Do you find it hard to be single (long term)?

[Anonymous]

i have always been single. Never met the right match. I am really thinking just settling soon.

The last time I casually dated was in 2016. Since then, life has been a slow gradual downhill turn. There is just this emptiness, loneliness within me that cannot be filled unless I go find a relationship. Truth is... friends become a lot harder to make as you get older. Even if you do succeed in finding 1 friend, the friendship usually won't last long. Long term, permanent relationships are hard to build but very easy to BREAK. If I want to eat at a new restaurant, I would have to beg / ask a million different people before I find 1-2 that are willing to go with me. Then during the day of the dinner, one would always cancel last minute. Worst case scenario, everyone cancels last minute.

If I want to go on vacation to greece, none of the people in my social circle would want to go to greece. Or if they do want to go to greece, they wouldn't have enough money. OR they would be too busy.

Besides, just almost everything alone can take a toll you. 90% of the time if I'm not at work, I am doing everything alone.

I find it hard to believe that most of these single people who claim to be "happy" being all alone, aren't actually happy. They're just settling for a subpar life because they don't want to deal with the natural challenges of being in a relationship.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

To me it is. But that's because I'm always stuck with this desire to want to cuddle, kiss, etc. someone. It's completely unsatiable, so I'm stuck feeling like I'm a vampire. My parents don't want me to date, which I can completely understand why since I am late at doing things in adulthood. But I still have the feeling of wanting to share my love & affection with someone and exploring myself a bit more with a partner. I do think there are some people who are happy being single, though. Those are people who have zero interest in having a romantic relationship & then those who've had the experience they need to decide that being single was right for them in life.

[Nikki1989]

I have been single for maybe 6 months in total since the age of 12. I never planned it that way, it just happened.

[SolitarySolace]

Nope. I've been single for 10 years now and I've learned over time that it's far more peaceful being single. No one telling me how to live my life or to go somewhere I don't want to go. I guess I'm just one of those guys whose happier alone. It's not something anyone else out there can ever understand

[Asker]

so you like doing everything alone?

[SolitarySolace]

Yes. And to be honest I don't do much. I dont have to.

[Unit1]

How do you call a situation in which you're playing a video game on impossible difficulty and you're never winning and you don't ever get a game over? That's how it is.

I assume this to be the baseline standard.

[Orion84]

I used to find it hard to be single, but after having had my fill of relationships, I actually find it much more peaceful being single.

I have no intention of ever dating again.

[Anonymous]

Nope. After 40 women start to look pretty gross. And the ones that are still single at that point kind of have the personality to match. So it's actually pretty easy.

[Asker]

Having high standards can keep a woman single.

[Opinion Owner]

Then she should probably be single. Everybody wins!👍

[Anonymous]

Im not black, mexican, Asian or middle eastern. Women mostly wants to dates or marries guys outside of their race now and they won't date their own race anymore after they have sex with them and go back for more.

[Staximus]

Do you have any family around you can hang out with? Don't isolate yourself, that just makes it worse

[hotman5]

i can go long periods of time single and then one day wake up and be like i want someone

[Asker]

how about 8 years being single?

[jamesgoldman]

Nope, I'll be a decade single next month and have no plans to change that

[Abbycado]

Nope. Was single for a year.

[DerekC321]

For me it's painful