A woman at work asked me to buy her a cappuccino and I did, Did I do wrong?

[Softguy]

Was I a simp or am I getting closer to being her boyfriend?

[DaveJord]

Well first off when a woman asks for cup of coffee, and you bought it for her... it's an invitation to sit down and drink it with her and have a conversation. Which I will assume you did.

By the end of that conversation, you should have asked her out. If she says no, then you got used. If she says yes, then she is a good woman. But you are not a simp until it becomes two or three coffees without a date.

Now if you bought the coffee and did not take advantage of the opportunity to have a conversation or to sit down and talk or use it as a chance to ask her out then you screwed up the situation.

You need to go back to her at your earliest opportunity and ask her if she would like to go out and get cup of coffee with you.

[Softguy]

I didn't ask her out

[DaveJord]

Yeah better get on that quick... before she loses interest.

[Softguy]

True, also she is always touching me, like she rubs my arms with her hands and smiles a lot at me, in a way it's like she's the complete opposite of me, very outgoing and lit up but she hasn't asked me out yet.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Neither.

She asked you a courtesy and you obliged of your own free will - the amount spent of the coffee is so laughably small that it means nothing. On the other hand, if she asked for a lunch, that'd be another matter.

[Softguy]

What would that mean Sir?

[Anonymous]

Your just a soft guy lol joking 🫢
It’s fine but make sure she doesn’t ask you often because then she is taking advantage..
next time when she asks then how about you say “ let’s go together “ if you like her then try to get to know her more

[Softguy]

You are very smart, next time she asks me for a coffee I will say let's go together!

[Part2603]

That actually might have been the intention in her request.

[Softguy]

@Part2603 ohh and maybe she was too shy to tell me?

[Part2603]

I dunno about shy... From her perspective, it would have been forthright.

It's hard to say, you need to provide more details. What was the context? How well do you two get along?

Either way, if YOU like her, then you should feel comfortable expressing that to her. You don't know unless you try.

[Adaeva]

It is not wrong to buy someone a 2 or 3 dollar item and I has no meaning because the amount is insignificant. If it was $50, that would be different.

[Softguy]

Yes but she is the only girl I bought a coffee at my job

[Adaeva]

Nevertheless, it is meaningless. Most co-workers are not going to ask you to pay for their coffee or soft-drink, but if they do and it is a one-time thing, you probably will.

[Softguy]

I will probably what?

[mobiusforniner]

How about not thinking of little things in such extremes? Have a good time, get to know someone. Not every little thing is about pursuing a love interest.

I buy things for women all the time. Some wanted more. Others didn't.

[Anonymous]

Buying a coworker one coffee isn't simping. However, you need to see these senerios as opportunities to strike up a good conversation, get to know each other and set up conversations for the future.

[MountAverage]

So, until when are you staying on planet Earth? When do you need to report back to your mothership about your findings?

[Mangospacho]

It sounds like you were doing something nice. You didn’t expect anything afterwards and you weren’t trying to buy her attention. You were just being a human person, not a simp.

[Nikki1989]

Nothing wrong with buying someone a coffee.

[Softguy]

Besides I'm attracted to her so

[Anonymous]

It's fine if she requested it

If not it would be creepy

I buy many coffees a week for potential clients, if a few pounds makes me a deal worth £20, £50 or even £100 it's a decent investment

[LiamJHayden]

If she didn't pay you for it and you are not dating, yeah you are kind of a sucker.

[Softguy]

😭😭😭😭😭

[tfan1]

If she asks you to bring more things to her, then she’s using you and you are a yes man.

[Anonymous]

Ahhh, you just committed the first step to became an open wallet.

Next stop? OnlyFans.

[Anonymous]

Well you can buy me a house..

[Softguy]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 only if you live in it with me 🥹

[moonpie89]

That's cute

[Softguy]

i'm a cute sweetie