Do you track your SO?

[Havthrills]

I was talking with my masseuse and she said that her friends think it's odd she don't track her husband. Apparently they check their phone to see where their husband is. Anyone else do this and why?

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I'm asking just your SO. Not a family tracker.

[Rosexøxø]

I don’t track mine because before being mine, he is a free: human/person/individual.

Secondly, I trust his love/affection for me, and his choosing me. I’m not worried, at all, that he will choose anyone else.

Finally, if it’s for safety… well, I trust his decision-making, also. He’s very independent. He’s witty. I know that he is quite able, of problem solving and taking on any difficulty he faces, or the difficulties/dangers others face whom he works/associates with.

So in all honesty:

I trust his decision making/ judgement.

I trust his love/devotion.

What am I tracking, that is already there?

Now, if it’s like Amazon- waiting for him to come home or something… yeah, that’s one other reason for tracking, but I live my life, as he lives his, when we are needed elsewhere and we’re both knowing, confident, and peaceful in the fact, we’ll reunite at the end of the day.

So I’m not bored or lonely because I have him and I have life, lol

It can be difficult and it’s understandable for others. My sister tracks her boyfriend, and he supposedly does the same? Maybe not as much?

It can be concern of losing the one you love, or their love for you. Can be anxiety of waiting for their return, to be with them.

It’s just not healthy- concern or constant worrying, when there is not much that can be done in any situation that ends up establishing itself. A person can only work with the ‘after affects,’ or plan together, to prevent any negative situations.

Trust is just super fundamental and essential in a healthy relationship, and for a person’s own peace of mind.

You’re in love. Something should be added to your life. Enhancing it.. not stressing a person. No one falls in love to have more worries.

But to have more passion, gratitude, understanding, and memories..

[Havthrills]

Great explanation

[Rosexøxø]

Thanks a bunch 😁🤜🤛

[petitedollbabee]

I think it’s weird to track your partner unless they specifically ask you to. That’s a breach of privacy and lack of trust, if there’s no trust in a relationship then what’s the point?

[Havthrills]

Very much agree. No trust would make a very difficult relationship. I wonder how many of them know that their SO is tracking them.

[kylee2437]

Why is it weird that she trusts her husband not to track him? Lol back in the day, you just waited for your husband to get home. Some stuff is not necessary in relationships and I think letting your SO have their own space and life is great

[Havthrills]

Right? Before cell phones, that was never possible.

[kylee2437]

@havthrills yes people tend to use this idea to be harmful way more than they don’t. Feeling anxious when your partner is somewhere they usually aren’t when they can literally just out shopping or somewhere taking a mental break. It’s just unnecessary

[Havthrills]

I agree it is. It seems controlling

[kylee2437]

@Havthrills it is controlling. My abusive ex used to use it against me and even thought I was out with another guy after he initiated a break up. I was just at the beach clearing my head. Another one of my exes had us both do it and he was at his work place cheating on me still even though his location seemed innocent

[Havthrills]

I had an ex girlfriend that did that to cheat on me also. The bad part at the end, she wanted to see my phone and went through it. She got mad when I asked to see hers. Lol

[kylee2437]

@havthrills that always how it happens. They project what they are doing onto their partners.

[Havthrills]

That really sucks. Hurts too when you find out.

[kylee2437]

Absolutely does, but for the better because now you don’t have to waste anymore time on them

[Guy13]

I know people who track their "own' via phone and automobile. I know people who can walk into Space and detect all the cameras... Etc. Even i on my cell have means to detect whether the "one-nightstand" could turn into unknowing Livestream...

Our lives are literally one Main Breaker Flip or one Electromagnetic missile/bomb from being DARK...

[AviatorTom]

Nope, I would never think of tracking my SO. She usually tells me where she goes, which isn't really necessary, but it's nice. She's a grown woman and can take care of herself, and we trust each other.

Someone who would track their SO is a person who is very insecure in their relationship, and probably a control freak.

[Apple1996]

Nah but I've thought about it just so I know when my husband will be home

[Havthrills]

Wondering when he will be home at times is good if you're wanting to surprise him with something special or cooking a meal.

[Apple1996]

Not even that more just cuz I'm waiting on him to help me with the kids

[Maybe_1day]

I wish I can clear out my insecurities in this area. When I mean insecurities, I don't mean I don't trust her. The trust is full. My insecurity is that I feel like why am I sometimes ignored when I clearly know she does come online. I know she has her own space etc etc. And she has a right to spend time with her friends too. My only issue is why am I ignored sometimes, or not texted? I know it's a bad insecurity and I need to work on myself, but believe me it's not easy when u love so much.
Back to the question, I've only used whatsdogg app to track her online offline times. This was because I wanted to know was she really not online, or is it that I was deliberately ignored. It's still bad believe me. As she's taking her space now and this habit is not making me any healthy.

[flautistnaturist]

A more noticeable question, to me, is not do you track another, but rather, do you track the tracking of others, of you? Has it really not occurred to everyone to just go into a mass, persistent, as high priority, stare-down with all these security cameras all over these days? If the common citizenry aren't fit, in just a by the way mode, to surveil for potential threats among us, is it not a bit of a farce to consider us sound enough to responsibly participate in voting in popular elections?

[Jdjfjcjj]

I'm going to guess that you find your "massage therapist", they don't like to be called masseuse, an attractive woman. Why else would you carry on a conversation when the goal is become relaxed, shut down your brain, and not have to think about what she saying, what you should say, etc.

If she brought up the conversation though, then maybe her husband should track her since she seems to be getting overly personal with her clients.

[Havthrills]

I brought it up. She is pretty but I'm not into her that way. Also, I have almost 0 filters so I will say anything. I mentioned it cause of something from my past I thought of.

[Jdjfjcjj]

My comment is actually rooted in experience. After a couple of sessions, I asked her out and we ended up dating for a while. Previously, I hadn't conversed with any other massage therapists

[Havthrills]

That's cool. I haven't planned on it or thought of it. Lol. She's married too. This is my first actual massage therapist. I used to go once in a while to different places.

[Strangerdanger2120]

Yes and no. I haven't done it recently but done it in the past.

My father cheated on my mom and it left me with trust issues. Lately with my current partner I haven't had that worry. He was kind and understanding (although annoyed) when we first went out and I'd check his phone, computer and all his electronics. Now we've been together for 5 years and I don't have a worry so I don't check.

[Havthrills]

I have been cheated on before but I still wouldn't track anyone. That just means no trust at all. Seems people just don't want to ask first.

[Anonymous]

yes some women actually does that and the main reason I think is that, they don't trust their husband because they cheated multiple times in the relationship, I know someone who caught their partner many times and just ends up forgiving them because their husband promised not to do it again, that's why they track every single thing.

[Havthrills]

If it has happened before, that's understandable. I wouldn't be so forgiving. What sucked is finding out after we separated that she cheated.

[Opinion Owner]

that's true, violence in any kind of form and cheating is a no for me. wouldn't give anyone a second chance.

[TT1227]

I’m my opinion I think it just depends on their situation. A friend of mine has her husbands location because he’s a police officer and there was a time he wasn’t home for hours because of work. She just worries about his safety etc. Sometimes couples track each other I think simply for safety because you never know nowadays. If it’s for reasons such as not trusting that person etc then that’s a problem.

[LazerBean]

We have life 360, so we can always see where everyone in our family is. Makes estimating when to cook lunch and dinner a lot easier, and also we occasionally have to use it to find someones phone.

[LazerBean]

Also we have crash alerts so it has multiple safety practical uses.

[Havthrills]

I've heard of that. But tracking a whole family vs tracking just the husband is different.

[menina]

I'm single. However, if I was in a relationship I wouldn't track my SO. That sounds creepy and disrespectful to me.

[Havthrills]

It really is. I'm going to ask another question that kind of goes along with this one.

[menina]

I'm glad you agree with me. I would like to see it.

[viaamtrak]

IF her friends are that lacking in trust, maybe they should have a chip implanted into him like the veterinarians so with dogs and cats...

[Havthrills]

They were supposed to have that but for the back of your hand. Track the people and you could scan it over a pay device for paying for items.

[sage2021]

How do you track your SO? I'm sure other people would like to know this too.

[Havthrills]

Through phone apps. Checking on phone calls, texts, and map locations.

[Anonymous]

my whole family tracks each other so to me it’s just normal keeping tabs for safety

[Havthrills]

That's different. Tracking the family vs tracking just the husband.

[Opinion Owner]

if they do it obsessively then it’s weird. if they do it for kicks just to see where he is on the road or how long it’ll take for him to get home from where he is (which is what i do with my family and they do with me), then no harm in that

[Havthrills]

I wonder which one it is. I also wonder how many track every movement.

[Opinion Owner]

scary huh

[Havthrills]

It is.

[Anonymous]

My now-ex boyfriend admitted to me that before we were together he would basically stalk me and take pictures of me without me even knowing 😭

[Havthrills]

That's kind of creepy.

[Anonymous]

Wtf? Do You know how fucked up that is? Who the fuck does sick shit like that? Go get yourself some fucking help you fucking weirdo. Fucking creepy ass stalker

[Havthrills]

Apparently some people do.

[KrakenAttackin]

Almost every women does this if for no reason than to make their own cheating easier.

[Havthrills]

I had two exs that did that. Lol

[FunkyMonkee]

No, I don't have a girlfriend or a cell phone and I'm not insecure so, I don't care where she is, as long as she's safe and loyal.

[SnowedIn]

I would never do that. That's just wrong on so many levels.

[annabananna]

No I don’t do that. I guess the only time that would come I handy is if he gets kidnapped and I highly doubt that will happen.

[Anonymous]

I would track my SO to make sure he isn't being unfaithful

[Havthrills]

So you don't trust him? Has he given you reason to track him?

[bolverk]

No, My SO's are in the past, I feel no need to to 'track' them.

[admles]

No, and if I ever found out my S. O. was tracking me we’d be having a long discussion as to why I shouldn’t break up with her,

[Minahh]

Nah that's creepy. If you have to do that, you already don't trust them.

[worldscolide]

No, why would I want to track someone I trust?

[Havthrills]

So true.

[Agape93]

Fuck no

[LovingJo]

No..

[Andres77]

nope...

[TroyDT2]

No...

[In_Trance]

never