What does this mean in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

To be with the girl I’m with she said i had to unfollow every single girl on social media and take down all my pictures to make her secure in the relationship. I never cheated, i never entertained other woman, she just said it would make her secure so i did it. Yesterday before i leave i tell her I’m going to watch the football game with my friends and she gets mad i didn’t tell her an hr before i left. I told her before i left where i was going it just wasn’t early enough for her. What do i do

[Bethany22]

I don't know how long you've been going out, but just be consistently punctual, initiate activities with her at least once a week on the same day each week, don't even look at women when she's around, and eventually she might become more secure. It might take a long time though.

[Asker]

I go out once a week on thursdays to watch football with my guys. I go out once a week.

[481632]

Sounds like she's insecure and controlling. This will probably lead to being manipulative as well. Tread carefully. I have witnessed an insecure partner learn to trust and enjoy a happy marriage. My friend put up with his insecurity and volunteered to install a tracking app on her phone. They had dated each other 20 years previously and she knew him to be a trusting, caring and easygoing individual. His insecurities came from lying, cheating, gold diggers he had relationships with during the 20 years they were apart. He eventually realized that my friend was honest and trustworthy. The woman he had known from his past.

I realize this story is not the norm but it can happen. How well do you know her and how far down this rabbit hole are you prepared to go? Rarely does this type of relationship end well.

[boggboss]

Thats your with a insecure women and ahe will continue to push the line so she is comfortable until it destroys your relationship as nothing u can do will make her secure as she in entertaining her insecurities thats she required u to do that shows she dont trust u

[mobiusforniner]

Um dude this is not healthy. Like, at all. She is extremely insecure.

[Summeroflove]

She can’t control you. Plus if you follow women on social media other then for sexual purposes. Nothing wrong with it.


Maybe you’re both not a good fit. Even unfollow your family members who are girls? Even fiends you known for a long time?

Yikes. Yeah dude she doesn’t control you. I’d she wants to leave. Let her leave

[AmandaYVR]

She's really psychologically unhealthy. This will not go well. Waste of time, probably.

Refuse her demands on the social media. It's her problem, not you.

[Immie85]

Sounds a bit controlling and manipulative. Is there a reason like previous hurts or something. It’s her issue but you might need to go along with it. By being caring and trying to understand her reasoning might in the long run deepen the bond between you two.

[tzdc21]

This girl sounds like a walking red flag. You said it yourself, she's insecure. What do you do? Walk away. Don't deal with her, because it's gonna cause more problems for you down the road.

[Horse-girl]

She's insecure, maybe she has had a bad experience with dating before. Show her she can trust you and hopefully you'll have a great relationship out of it. Good luck x

[boobliker]

I would not do that unless she is the one you want to be a keeper, and as you are asking us here what we would do, I would say she is not a keeper!!

[Straight2thepoint]

That's a toxic chick. Time to walk away bud. This is a nightmare.

[aaron210419]

this is a major red flag, say thanks but no thanks. respect yourself

[LazerBean]

Sounds like she's a long term pain in the ass.

[Asker]

She told me i August if i unfollowed every single girl on my socials the relationship will be better and she’ll feel more secure. Fast forward a month she gets upset i wore a wife beater to the gym mind you she wears booty shorts to the gym. Fast forward to 2 days ago she said i had to delete every picture on my socials to make the relationship work. Fast forward to today, she said i don’t validate her feelings cause i saw nothing wrong with telling her where i was going 10 mins before i left rather than when i first knew (we had no plans together). She says i don’t respect, hear, or validate what she says and ended things

[Gagname]

Question Asker
What more unhealthy things do you need to see from her to realize “She is wrong for me”?

[In_Trance]

toxic femininity. Dump her

[Passing_by]

She sounds to be a little too insecure.