Help me please?

[Anonymous]

It’s been 3 months and I’m still not over my friends with benefits, it’s so pathetic cause we only hooked up once, didn’t even finish and yet I’m so attached to him. We were trying to meet multiple times after but couldn’t find time that works for both and he lost interest.
I mean yeah it’s my fault I liked him before we became friends with benefits and he knew, told me not to take it serious but I’m not the type to get all like this, I know myself and despite it, feelings formed. And also this was my first time.

Like in school I know his classes and I try my best to walk pass it on every opportunity just so that he sees me or I see him, even knowing clearly well that I am trying to get over him.
I hate this love sickness or whatever, everytime I see him, I get adrenaline rush or burst of energy. I don’t wanna get it and I hate it even more that I can’t find another guy to replace him as friends with benefits cause he is like the most attractive guy in school and the way he looks into my eyes, way he carries himself, his voice, his appearance. 😫My feelings wasting my time cause I can’t stop thinking about him and I will procrastinate my homework. What should I do? 😩 please help ❤️give me tips or suggestions

[Guy13]

Price to pay for becoming the same flesh both physically and emotionally. It is what it is...

[Asker]

True true 😗😔🙂

[Guy13]

Yep but it makes parting horrible... but yeah it is nice when together though.

[Anonymous]

If he was your first your mistake was to give it away so easily
If he told you not to take it seriously than you should have left and NOT have sex with him
Anyways he is not a good guy. You like a toxic men it’s best to never ever do such hookup again

[Asker]

He didn’t forcefully made me hook up with him, so i don’t see him as bad guy. It was my choice that led to this so I blame myself. How can you tell he was toxic? thank you for your perspective :)

[Anonymous]

You don't get into that situation unless you know what you are doing.

[Asker]

Honestly I was in unstable mentality so I didn’t gaf about the consequences but you’re right ❤️ thanks

[Truthatanycost]

There is no such thing as 'Friends With Benefits' and there is no such thing as 'Casual sex'. Stop believing in the degenerate lies society has been feeding you and learn to have your own mind.

[Asker]

I don’t think we believe in same thing but thanks for your response :)

[Truthatanycost]

It doesn't matter what you believe, your current outcome demonstrates a truth. Casual sex... yet you've already bonded (pair bonding oxytocin)... friends with benefits but you're attached. See the truth from the outcome...

[Asker]

Casual sex wouldn’t have much affect on me if I was doing it with multiple guys, he was the only one that saw me vulnerable and person that I let take control, if I did the same with other guys than, I would get distracted enough to not care about him. Living fast enough to not ponder over past. You get what I mean? You made me answer my own question 😳 thank you ❤️

[Truthatanycost]

Distractions are temporary. Doing it with multiple men simply delays the inevitable void that results. There is no getting away from this.

When I talk about causal sex, I'm merely referring to the fact that sex was designed to bring new life into the world, and the most intimate act two people can do... by default making it not casual. Thus doing so with just one person, while not taking that into account will never end well.

'Living fast enough to not ponder over past.'

Above simply allows the hole one is digging to become larger before they notice the spade.

[Teriyaki70]

Move on

[Asker]

Yes ma’am 😮‍💨