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A friend told me it's taking me too long cause I haven't been in a relationship for 4 years now. I've dated people and have been in situationship but never committed to a relationship after 2019.
I have been single for over 10 years. I don't really date much. For me, I'd say five years is too long for me. I think ten is too long for a lot of people, unless you were in a serious relationship, and were badly spurned (probably need therapy), you were badly sick or injured (and had to commit to getting better/couldn't go out), or you're not interested (or you're forcing yourself to be unavailable - like having young children as a single parent) IF you're interested in dating.
I have a friend who is simply not interested. He's had maybe two girlfriends, if that, and he seems perfectly content not to be in a relationship. He doesn't want kids. Probably not an ideal dad type (he's a good guy). He's happy with his life, which is simple for him. He's an "old soul." I don't think gorgeous women are even on his radar. I think he's a bit "asexual." He doesn't look, there's not even much curiosity about women from an innocent point of view. Never seems to notice women (and he's not gay). Just... not interested. For him to be single for 20 years is fine. Forcing him into a relationship, while he'd probably be a decent boyfriend, is silly.
Some people, a few months is a bit long. But usually, I'd say if you can't handle being single for a year, then there might be some issues. But a few years isn't crazy long, but it seems to be normal... decades is unusual.
I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to that. But I'll share my observations about it. I got married young at age 24, and I have noticed some things about my friends since then. They fall into two categories. The first is those who also got married fairly young and are still together. They seem to grow and evolve together as a couple, which strengthens their bond and makes them less selfish in general, especially the ones who have kids.
The second group are those who are still single. They tend to be more selfish and increasingly set in their ways, which I fear will make it more difficult for them to ultimately find a happy marriage and develop a deep bond with their mate.
There are plenty of exceptions, but the rule seems to prevail in most cases.
Long story short, I think people who are in a healthy long-term relationship tend to be better people and make better partners, and those who stay single for long periods tend to be more self-absorbed and less likely to be willing to make the sacrifices and compromises that are required in a healthy life-long partnership.
I don’t think there’s a definitive answer. We all fall in love at a different pace and we have different dating preferences.
I would say I don’t recommend a long period of no communication with the opposite sex because things will start getting complicated when you decide to date again. It’s ok to go on dates without any expectations and to have a good time as long as you make that clear.
Four years doesn't matter.
The point of forcing yourself onto the dating scene is that mentally, you wouldn't be available or ready for that person.
Do it when you feel ready.
If you haven't healed from that past relationship (2019) - make that your starting point. Otherwise, if you’re happy with how life is - keep doing you!
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All she/he needs is the mirror image of Mr. Selfish or Self-absorbed he/she was just with…
Singles, stop bringing your separatist own my own, can’t survive and live without “my time”, and don’t really need you anyway into a Joint dynamic or Partnership.
Just a smidgen of that vibe and “thank you for the conversation and “entertainment” . Here’s a 100 for our martinis, tip, and a launch 🚀 into a third one if you so desire Impulse…thought…damn if she wasn’t referred WISH.
The equivalent to The Scream.
None, you can be single as long as you like and need to be. A lot of people need to be single until they can get themselves together.
I don't think there's a limit. My first gap in dating doesn't really count since it was from the 8th grade till senior year 😂
But after that, the longest I went was maybe 2 years of not being in a relationship.
I feel like it's worth saying that I really don't get some of the questions on this site about this topic. I've never talked to someone and thought to myself "oh shit, this person's been single for a while"
You find make a friend, realize you want to have sex and before you know it, you're sitting at a table paying the bill and feeling like you're not doing enough.
There's no need to rush but that doesn't mean you shouldn't work towards it in terms of at least taking more chances, meeting more people.
There are two answers to this.
If you're a loser / douchebag / trailer trash / slut who sleeps around & has multiple partners in a year anyone who has been single for more than 6 months is "too long".
If you're a decent respectable individual that anyone else would be proud to bring and show off to family/friends then there is no real limit for "too long" to be single.
I've been single for 22 years.
There's no time that makes it too long. It's all about you and what you're comfortable with.
Is there a reason you haven't tried or have you and just been unsuccessful?
I've been single for most of my life, I'm pretty sure. So, I'll say, about 28 years and a half and counting so far. But for those people who are actively dating, I voted 5 years is too long. Ha. 😀
I’ve been single for awhile now. I had a long term boyfriend now I’m in short not so serious one’s. Had one for about 6 months then nothing after that. I’m hoping my crush comes around and we can work things out! Fingers crossed though!
Anyone who thinks you can be single for "too long" probably displays codependent behavior and desperation about being in relationships.
I’m considering staying single forever. So much more freedom! I mean, yeah, it’s upsetting I never get asked out but hey, at least I get lots and lots of peace, quiet and freedom to travel at will!
Depends on person. I've been single for a year and it doesn't bother me. But there are people who feel depressed because they have been single for 1 month.
I've been single for my entire life, but I was romantically involved with someone and almost able to date them. But I refused to be their rebound aka backup plan, so I never bothered to continue the romantic advances.
I only been single a year and I find it too long, how do you learn to get used to sleeping alone after being in a long term relationship?
I don't think there's really a time frame of what's too long, that's a great time to work on yourself and really get to know yourself.
I know a lady that's been single for 75 years right now... she's pretty happy
I don't think there is a too long or at least I can't think of a number that I see as too long lol
You shouldn't feel pressured by anyone to get into a relationship. Go at your own pace. If your prospects aren't any good, you don't have to date them!
How about being single for your whole life so far...
I been single my whole life and taht means more than 20 years why people get frustrated for being single just for a few years. Geez!!!
There's no such thing as "too long"
Not really a length of time per se, It’s how you spend it. Incels waste their time bitching online instead of talking to women.
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