Is complacency fixable?

[Anonymous]

"Complacency is a level of comfort whereby you don't feel like you need to actively put in extra effort to keep the relationship afloat" -The Knot
Is it normal for a partner to become complacent after some time? What should you do if your partner gets complacent and is there hope they’ll ever stay incomplacent.

[AmandaYVR]

It is an immutable law of relationships that women want more from their men, and men want their women to accept them as they are.

You should do some serious thinking about that, and not just fixate on all the things he isn't doing that you want him to do. If you ask him, he will push back, right? And you will go over each item, point by point, trying to argue who is more entitled to get their way.

If you want to be in relationships with men, odds are you're going to have to compromise more, and lower your expectations more.

However, do you have to put up with the "piss-stained pants" man who drinks root beer floats and milkshakes all day? Hell no, you absolutely do not. You dump his ass on the curb and find yourself a better man, one who is willing to keep trying. Relationships take effort. But don't ask for too much effort, or you'll never keep one. (Relationship or man.)

[Anonymous]

Emphasis on the word Extra. I think the best way to avoid complacency is for your partner to not do Extra in the first place IF it’s not a genuine trait of theirs. Too often people will give you the version of themselves that they think you’ll respond to best, like good morning/good night texts, lots of dates and love-bombing, things like that. Then once they’re comfortable, they take the mask off and show their true selves, aka being complacent. If people like that were authentic from the start, then there won’t be any issues going forward because their partner wasn’t blindsided by a fake persona.

[Anonymous]

Listen, I fucking love my girlfriend but now that we're together it's my right to drink milkshakes and root beer floats all fucking day. If I want to be fat and wear piss stained pants she should sit beside me an shut the fuck up. My ME TIME is is none of her fucking business.

[Jdjfjcjj]

It's normal to get complacent at times. If it starts affecting one partner, then they should communicate their needs aren't being met. They should also consider if their partners needs aren't being met either. If nothing changes, then you need to decide what's best for you

[SlothySlob]

You express your discomfort to your partner through conversation and display the type of affection you wish to receive by giving said affection to them first.