Why are the people that give advice for relationships single and not married?

[Justneedtokno]

[caring__1]

Is that also saying there should be no male OB/GYNs? Should all morticians quit... because they've never been dead? Should people not believe in religion if they've never actually taken a selfie with God? A person doesn't need to be married to be experienced in relationships, and just because someone isn't married now doesn't mean they've never experienced the institution.

Sometimes, the more you know about a subject, the less likely you are to settle. It's easy to settle when you don't know what you have to choose from. The more you know, the more you understand what works or doesn't for you. Otherwise, it's just a toss of the dice and hope for the best. No one is forcing you to accept anything people share. I'm sure there are many things you read here that holds no meaning for you.

What is most helpful is when what you hear from others sparks a thought process within you that gives deeper meaning to whatever you are focusing on. The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Two people can brainstorm together, sparking new ideas in both and allowing awareness to exist that neither would have come up with alone. It's not that others know what's best for you, but hopefully their words can broaden your perspective so you can see what truly makes sense to you. A different perspective can totally change your reality.

For instance, could you imagine this Chupacabra as your pet? Would a different perspective help change your mind?

Chupacabra

[caring__1]

In case you're interested in a different perspective, turn the picture 90°.

[NathanDavis]

that's why I offer perspective and share experiences, I do NOT give relationships advice... and then the listeners are free to consider that perspective/experiences or just not

but other than that, marriage is not the only relationships that exist... also, just because you are married does not mean that you already know it all or know it better than everyone, nor that you no longer need advice... and on the similar note, it is not like so many important aspects of a marriage/relationship are completely different from the not married yet/relationships... in many cases, these things are basically or even mostly the same

[Aerissa_Jade]

They might have been in a relationship and failed and learned from it, now they have advice to share.

They also might know people who've had great relationships that they've observed and sharing that perspective rather than their own.

Although I do have to laugh when a Incel gives relationship advice without ever having been in a relationship.

[Desconhecida]

Relationship status has nothing to do with clarity. The easiest problem to solve is somebody else's - not our own. Being impartial to the situation is what helps since not all committed person is happy.

[Justneedtokno]

I’m not gonna break them up just because of my own satisfaction. And who knows if he’s good for me

[Desconhecida]

Uh? 🤔

[Justneedtokno]

I replied to the wrong response. I do agree with you

[Desconhecida]

LOL no problem 😊

[Summeroflove]

Maybe the reason you posted in the photo. Some have been in relationships some don’t post their real status or irs outdated.

the list goes on

[bamesjond0069]

Because they are smart. In today's society almost nobody is marriage material.

Married people's advice generally boils down to, accept people suck so bad they are terrible and then your marriage can work. Lmao. Every married man I've ever talked to basically is a pure simp and that's how they suggest to make a marriage work. Wtf?

Or those married people end up divorced and how is their advice any good then? Especially when us single people called in the divorce the second we heard about the proposal. Lmao.

[inhua]

it's not about the person giving the advice but more so the content of the advice itself.

sure there are people in this world you are gonna dislike but if they say something that is true, are you just gonna discredit them just because of who/what they are?

[Sixgunsound]

People come after what I say because they have personal issues with me all the time, what are you talking about?

[inhua]

@Sixgunsound that depends on how true and helpful your advice is. there's always gonna be idiots who come after you regardless of what you say.

[Sixgunsound]

I think everyone has avoided helpful information. They don’t want to hear at some point.

[SnowedIn]

But just because they are single doesn't meant that all the advice is suspect or bad. If a single person has a bad relationship that doesn't end in marriage and they realize that communication is important and they offer that advice, that's still good advice.

If your question really is literally why are all the folks on this site who offer advice, single, I'd say first that I don't know and second that many, many of the people offering advice are married.

[likelyOK]

People can still give good advice even if it’s from mistakes or more often than not it can be an outside perspective. When your feelings are involved sometimes people ignore things in front of them.

[BeMuse]

The more you are tested with different people/relationships the more you learn. Everyone has their own idiosyncrasies. If you get married young to someone like your high school sweetheart, you really only know the person you are with. That's not bad thing... If you are happy together and know each other well then good for you. You just haven't been challenged by as many different scenarios as people that make the rounds.

[BeMuse]

Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted. And experience is often the most valuable thing you have to offer...

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

All the people everywhere are really good observers. Some are even helpful observers.

But people cannot, do not find any or choose to not make the necessary modifications in their lives.

Giving advice to others is really easy, but taking something, surprisingly, is difficult.

This is why, I think, we see far too many questions and opinions as compared to myTakes on this website.

[LazerBean]

It seems to me like a lot of people think that them having been in many relationships gives them good relationship knowledge. Personally, I think having a history of many failed relationships, if anything, makes their advice less credible.

[Sixgunsound]

I still think you should offer to start taking clients as a relationship coach. A coach is not a therapist, and doesn’t need expensive credentials that take unreasonably long to get.

[LazerBean]

Lol thanks, I appreciate that. I try avoid problematic people and their drama in real life though.

[Sixgunsound]

You’re doing it for free here, you may as well get paid for it!

[xJeremyx]

Because they can see things that the people in relationships cannot.

Their POV is the clearest.

旁观者清。

[Jamie05rhs]

Because we know how bad it is. So we avoid the traps.

Most people who are in relationships are in subpar relationships. Because they jumped in without thinking. Because they wanted to be in a relationship.

[FilmGuy93]

I'd rather take advice from someone who is alone but happy, than someone who is entangled but fucking miserable.

[Andres77]

Maybe because they didn’t compromise standards and get married when they weren’t ready.

just a possibility

[20yearsolder]

I've been in a relationship for 35 years, still in it. I give advice daily

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it is funny to me that people on here that talk like total know-it-alls are single or, even worse, virgins.

[OddBeMe]

I’m married, but give dating advice. I think we like offering opinions.
but yeah, we like to speak on things we think we know about.

[TrueConfection]

I guess they know what NOT to do?

[Jamie05rhs]

Correct!! 🎯

[ronaldo75]

How many Super Bowl coaches do you see on the field? Exactly.

[melanieeeB]

Coaches don't play lmao

[Sixgunsound]

I’ve been married over 10 years.

[Havthrills]

Very good point.

[legalboxers]

one of lifes mysteries

[msc545]

They are smart!

[dustybiker]

I laugh at that too.

[Jennz6]

Yea probably

[Dlickel]

Right!