Why do people get away with doing stuff to you and don't say you let them because when you call the out it does no good?

[Anonymous]

[OlderAndWiser]

1. "Why do people get away with doing stuff to you" It's up to you to impose consequences for the way people treat you, but those consequences are generally limited to discussing the problem, asking them to change their behavior, or exclusing them from your life. Most of the things people do to you are not on the level that warrants jail time.

2. "and don't say you let them because when you call the out it does no good?" Calling them out does no good? REALLY? Why do you think that would accomplish anything?

[Asker]

Because I do call people out in their stuff and they play the victim are you stupid? You haven't lived life to see how childish some people act by now.

[OlderAndWiser]

No, I'm not stupid. And won't call you names in response. You missed the point of what I sad, apparently.

[Anpu23]

As an adult you can and should avoid people who abuse you. Change jobs, report them to HR. Move out, change social circles, eliminate or control social media, block numbers, get a big dog, get a shotgun.

Its really as simple as saying, I will not put up with this abuse, lose my number. Follow up with blocking and deleting all social media links and don't let them back in. Unless you have a kid together you simply don't have to talk to anyone.

[Anonymous]

So answer your question, but just tell you what you want to hear is essentially what you're saying. Because whether you like it or not, you did allow it! You amost ALWAYS have a choice in life. Sometimes the choices are "bad" and "worse" but it's still a choice. We teach people how to treat us in life believe it or not. And sometimes when you're not given the respect you're due you have to make the CHOICE to end the relationship.

[Asker]

Whatever

[Opinion Owner]

Don't believe me, and continue to have the same problem. It's OK to vent. It's OK to be angry. But OWN your decisions. Don't play the victim in life. You're not! You're a strong woman if you want to be.

[Asker]

People do what they want I'm not their momma they won't listen to me.

[Opinion Owner]

You're right! They don't! But you have the power to keep or exclude those people from your life. If you're I quality woman the right ones will stick around. That I promise you.

[FireGodGoesSeeknFire]

You have to be more specific because calling out often does work and there is something unique about this case that's rendering it ineffective