Chased my ex. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I dated awhile ago for 3 years. We broke up cause I was away for university, but we’ve had periods of no contact and then someone would reach out and we always come back to one another. This time I feel like I made myself look kinda crazy lol. I kinda got annoyed at him when he randomly didn’t message me one day, and when I texted him again, he said he wasn’t in the mood to speak to anyone. We both suck at texting to begin with so this just makes things worse. Currently I’m in medical school and he works so it makes communicating worse. I feel like I was chasing him when I message him again after he wouldn’t respond, partly because I also wanted to make sure he was doing okay (from past experience). Regardless I feel like I chased him and I don’t feel too good about that. We haven’t talked for 2ish weeks now and I’m currently not even in the same city as him as I would only be back by Christmas. Obviously, I want him to reach out to me but did I make myself look kinda pushy? Is there anything I should do now?

[Man-O-Metal]

Yes, you were being pushy. You need to cut all ties. Yeah it sounds abrupt. But here's your situation. You're both bad at texting. You can't keep in contact consistantly. And now you live in different areas. Unless the both of you make very mentally and physically taxing efforts, all aspects of the relationship will die. That's why I say just let the conversation die and the friendship/relationship with it. It's just not worth it anymore. Kudos for trying to reach out and make sure he's OK. You have a good heart. But it seems like he doesn't even want to respond to that.


Just a friendly word of advice for the (getting mad at him for randomly not texting you) part. One thing that absolutely pisses guys off is when a girl acts out of emotion and gets mad at a guy for reasons he is not aware of. Women say men don't communicate enough, then come to us with attitude out of the blue and don't tell us why they're mad. Next time something like that happens... Take a deep breathe, calm your mind, and give your emotions a swift kick in the ass so you can rationally and logically communicate to him what it is that bothers you.

[CallmeTheKnight]

What I got from this is that you both suck at communication. Regardless of school and work, you have time before, between, and after to send a text or voice message. You cannot excuse that and with you being in medical school, communication is very necessary in the medical field, so there's no real excuse on why you can't speak on how you feel or just to say hi.

Secondly, he's an ex... An ex.. if you were my classmate and you run this by me, I would just stop listening to you and walk away. That should tell you how much you're making something out of nothing.
Sis, move on with your life. If the two of you were to be together, you two wouldn't be ex's. You two barely talk and give yourself excuses on why. Leave that man in the past and focus on your studies because you're getting nothing out of this

[bubblegunnn]

Sist where is ur self respect? U r a girl and u chasing a guy? Nothing is important more than ur self love and self respect..

U got annoyed when he didn't message u? Omg sis u and him are already broken up.. and when he said he wasn't in the mood to speak to anyone and even wouldn't respond to ur message? its obvious he is not into u anymore.. stop looking! Get on ur grinds and focus on ur study and goals.. u r in medical school which is u need to be more concentrate. Be so busy that u have no time for bullshit of any sort. He will be chasing u if he is still into u.

If u keep chasing him it means u r desperate, sorry not sorry i must have to critically saying this. And what is the fun thing in keeping ur ex forcefully w u? Just be strong, accept reality and move on.. know that it wasn't working out n that this had to end so u can truly enjoy ur life.

But im curious when y'all broke up, were both of u still in love? Or just because of u went to college?

[CoolCatMar1]

I see few replies to questions these days... people used to give many opinions but anyway... Let the guy breath

[Gent207-2]

You're in love with a memory

You don't love your ex you love the version of your ex you imagine for yourself be it what you imagine that he could be or what good traits he has, while ignoring the red flags.

Regardless it's not him you love but yourself

[MannMitAntworten]

Let him be for now. Something is going on in his head. Probably best to leave him be. Granted, on a different note, you two being as close as it seems you are I would think he would want to express where his head is at the moment. But that is just my thinking. Anyway, allow him his space for now and try again when you feel a good enough time has passed. See how things are then. Good luck to you both.

[Minahh]

Just wait if he's going to reach out to you, if he doesn't move on

[trulyanattentionhog]

He’s not interested I’m sorry move on