Have you given up on dating?

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Why or why not?

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Oh I gave up on dating years ago. Sorry, but dating nowadays is terrible, especially for people looking for REAL, meaningful relationships- those kind of relationships are fleeting and are harder to find due to: fwbs, situationships, wishy-washy people that don't know what they want in a relationships, and people that are hurt or not healed from past relationships trying to date and hurting others in the process.

Nah, I've over it. Gave up in my late 20s/early 30s after being ghosted, friendzoned, sisterzoned, and rejected more times than I care to admit... yet always being the girl friend to all those same people that would run to me when they needed dating advice or had issues with women, but didn't like me in a romantic sense.

Yes, rejection is a part of the dating process. But as a human, you can only take so much rejection before it hurts your self esteem and confidence and you start to ask yourself, "Is it really worth it putting myself through this hell and for what? Something that may or may not last in the long run?"

So I gave up on dating. I focused on getting in shape to improve my confidence and looks- I'm currently the smallest weight I've been in years and have muscle and definition. I work hard at my job. Have a good degree. And not to brag, but am fairly respected by my peers and friends-

I think I'm doing better now than when I was trying to get in a relationship, as bad as that sounds.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

No, I have not given up on dating but simply I don't date, never have and don't plan on dating.

My reason is that I am not interested in dating at all since I have set my life priorities elsewhere. I am studying and my education takes precedence over anything else. I have a goal to reach and I will not let anything divert my attention from achieving this goal.

Once I have my degree in my pocket (for which I work very hard) and that I have had a number of years working, I can always give a second thought about dating when I am 40+ but certainly not before.

I enjoy being single and I see so many people having nothing but problems being in a relationship that it does not entice me to join them.

BCA6010 · Accepted Answer

Pretty much, though I'd say "no longer actively looking" instead.

The main reason is because all of the good relationships I had were with women I met just by happenstance, while all met through dating apps have ultimately just been looking for hookups regardless of what they may have said at first.

I'll say this though: I should've taken the serious girls more seriously when I was younger, because they become increasingly rare with age as they find someone and move on.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Yes, because I am getting married on April 27. However, before I met my fiancée, I was regularly dating using online sites. I have never given up on looking for love.

If you give up, it is not "dating" that has failed you. You have failed yourself.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I've given up on dating Westernized women. There's just too much pain, baggage, and general head trash associated with so many of them.

Dating was never a great experience, but it should never be as unpleasant as it has become. It feels like so much of modern dating has devolved into signing up to be someone's meal ticket and emotional punching bag.

It's tough to get excited about finding a good partner when you're basically guaranteed to encounter so much of everything else.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I will at age 32 😄😈🤭 that's my retirement from dating age 👀😃😋😈 if the devil still hasn't allowed me to keep my health, happiness and score and good fortune while simultaneously banging a hot chick for a girlfriend. Oh well. I can't have it all 👀😈😋 and I choose me and family before any chick. Forget em 👀😬

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have never given up on anything that I wanted. I follow my dreams and I have no time for quitters.

DreamLife7 · Answer

What I've noticed is that a lot of people on gag hate themselves ;as a result, they're desperately looking for someone to fill their void. The opposite sex isn't responsible for that and shouldn't be responsible for your lack of self esteem and happiness. Get therapy

Anonymous · Answer

No. But I give it the attention it deserves, I give the women the attention they have EARNED. Close mouths don't get fed. I didn't get a degree in dentistry. If she wants unbridled attention she can go buy a dog. At this age women aren't that pleasant looking anymore. If she has a 💩 personality then what is the draw really?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, gave up years ago. Too old, too broke, not attractive enough, not financially secure, nothing to bring to the table. Plus my ex wife hurt me too bad and put a bad taste in my mouth for women. My ship came in and went back out, I missed the fuckin boat.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No. I’ve never had any real problems with dating. I have a boyfriend rn, but I expect that if we break up I’ll be able to date in college without too many problems too.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Yes. 9 years ago. And I’m honestly glad I gave up on dating and relationships. I’m happier now than I ever was in a relationship. I get to live my life on my own terms. I don’t have to be forced to do anything for anyone other than myself.

82lynx · Answer

Never started, don’t regret it. I often think it’s a damn good thing I’m asexual because that renders the enemy’s primary weapon useless against me.

JacobJordan · Answer

I am married. That being said no I wouldn't give up on it if I wasn't. I would just proceed very very carefully and likely not with a western woman

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

Dating sucks and reading/listening to inner thoughts being voiced online definitely would make a very strong case for choosing not to date. However, I still choose to believe life gets better when you find someone to spend your time with.

cth2188 · Answer

Yes I did 16 years ago it's over sexualized and toxic to date... I don't think I'll find anyone worth dealing with

Anonymous · Answer

I am still looking around but I am just not gung ho about sticking my neck out for western women. Few of them have any respect for what it is really like. I got plans to travel.

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

Yes. Because I’m interesting women and women aren’t interested in me being that I’m trans.

JHAYES317 · Answer

Probably should since I get virtually no matches on dating apps or in speed dating but I’m too stubborn to admit that maybe it’s just not meant to be for me

Chelsdope0 · Answer

Fuck yes. I hate men. Can’t trust them. They’ll hurt you in the end.

Unit1 · Answer

Yeah, it's taking too much effort for absolutely no results quite literally. It feels like a waste of time.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

A little. I already found the girl I want to marry, I just need to seduce her and convince her that we can make it work

laly520 · Answer

yes no need to date anymore when being engaged

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nope. Why would I? All the guys who quit just make my odds of getting dates better.

grega239 · Answer

Pretty much.  Women dont like me so why waste my time

John_And_Elijah · Answer

I mean... No, but I do hate most people, which kind of rules out my options.

Willoughby23 · Answer

Yes the process of finding someone to date is just too shitty to take part in and even when successful most partners are terrible.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely, I dabbled with it when I was 18/19 but after no success just gave it up

NathanDavis · Answer

no reason to, never been a problem at all

Fireguy17 · Answer

Yes. My wife prefers that I don't date.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Not yet.. so far so good

zagor · Answer

Yeah I'm thinking I'm done with all that.

JayBones2469 · Answer

Yes. Long ago. Because women are trash.

Jay-_- · Answer

Kind of yes

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