I need some advice from women. Woman suddenly wants to be alone. I don’t know what to do?

[Anonymous]

Ok. I’ve been talking to this woman for about a month. Everything has been going almost magical. Our goals were the same. We have lots of the same interests. she's looking for long term like me. We finally got to out and back to her place Saturday and Sunday. Everything went as perfect as they could. Then Monday comes. She said she’s making me dinner and picking up the food and I should come over around 5. Suddenly around 4 she’s like. I’m not myself I kinda want to be alone. I said what if I just come over for dinner and leave. She’s like ok that’s good. I get there she’s crying. She says she’s hormonal and she's confused. She’s like can you please leave and we’ll hang out tomorrow. I say fine. Tuesday morning I get a long text and she’s like I know I said I’d be your girlfriend I just can’t do do this. I’m in shock and like what are you taking about. It’s been going great. A few hours later we are talking again. I’m said I can’t stop thinking about our weekend together and loved Sunday together and she’s like me too but I wanna be alone go to my sisters. I said I still like you and she said she still likes me. We haven’t been text nearly as much as of now but we still texted a few times a day. My question is can PMS make a woman fill with overwhelming anxiety and want to be alone for a few days? I’m still really confused whether this is a temporary crisis for her and will pass or if it’s over. She’s was saying things to me before this happened. she said she wanted me to feel like I was enough and I want to be your rock. Please don’t leave me when I get old just last week. Women do you think it’s over or should I be patient and see what happens

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The reason why I know she would be going though pms about now is because she told me her period is at the very end of beginning of the month.

[Guy13]

Sounds like too much too quick which is rare for a woman to emotionally overwhelmed. I’ve been here too and 6 sunflowers in glass cylindar “modern” Michael’s vase in water, little folded scotch tape note. “Get yourself together-no rush :-) “ Flower drop never came up until 5 months later. “You’re a good man…haven’t forgotten those flowers.” It’s her Time and stay out her Business and no badgering and insecure wussy checking in. It’s a Test ‼️ Ask the ladies…some guy’s experience isn’t “cure all”. Maybe some ladies will straighten us both out 🤷🏻‍♂️😎

[Asker]

I’ve been very careful since this not to blow up her phone or be a crybaby. I have been texting her once a day to she how she’s doing. She’ll text back for about an hour each time then stop. Just enough to make me think ok is she still interested? It’s just extremely stressful now but I don’t want her to know I’m stressed about it

[Guy13]

Back off a couple times and let her text you. That removes that secondary stress of you being a job. It is a way for her to miss you and ‘need” you. If you do this, “ it is so very good to hear from you”. IF “why didn’t you text me like normal into woman talk…”. These holidays and their extra junk can require little more time sometimes”
So goooood to hear from you second time she initiates. In between you reach out like normal, “may I call you-haven’t heard your voice in awhile.” End-very nice, thanks.

“This is how it will be…if he’s like this under same roof…I think I can risk with this guy…he gets me.” 😎

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice. When we do text I never bring up the relationship. I just try to keep it light. See how she’s doing and what’s up. I have never yet said why don’t you text me. I always keep it positive and try to joke. It’s just been almost 7 years since I like a woman more than just for a fling and I don’t want to blow this.

[SueShe]

PMS symptoms can include physical symptoms such as cramps, headaches and joint and muscle pain. Behavioural symptoms such as binge eating and problems sleeping. Mental and emotional symptoms, such as feeling very anxious, angry and/or depressed but also including mood swings, tender breasts, food cravings, fatigue and irritability.

It looks as if this person suffers from a number of those mentioned PMS consequences. Not every woman suffers from those consequences but more than half of them do.

Your best option is to be supportive and not to get angry or impatient because you would only achieve that distances herself from you.

It is unfortunately a recurring situation and comprehension is what she needs most.

[SoftCliff]

Hi SueShe, sorry to bother you. Shouldn't this question be moved in HowDoILook, since the asker is asking about her looks (if she looks better with or without makeup). I'm not sure that's why I asked your opinion

Do you prefer makeup or no makeup me? ↗

[SueShe]

Thanks for the notice. I see that someone has already changed it.

[Asker]

Even when we first started talking about this time last month all she wanted to talk about was living in the middle of nowhere so she didn’t have to be around people. That totally stopped after a week. I don't know. I’m just praying she just panicked thinking this was going too fast and her pms faze was starting. I forgot to mention when I last saw her Monday she told me I’m just really hormonal now and I was just confused. I wanna do what she wants but I’m a guy and can be dumb. Not understanding exactly what she wants. It’s just been so long since I liked a woman like this. It was just so sudden and shocking

[SueShe]

You just leave her on the long leash when she is in that phase and it is important to give her the space she needs. The hormones can be really vicious on the person's emotions. She might say something that she will totally regret once the hormones are back to normal.

However, this phase may resume as soon as she is at that period of the month again. I understand that it is very difficult on you and trying to understand is not always easy. Don't take it personal because I am sure that she would prefer not having to be in that situation.

[Anonymous]

People have lives. Lots happen in the parts we don’t share with others. Or she simply might be falling out of liking you.

[FilmGuy93]

Just leave her alone, man. She needs to work through things, and any conclusion she reaches needs to be authentic to her

[Avicenna]

Givdd we her space but tsunami to other women

[Anonymous]

I don't know.