Does being single "too long" make you undesirable to other people?

[Anonymous]

[PBandJ_Nerd]

No clue. But if I become the single virgin 30 yr. old woman someday and am considered "undesirable" then I'd probably just laugh at them. The people who say such things are the ones who aren't wanting to date said person anyway. But I think you can find love at any age in life, even if it takes longer than what other people expect the age of experience to be by. Plus, it just means that it feels much more special to you when it does happen. First date, first kiss, first everything-it will feel special. 💝

[abc3643]

Being single too long should make you NOT WANT TO BE WITH OTHER PEOPLE.
Why? Because you discover who you are... your likes and dislikes... what you'll put up with and won't... what your abilities and limitations are, etc. What you discover is that you learn to like yourself and not want to deal with other people's bullshit. You learn that freedom is arguably the most important part of maintaining your sanity and happiness and that, the more people in your life, the less free you become because your relationships with them create constraints.

So, my advice is to remain single so you remain free so you remain happy and sane.

I wish I had done that before I learned it too late.

[Anonymous]

For a man, yes. For a woman, no. Because women are never single. They're all playing someone at sometime for attention or sex. When a man is single he's rarely, in this day, ever flirting with women or hooking up. That's why a man who's been single is less desirable. He's simply rusty.

[Opinion Owner]

In fact the best way for a man to find a girlfriend is to act like he flirts with women all the time for no reason

[Account]

Well something weird I have noticed is that if I am in a relationship I get approached WAY MORE often compared to when I am single. I have no clue why.
I stil get approached when I am single, but it is nowhere near the same amount. I can't for the life of me understand that and it is not like my energy is different

[Account]

Still**

[MrNameless]

I think when you are in a relationship (a good one, at least)
-you tend to look and act happier/more positive
-you're vetted that you're suitable for a relationship by being one already. Social skills, emotional stability, etc.

[Account]

No, I am actually neither happier nor positive, in fact more often than not, I feel worse.
It is probably the 2nd.

[IslaTheWitch]

if it's your concern simply don't share how long you are single

but tbh I didn't notice the correlation. Some people are paranoid and think that if you are longer alone it means something is wrong with you, but they are, fortunately, the minority

[Drew-1990]

I would say it does from my personal experience. I don't think it should matter one bit but it does. Also people in relationships often give off a more happy and confidence vibe so they appear more desirable.

[Levin]

Unconsciously the energetic dynamics may change to one of desperation.

I've always found it odd, as someone else has mentioned, that when I'm taken, girls are a lot more interested.

[DarkWinterNights]

I think so. The longer you're single- the more you get used to being alone. You’re less likely to be accommodating, more set on your ways and less likely to compromise. You also start to lose certain intimate social skills.

[KrakenAttackin]

When a woman says she has been "single" for a long time it usually means she has been getting run through by a bunch of rando's for years.

[Billlewis]

I don't really mind if she's been single for a long time, but if she hasn't had sex for more than a year, that's a turn off for me.

[Huntingnfishin]

It's def a red flag. Basically my way of thinking is that you have some really undesirable characterist that makes you unwanted by everyone else

[SolitarySolace]

In my case most likely yes. If you remain single for too long though you also become comfortable being single and can’t see yourself getting involved or committed in something with someone

[NatalieKeller95]

what if you don't want to be single?

[SolitarySolace]

I do want to be single though. I can’t understand why anyone wouldn’t want to stay single

[NatalieKeller95]

some people like their independence too much, and if they have a good paying job, they like having lots of money and not having to spend it all the time

[genericname85]

let's put it like that: for me personally, no ammount of time someone is single can make them as undesirable to me as them having a promisquous past.

[Anonymous]

I don't think so. I think if anything it makes you more intriguing because they will try to figure out why you've been single for so long if you're a catch.

[NatalieKeller95]

now for autistic guys who are tens time more likely to be single than other guys, does that usually mean they stay single, due to their condition?

[Opinion Owner]

Possibly but there are more and more dating apps for autistic people out there now, so it's starting to become no excuse to be single even with a condition like autism.

[NatalieKeller95]

why would their condition keep them single?, is it because some people don't know how to handle them, and the dating apps for them, is it matching them with autistic singles, because I know some autistic people that only want to date attractive people only, is it possible for them to date someone attractive, or should they just accept what they get?

[Opinion Owner]

There are a lot of attractive autistic people so I don't see what's the issue there. But their condition could keep them single depending on how severe their condition is. If they are a level 3, it might be harder for them to communicate with others but it's still possible for them to find someone like them or someone who is not like them at all. It just depends.

[Nikki1989]

It does raise some red flags, but nobody needs to know your past. It is your business and yours alone.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'm happy how I've ended up, and if "she" didn't like that, I can carry on single no problemo, no matter what any woman thought

[handsomelad70]

I don't think I'd be undesirable to most women.

[Mo_Yessin]

I think yes as I've tried being rrreally long time with my parents and didn't react with any strangers

[Jmmmfi4]

IN MY CASE I THINK IT HAS

[NathanDavis]

it hasn't

and I haven't

[laly520]

some find it undesirable

[sheikalana]

I don't think so.

[sheikalana]

Most men will appreciate a woman who's been single for a while than a single woman who's been sleeping around.

[boggboss]

To some people yes

[Anonymous]

Absolutely