Does being single bother you?

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lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

It did at times, I was lonely and using my super powers developed as a child... I'd avoid my feelings and ignore it. I'd fill the void with anything else and there is plenty to keep busy and pre-occupied. Kids today probably sit and play games all day, watch videos, porn, etc.. thinking that's healthy. An easy distraction from real connection and engagement.

Freedom to come and go, sleep in, full control of your schedule.. is good part of being single. Freedom to get to know yourself, explore what you don't know is good time to do that. Coming home to make dinner by myself... that was sad and I felt it. It lost it's luster and it's boring. Noone to talk to... It put on the tv whatever distraction. No doubt it's a void feeling... I'd have p/j and cereal and milk for dinner at times, who cares when it's just yourself to do all the work? I went in wrong directions socially to fill the void rather than building my own relationship. I gave love in the wrong places and accepted the lack of love or value for too long. Early on in life, I felt not worthy and that propagated throughout life like "dye in the glass of water". I projected that onto others that found interest in me.

It's good to have my girlfriend and sense of family, wake up and touch her, be with and look forward to the day, plans for dinner, to think about the future and be concerned about her, what are things I can do for her. It took 50+ years to get there... a long wait.

The nice thing is the past is that... past. Living is now and life seems to have slowed down. I figure I have 20 years or so if I'm fortunate to enjoy life with her and new adventures and keep learning and growing, but noone knows, take what comes. It would have been good to find her sooner.

I think for young people, life can seem like it's over at 17, 25, 30, 40, etc. It's just starting in many ways. Take it as it comes... make the most of what you've got, keep working on yourself as I am.

If you are bothered... then do some introspection and make some changes, ideally aligned with your goals in life.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

It does sometimes like right now answering this question. LOL. I do miss that bond that you get, are they you have it's electrifying I miss being romantic and passionate are those times where you just want to hold somebody very very lightly all the way to a full blown hold on tight hold. That's right now I'm content I guess otherwise I would change it

And now that you have me thinking about it , I really do miss laying in bed at night and or waking up and hearing that beautiful voice saying Stop, STOP
STOP POKING ME thst all you ever do poke poke poke,, or getting home from work about a half an hour late filthy dirty sunburn. And hear that beautiful voice *where have you been* and you're in the honeymoon stages of your relationship so you answer back. If I was up your ass you know where I've been. Or it's a Christmas or Thanksgiving holiday and that's the last minute you get home from work. And you hear that beautiful voice well I know it's last moment but my parents invited us over the whole family is going to do there and I went out and I bought you these pants and this Christmas sweater. And in that moment you enter right back around and go back back to work. But no you do the right thing you go and take a shower and get cleaned up and then you put on the pair of pants that she just got for you that matches throughout fit but they're like six inches too short and about three inches too tight and then you put on your matching Christmas sweater and the sleeves go halfway between your elbow and your hand and doesn't really cover your belly button and it's just super tight. And you try to take the clothes off but they're so tight they won't come up and then you hear that beautiful voice say what are you doing. no you going to wear that. But it's too small I don't care if it matches me it's these moments I remember so well. It makes me so sad that I'm single yes to good old days

SerenStone · Accepted Answer

Sometimes when I see couples being all lovey dovey, yes.
Most of the time, no.

I've had troubles in relationships in the past and has gotten trauma out of it so I'm a bit scared of dating? I'd love to date, I love the concept of two people loving each other. I don't really think I want to date.
I feel like being best friends is better for some reason. If we fight, we can go back again but if we're dating and fight, it's gonna feel different. I say "I love you" to my friends and be all platonic with them. Treating a partner and a best friend the same just feels weird. I also can't be sexual (I'm not asexual) and that's such a big out in a relationship.

I want to do couple things but with a best friend and I don't really want to face my "fears" and date.

Yea mostly insecurities and a me problem.

I'm also picky in my preferences.. And there's barely anyone in my area that I can find.
Thanks for reading my sad rant, have a lovely day.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Most times no.. But sometimes I do miss the closeness, the falling asleep or waking up in someone's arms.. The feeling you get when you know no matter what kind of day you had, it'll get better when you get home to your loved one

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

No, in fact I prefer it and have stayed that way by choice for nearly 6 years now.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Its honestly quite soothing being single. When im in a relationship, i change up my schedule to accomodate my significant other. THat often consists of staying up later or sleeping earlier than i’d prefer. It takes away time from my tv shows. I can't focus on work cause theyre always on my mind. I spend more money to buy them gifts and crap. I hardly see my fam. I prob cry myself to sleep from holding in all the frustration that builds up when the mf pisses me off.  
 Being single is a breathe of fresh air. I can flirt around. I can work on my own time. The only perks of being taken is feeling loved, feeling like you have a “go to” person for advice, and getting a step closer to marriage/motherhood. Thats great and all but not hard to live without. Of course i wanna become a mom someday but i dont need an SO to become that. Its a preference not a MUST. I can become a mom without a boyfriend/husband

electromagnetic · Answer

I think bouncing relationship to relationship without giving yourself time to enjoy being alone is what bothers most people most. It gets hard to enjoy time alone with someone is always with a mate to help them validate their sense of being.
Now that I am single, I’m looking forward to picking up where I left off in my world travels.

qwert1234 · Answer

When I have not gotten into any relationship yet - yes. I want to know how it feels like, to have someone love you, care for you. Someone non-family kiss you.

Now that I've been into several relationships, there are times I honestly think that being single is a blessing, at least for like a week - where you don't concern yourself on the wellbeing and welfare of others. Where you could only think about yourself. Where you could be selfish without judgement.

Being in a relationship still wins bigtime.

Alyssa11 · Answer

Being single doesn't bother me. Meeting new guys and asking the same boring questions, waiting for their texts and rolling my eyes every time they ask to call or meet up bothers me.

I don't plan on being single forever. I want to be married and have a family eventually, but damn dating is so frustrating. It's a whole job in itself. What happened to just meeting someone and connecting with them straight away? That's how I met all 3 of my exes. And it's also how I hear people meet their other halves. It seems to happen to me just to meet an ex, and now I'm stuck in a cycle of meaningless conversations.

PS, a frustrated Alyssa.

Estaroze · Answer

It used to be ok. But some guys appeared and liked me. I liked them back. And decided to give them some chances by spending time with them, getting to know them. While knowing, I realized some defects, and as they couldn't be able to treat me nicely as a friend, I had to end them.
After that, I felt lonely and vein. And wondered if there'd ever be the one for me who would love me and make me happy for the rest of my life.
However, I'm always confident that I'm lovely as a woman, and I can make the one I like happy.
So, I guess I can just pray for the God and the destiny to bring my soulmate to me,
trying to feel hopeful.

MCheetah · Answer

Yes, but there's little I can do about it without becoming someone I hate just to "impress women." I want someone to like me for me, not for being a good player to the game. And since (most) modern women don't seem to be interested in men like me, let alone men who aren't a 9/10 in looks and aren't over six feet, I guess me being single is as out of my control as my height and face.

Yes it bothers me being single, but without lying and manipulating, there's nothing I can do about it. And even still, the type of woman I want either doesn't exist out there, or is far from being single and available.

@JosyJosy, I want you to answer this question (for yourself), too.

SLRK3 · Answer

Lately, no it really hasn't bothered me. I just have been going to work and then go home. I have kids but they live next door with my mom but I spend the time I am not at work with them so I really dont think about having a partner. It has been nice not having to have some dictate my life and what I do or don't do but there are a few lonely nights where it would be nice to cuddle up and watch a movie not alone. But I've been working on me and I'm doing better tha ever!

Apulu · Answer

No. In fact I want to be single my whole life. Yet now I didn't had a strong crush. But I won't mind being in relationship if it is a Cute east Asian boy. My ideal type is - Cold hearted or bad boy type but secretly have a nice heart, Cute, One who can cuddle me all day long, Tall with broad shoulders, Age gap should be 2-5 years where he will be older than me.

meetkitty123 · Answer

I suppose yes it absolutely would bother me. Companionship is something sometimes desperately saught by many.
However sometimes being in a relationship can be just as lonely as not being in one. 😔.
Regardless the worst sensation is going to bed alone and waking alone. It's quite difficult being happy and excited or being down and blue and having no one to share it with. Sometimes a hug can fix everything but when there's no one or nothing to hug but a pillow... It's heart wrenching.
I have certainly have had my share of lonely nights through my times.

Jake99999 · Answer

I think people should live in the moment and take the best of where they are at today. So many of us want to be somewhere else or in some other status - and then when we get there, we either miss things about where we were at before, or we start thinking about something else they we want.

Live in the moment, enjoy your now. Things about being single are an advantage - and to be enjoyed. If you are single, enjoy that while you can and focus on the good things. Count your blessings. Don’t sit there and play a negative tape in your head. Later when you are married you may look back and miss things about being single. So enjoy those things now while you are in them.

JBlade · Answer

Kind of because it feels like there is no one compatible for me. Also, I an introvert so I really like having a lot of time to myself but sometimes wish I had someone to share stuff with. However, if I was in a relationship I feel like my partner would want more attention from me than I'd be capable of providing so single is fine for now I guess.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yes.

I can't do most of the things I want to while I'm single, and 99.9% of them don't even involve anything sexual.

If I had a girlfriend, I would cancel my internet and any online subscriptions, stick to offline multiplayer in older challenging video games with just her, and spend lots of time collaberating on creative ideas and projects with her.

Yes I could do those things online, but its eay more expensive, buggy, laggy, and risks idea theft, and you can't poke someone over the net at 3am until they wake up because you thought of a really cool project idea, or just wanted to play soulcalibur 3.

NathanDavis · Answer

not, one, bit... no

almost two years single... no issues

but also, I am used to it... I usually spend around a year single between relationships, the pandemia just made it longer this time, but it's fine really, I'm in no rush

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Sometimes it do and sometimes it doesn't!

I do feel lonely and I don't have another person who I can have share interest with, plus I do see these happy couples and terrible feel desperate because I don't have a girl on my shoulder.

While I am happy being single because I just need to focused on my own health and safety, usually most couples get into nasty fights and dispute on certain issues as a single man I don't have a girl who I would just constantly get into fights which is a great thing, plus as a person who doesn't want children at least being single I don't technically need to worry about possibly impregnating a girl considering I don't have a girl at the moment so basically I am both bothered with being single but I also super happy with the idea as well.

natured · Answer

When I was, it did bother me a little to be honest, but at the same time i enjoyed my freedom in general, i only had studies and parties in mind... as for now, growing up, i have a relationship added with other problems called LIFE
Either way, being single is not a tragedy as long as you find the correct distraction.

serious · Answer

Of course not. I totally love it. I just wish to remain single, lead a highly disciplined life with no bad habits and enjoy life in my way. Live life by my rules.

Doesn't matter if I am branded as someone unusually different from others.

Anonymous · Answer

It used to. And I used to take women's rejection very personal. But now I realize how women judge guys and it's just comical to me. It's no wonder so many of them end up with complete zeros.
But it's like OZ. After seeing behind the curtain and seeing how foolish women are at the choices they make it's hard to respect them. Sorry but it makes a majority of the women undesirable to me. I've built a life without women in it. And while I don't mind a date here and there. And having women friends. Why would I ever make a woman a permanent fixture in my life?

CordetteMonet · Answer

It used to. But I realized that I need to focus/work on myself more before I get into a relationship.

Tallhotblonde89 · Answer

Not at all... i been divorced since 2013 and been single ever since and I have freedom... do what I want with whomever I want... not questioned about my whereabouts etc. If I wanna cuddle or get lonely nothing that a fuck buddy or a one night stand might benefit from!

Coulis · Answer

It doesn't bother me. I am human and enjoy doting on those I love. I would like to connect with someone in a deep and meaningful way.

Sadly, it seems that most people are just looking to see how they can get what they want out of someone without giving anything or very little back in return.

So, I will just stay here minding my own business. 😌

legalboxers · Answer

I dont care anymore.. after the last disaster who keeps calling me and saying "oh Im with someone" now tells me she's moving in with him... yeah.. I like being alone. She even said "promise me you will go out and find someone".. um.. your on guy number 10 after you left me.. Im fine.. I need my peace, and with you always calling me and you owning me $1600 which Id never see again.. yeah...

dustybiker · Answer

If something bothers me I change it. Losing a single title shouldn’t be too difficult. Most people like to talk about themselves. A hypothetical single person should find someone they like on a dating app and ask them questions about themselves.

mooky06 · Answer

Not at this stage. I’m feeling quite content and enjoying doing what I please. Mum on the other side is trying to push me into finding someone and settling down 😒

bobalife · Answer

I rather be single than be with the wrong guy who is only gonna hurt me. I would wanna wait for someone who is going to treat me well and show me he will be faithful.

Gothrocker · Answer

A part of me does. I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about 3 months ago for some reasons which I won't say. I've always struggled being on my own simply because of the way I grew up so my own company is something I do and don't like.

The one thing I miss from the relationship is having someone to hug and kiss when I truly need it (I'm not super into PDA as I think it should be more of a private affair than displayed.) After a long day of work or stress

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

As someone who has been married for 20 years, the concept of being single is no different than an innocent man looking forward to finally getting out of jail.

Phoenix98 · Answer

The feeling of being single has always been something that has bothered me and that I've honestly hated since I was younger.

I'm just not wired that way, to be happy being alone and single, especially when everyone has the thing I want it's pretty depressing honestly. And something that makes me depressed quite a bit.

the_kisses_of_sun · Answer

Nooo because I've been single all my life but sometimes I need to feel that I have someone... I want that emotional support, those little butterflies, that person I can hold in my arms, the mutual feeling of attraction, the closeness, that person who makes me feel good around him... I do want these.

FriendlyCanadianGuy · Answer

I thought it would, but realizing I'm happier single than when I was in a 4 years tells me I was with the wrong one..

Women are confusing and take a lot of time and patience, not having to deal with all that is motivation to stay single longer :(

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

It used to. Now if I became single again once I got over being sad at the loss of my partner I’d probably be cool with it.

menina · Answer

Not at all. I can't and I don't want to date guys from the country where I live. So being single is the best option for me.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Mmmmm not really. When I see all these people in relationships cheating I realize how grateful I am to not have to deal with such issues

Fireguy17 · Answer

When I was single, which was a fair amount of time, I didn't mind it at all.
I am always so busy doing things that I wanted to do, it might of been hard with a partner.
I could date when I wanted, motorcycle trips when and where I desired, moved to California for a while, just all sorts of stuff in my life.
It might be easier for guys, but I met many women out traveling when I was out and about.
I never had the I need kids gene, so that probably helped too.

Cherry234 · Answer

Sometimes it does but then I remember I have less money to spend and I have more freedom. I'm not tied to anyone. But I don't want to stay single forever because I want someone to love and also someone who loves me

15_Debo · Answer

"Wasn't looking for love till I found u" is my answer

cocoaniable · Answer

when i was single it never bothered me, i was just doing my own thing and ignore the "why don't you have a boyfriend?" - comments

SynthKobra · Answer

I'd consider myself more career oriented and I have been pretty disappointed with a lot of girls I've come across in my life but there are times I wish there was a girl I can kick it with and forget my problems. Not even just sexually but the whole package.

Celeste951 · Answer

It personally doesn't bother me. I think I can do the same things with my friends then I could with someone I was "dating" (minus the sex) and I think dating can give you a lot of anxiety so I'm content with not being in one.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

No, not at the moment. I'm single by choice right now. Need a break from it all.

Ke_vin · Answer

Yes I’m 21 I feel the need to talk to someone other than my family and to show love to someone and been loved by someone other than my family. I feel the need to be able to come home to someone special who understand me the most after a hard , bad day or even the good days

kc_4308 · Answer

Nope been single since 2016. Content being solo and not settling.

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

I’m not bothered by being single. At this point I’m bothered to see there aren’t many quality options anymore. When I think about it I can no longer imagine coming across a decent man.

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

Not at all. But don't give me any videos of solders coming home and surprising their lovers because that shit will leave me tearing up and feeling even more lonely than I am now.

For now, I am just focusing on myself.

AKRedRider1216 · Answer

No way. I know I might be too young to comment on here but my goals in life are to focus on my career not on "finding the one".

WesBrewer · Answer

extremely, but I am single because I am graduating in a year and going to college far away, so it would be a jerk move to date a girl knowing that we won't and can't even work out. my parents also don't let me work so it'd be hard to pay for dates.

Splatzonelover1 · Answer

Yep since I am attracted and can hit on lot with men thar aren't even my type to begin with. I don't really like being single since I don't feel safe.

JenMarie · Answer

Not at all, some if my best times in life have been while single. Learn to be alone and happy. Then if someone comes along fine if not you are still happy

StarOfEast89 · Answer

It does, but certainly feels better than being with a weak ass, punk ass wimp. Infinitely better. Real men of quality are hard to come by, especially to someone like me. I know though that I ain't going to settle for less.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope not really because like myself when u have been single all 35 years of your life u don't know anything else, and also no woman obviously wants me, I have nothing to offer and I'm ugly and I'm not relationship material, I would only embarrass myself, plus I'm not normal, so I've been accepted that and I'm okay with it, I'm just gonna leave the relationships to everybody else.

Clarke498 · Answer

It's taking me for a ride today. Usually I'm good, but then my depression moves back in and shits on me for not being able to get someone.

Anonymous · Answer

No but I wish I had someone I love and who loves me.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

You don't have pain in the ass when you are single. Now a days people don't appreciate each other to be honest.

genericname85 · Answer

yeah it does. and everyone who claims it doesn't, is either freshly separated or lying to themself. of course i can enjoy my life and it's all good. but i'd prefer not being single.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Currently not single but had my longest ever spell from December 2019 to April this year. a very long time and living on own over lockdown drove me to join GaG.

mollyyyy37474 · Answer

yes i dont why i’m single. I get all these compliments from strangers and friends and family and yet i’m about to be 21 and single i know i’m young but i’m a perfectionist

rcljr · Answer

Hell no, the entire world has gone insane from covid to feminism to cancel culture, racial appropriation, defund the police, open borders, countries electing retards to lead them, I’m better off alone a visiting a hooker from time to time.

IAMNathanael · Answer

Not at all.  that's not me I just found it online

CringeKing8228 · Answer

Yeah, it does. I kinda just deal with it though because I live in a small town region where there are no options and I don't want to go anywhere else because this is where I grew up and I have an attachment to it

FatherJack · Answer

No , prefer it , I could never bear even the thought of another relationship. Also , what chance does a 50 yr old single dad stand in the very male heavy , sausage fest " dating market " ?

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