in a happy relationship, I'll never give up on providing people the advice and support they're looking for in a relationship to find out if the person they're with is truly for them or it's doomed to fail in the long run.
I'd highly encourage everyone who's single and looking for a significant other to not give up and settle for less. Love is an essential need in our lives; that one day our parents won't be around to provide that feeling we want and friends can't always be depended on since they have lives of their own. It's not to say some people don't mind solitude all the time but I can imagine even then they'll long for love as well at some point. I used to be a downer when it came to relationships since my parents got divorced along with my friends' parents who did the same thing but I have realized I am not them and that with enough dedication and hard work, I can truly find someone who'd I consider to be "My Soulmate" in which I believe I did! I honestly hope people who are single, looking for relationship continue to pursue one because it is worth your while when you find the right person!
When people have bad experiences, get hurt, or rejected they give up. But love has a funny way of coming along when you least expect it and you fall. I thought I had given up too. And honestly the man I fell for and am with now was only suppose to be a f'ck buddy because I wanted nothing to do with love and only wanted to have fun with someone. But as we had fun we got to know each other and we fell madly in love. Been together 3 years now and have committed to a life sentence. Lol! I think love happens when you aren't desperate to find it.
I know I'm only 18 but a part of me has given up on love. It's not just because I've gotten my heart broken by a few guys. My entire life I've been devoid of love, growing up I didn't really feel like I was. I remember feeling like my own father hated me, sometimes he would say things that I child should never hear from a parent. Majority of my family wasn't there for me. I don't even know my own family. It just feels like nobody fights for me, most people don't make me feel loved regardless and that's just something I've learned to live with. Another part of me still has hope that I'll find someone who will love me endlessly.
I did for very long time. Then I pulled a random guy across a dance floor while drunk one night, never expecting to see or speak with him again. But nearly 4 months on, we’re seeing and speaking to each other every day and he’s slowly healing the last pieces of my heart that my ex destroyed in the abusive marriage. It’s when you give up that it finds you
Yes. I gave up. I'll never find what I want so why keep trying? All I get is my heart broken and after my last break up (a year ago) I honestly don't want to do that again. I'm not loving someone that much again to have that person shatter and destroy me. I haven't even got over the pain. 😞
So many young people saying they've given up on it.
Its sad really like i understand being independent and stuff but having a best friend and someone to help you through life is special.
I think people need to learn to grow with every break up or heart break. Its a learning experience it shouldn't alter your look on love.
Haven’t given up completely but sometimes dating gets discouraging. Getting dates or even flings wasn’t an issue, but keeping anything long term or sealing the deal.
I’ve always found that the ones I’m into don’t want me, at least not long term or the ones who do want me I’m not into. I also refuse to settle because that does NOT make you happier.
What’s really frustrating is that I get a lot of dates only to get ghosted. It’s like how can I improve myself or know what I’m doing wrong if I never get feedback?
And I say this without the whole “I’m nice”, “all women are bitches” or “I bought them drinks, dinner, etc so I’m owed this”. It just feels like I can never do anything right sometimes.
Yes, and no.
I've given up on LOOKING for a romantic relationship--it was taking up too much of my time and energy that I could use elsewhere (such as hobbies, education and well, enjoying my own life). With that said, if I meet someone along the way, great, if not, I'm not going to sulk on about it like I used to, I have more interesting things to do
Yes. Completely. I pretty much decided last year I’m really not ever going to find someone, so I’ve completely closed myself off from meeting people full stop. Absolutely pointless and all I end up with is users and time wasters so what’s the point. People are selfish and are only after satisfying their needs.
Yep. It will probably never find me again. It's hard to make me feel anything since getting to know me on a personal intimate level is difficult because most people don't make me feel anything other than contempt at times.
I have never been in a relationship or on a date. At this point, I don't even want to try. I can't see myself as a father or a husband. Plus, the whole #metoo and feminism these days, I am now a MGTOW. I believe I will be happier this way. And to tell you the truth, I am happier this way. The only downside is that I have upset my parents and grandparents. They want to see me get married and have kids someday. But they just don't understand what all that is like in the 21st century.
@Lady_Frost No, MGTOW don't hate women. We just don't bother dealing with them. We focus on ourselves instead of following what society expects from us.
When you're moving on it can feel like he/she was the best thing ever happened. But over time, you'll realize there are far more better compatible soulmates out there. So I don't ever give up on dating.
You never know when you meet that one person you'll settle with for life.
No, I am in a relationship but if my boyfriend and I were to break up then I think I would just remain single and focus on myself. Anxiety and not being that great at conversation wouldn't work in my favor of dating, plus I'm not the most attractive women out there so most dudes wouldn't be checking for me anyway.
I have Had my Fair and Square Share of Many Dates and Mates. I even Have a Husband out in Egypt that I had Left behind.
I am Living with another Ex who is my Bestie Friend, so for Now... Taking a small Break to focus on my writing career and Get things back in Order. xx
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