Girls, which of the following is the biggest red flag in a partner?

[na2398]

I am quite stoked to know what's your opinion. Do leave your valuable opinions in the comments and vote. Thank you. :)

Toxic masculinity

Toxic habits such as excessive smoking/drinking/drugs abuse

Guys not understanding your emotions

Objectification

Gaslighting and ghosting

A few childish habits like playing with toys, sleeping with teddies, etc

Other (please comment below)

[Kori1236]

Do I only get to choose one. Because the top 3 red flags for me is gaslighting, I don’t tolerate excessive drug use or at all (I suppose weed is fine given I occasionally have an edible or hoot) and probably toxic masculinity.


Others like having childlike tendencies I see nothing wrong with providing they’re not extreme. And not understanding emotions isn’t a huge deal as long as he makes an attempt

[Anonymous]

Jealousy and selfishness - Well, those are toxic traits

I chose these cos most of the cases where people in a relationship are murdered by their partner is cos of jealousy (and probably selfishness also, cos they don't even have empathy)

And yeah, I know. I went over a bit xD

[irifebeck]

All of these are pretty big red flags to me, I can't decide on just one. I had a boyfriend who had a drug problem and it's really really not pretty.

[na2398]

I understand what you mean and am really sorry you had to face that. You think sleeping with toys such as teddies is a dealbreaker?

[irifebeck]

I didn't even notice that one, no that's not a dealbreaker. I think people who don't sleep with plush toys or teddy bears are creepy or if they have too many and a weird obsession then that's creepy haha.

[Lowiu]

I had to pick one but they all but the last one are reasons to run

[na2398]

I think they all are red flags except the last one too. Glad to know you're fine with your partner sleeping and playing with toys sometimes. 😊 I don't count it as a red flag but added it because some people do. Have a splendid weekend, miss. 😊

[Lowiu]

It depends to what extend but like he's allowed to have fun of course

[na2398]

Of course not playing with them all the time but if it's seldom, it's a way to have fun as you said. :) That said, do you have any toys like teddies you play with?

[Lowiu]

I have a stuffed animal from my childhood still at our bed but I didn't realy keep any other toys

[na2398]

Do you sleep while hugging it though? 😊

[Lowiu]

Not if he's home

[na2398]

Interesting. I hope he doesn't find this a dealbreaker because it isn't, honestly. 😊

[Lowiu]

No its only that if he's home I dont want anything between us when we cuddle

[na2398]

True that haha 😂 😂 Greetings from India. :) If you don't mind, can we connect as friends? 😊

[Sorrento-Sun]

Ghosting and gastlightung because those of signs he's probably a narcissist. And they are the worst type of people to be in a relationship with. It can take years to recover from their abuse.

[EmmaMary]

All are as bad as each other.

[na2398]

You think sleeping with teddies and stuff is toxic?

[EmmaMary]

Perhaps not toxic, but extremely disturbing indeed.

[na2398]

Can you elaborate on how it's extremely disturbing?

[EmmaMary]

Other than it being some downright ridiculous fetish, just why the hell would a grown man wish to sleep with teddies instead of his girlfriend or wife?

[na2398]

Okay, but how about one or two toys that are on his shelf and he seldomly plays with them for fun? Now there's nothing in between them while sleeping

[EmmaMary]

Please do try and explain this fetish that you very obviously have.

[na2398]

You got me wrong altogether. If guys play with some toys and video games, that's a fetish. Well done! 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻

[EmmaMary]

You still haven't answered my question, however thank you for your sarcastic remark, it's very much appreciated.

Please do take care, stay safe and have a nice day.

Goodbye.

[na2398]

Having fun during leisure time=fetish. There I answered it. 👏🏻 👏🏻

[whereismyjohnny]

All of them.