It did at times, I was lonely and using my super powers developed as a child... I'd avoid my feelings and ignore it. I'd fill the void with anything else and there is plenty to keep busy and pre-occupied. Kids today probably sit and play games all day, watch videos, porn, etc.. thinking that's healthy. An easy distraction from real connection and engagement.
Freedom to come and go, sleep in, full control of your schedule.. is good part of being single. Freedom to get to know yourself, explore what you don't know is good time to do that. Coming home to make dinner by myself... that was sad and I felt it. It lost it's luster and it's boring. Noone to talk to... It put on the tv whatever distraction. No doubt it's a void feeling... I'd have p/j and cereal and milk for dinner at times, who cares when it's just yourself to do all the work? I went in wrong directions socially to fill the void rather than building my own relationship. I gave love in the wrong places and accepted the lack of love or value for too long. Early on in life, I felt not worthy and that propagated throughout life like "dye in the glass of water". I projected that onto others that found interest in me.
It's good to have my girlfriend and sense of family, wake up and touch her, be with and look forward to the day, plans for dinner, to think about the future and be concerned about her, what are things I can do for her. It took 50+ years to get there... a long wait.
The nice thing is the past is that... past. Living is now and life seems to have slowed down. I figure I have 20 years or so if I'm fortunate to enjoy life with her and new adventures and keep learning and growing, but noone knows, take what comes. It would have been good to find her sooner.
I think for young people, life can seem like it's over at 17, 25, 30, 40, etc. It's just starting in many ways. Take it as it comes... make the most of what you've got, keep working on yourself as I am.
If you are bothered... then do some introspection and make some changes, ideally aligned with your goals in life.
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It does sometimes like right now answering this question. LOL. I do miss that bond that you get, are they you have it's electrifying I miss being romantic and passionate are those times where you just want to hold somebody very very lightly all the way to a full blown hold on tight hold. That's right now I'm content I guess otherwise I would change it
And now that you have me thinking about it , I really do miss laying in bed at night and or waking up and hearing that beautiful voice saying Stop, STOP
STOP POKING ME thst all you ever do poke poke poke,, or getting home from work about a half an hour late filthy dirty sunburn. And hear that beautiful voice *where have you been* and you're in the honeymoon stages of your relationship so you answer back. If I was up your ass you know where I've been. Or it's a Christmas or Thanksgiving holiday and that's the last minute you get home from work. And you hear that beautiful voice well I know it's last moment but my parents invited us over the whole family is going to do there and I went out and I bought you these pants and this Christmas sweater. And in that moment you enter right back around and go back back to work. But no you do the right thing you go and take a shower and get cleaned up and then you put on the pair of pants that she just got for you that matches throughout fit but they're like six inches too short and about three inches too tight and then you put on your matching Christmas sweater and the sleeves go halfway between your elbow and your hand and doesn't really cover your belly button and it's just super tight. And you try to take the clothes off but they're so tight they won't come up and then you hear that beautiful voice say what are you doing. no you going to wear that. But it's too small I don't care if it matches me it's these moments I remember so well. It makes me so sad that I'm single yes to good old days
Sometimes when I see couples being all lovey dovey, yes.
Most of the time, no.
I've had troubles in relationships in the past and has gotten trauma out of it so I'm a bit scared of dating? I'd love to date, I love the concept of two people loving each other. I don't really think I want to date.
I feel like being best friends is better for some reason. If we fight, we can go back again but if we're dating and fight, it's gonna feel different. I say "I love you" to my friends and be all platonic with them. Treating a partner and a best friend the same just feels weird. I also can't be sexual (I'm not asexual) and that's such a big out in a relationship.
I want to do couple things but with a best friend and I don't really want to face my "fears" and date.
Yea mostly insecurities and a me problem.
I'm also picky in my preferences.. And there's barely anyone in my area that I can find.
Thanks for reading my sad rant, have a lovely day.
Most times no.. But sometimes I do miss the closeness, the falling asleep or waking up in someone's arms.. The feeling you get when you know no matter what kind of day you had, it'll get better when you get home to your loved one
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No, in fact I prefer it and have stayed that way by choice for nearly 6 years now.
Its honestly quite soothing being single. When im in a relationship, i change up my schedule to accomodate my significant other. THat often consists of staying up later or sleeping earlier than i’d prefer. It takes away time from my tv shows. I can't focus on work cause theyre always on my mind. I spend more money to buy them gifts and crap. I hardly see my fam. I prob cry myself to sleep from holding in all the frustration that builds up when the mf pisses me off.
Being single is a breathe of fresh air. I can flirt around. I can work on my own time. The only perks of being taken is feeling loved, feeling like you have a “go to” person for advice, and getting a step closer to marriage/motherhood. Thats great and all but not hard to live without. Of course i wanna become a mom someday but i dont need an SO to become that. Its a preference not a MUST. I can become a mom without a boyfriend/husbandI think bouncing relationship to relationship without giving yourself time to enjoy being alone is what bothers most people most. It gets hard to enjoy time alone with someone is always with a mate to help them validate their sense of being.
Now that I am single, I’m looking forward to picking up where I left off in my world travels.When I have not gotten into any relationship yet - yes. I want to know how it feels like, to have someone love you, care for you. Someone non-family kiss you.
Now that I've been into several relationships, there are times I honestly think that being single is a blessing, at least for like a week - where you don't concern yourself on the wellbeing and welfare of others. Where you could only think about yourself. Where you could be selfish without judgement.
Being in a relationship still wins bigtime.Being single doesn't bother me. Meeting new guys and asking the same boring questions, waiting for their texts and rolling my eyes every time they ask to call or meet up bothers me.
I don't plan on being single forever. I want to be married and have a family eventually, but damn dating is so frustrating. It's a whole job in itself. What happened to just meeting someone and connecting with them straight away? That's how I met all 3 of my exes. And it's also how I hear people meet their other halves. It seems to happen to me just to meet an ex, and now I'm stuck in a cycle of meaningless conversations.
PS, a frustrated Alyssa.It used to be ok. But some guys appeared and liked me. I liked them back. And decided to give them some chances by spending time with them, getting to know them. While knowing, I realized some defects, and as they couldn't be able to treat me nicely as a friend, I had to end them.
After that, I felt lonely and vein. And wondered if there'd ever be the one for me who would love me and make me happy for the rest of my life.
However, I'm always confident that I'm lovely as a woman, and I can make the one I like happy.
So, I guess I can just pray for the God and the destiny to bring my soulmate to me,
trying to feel hopeful.Yes, but there's little I can do about it without becoming someone I hate just to "impress women." I want someone to like me for me, not for being a good player to the game. And since (most) modern women don't seem to be interested in men like me, let alone men who aren't a 9/10 in looks and aren't over six feet, I guess me being single is as out of my control as my height and face.
Yes it bothers me being single, but without lying and manipulating, there's nothing I can do about it. And even still, the type of woman I want either doesn't exist out there, or is far from being single and available.
@JosyJosy, I want you to answer this question (for yourself), too.Lately, no it really hasn't bothered me. I just have been going to work and then go home. I have kids but they live next door with my mom but I spend the time I am not at work with them so I really dont think about having a partner. It has been nice not having to have some dictate my life and what I do or don't do but there are a few lonely nights where it would be nice to cuddle up and watch a movie not alone. But I've been working on me and I'm doing better tha ever!
No. In fact I want to be single my whole life. Yet now I didn't had a strong crush. But I won't mind being in relationship if it is a Cute east Asian boy. My ideal type is - Cold hearted or bad boy type but secretly have a nice heart, Cute, One who can cuddle me all day long, Tall with broad shoulders, Age gap should be 2-5 years where he will be older than me.
I suppose yes it absolutely would bother me. Companionship is something sometimes desperately saught by many.
However sometimes being in a relationship can be just as lonely as not being in one. 😔.
Regardless the worst sensation is going to bed alone and waking alone. It's quite difficult being happy and excited or being down and blue and having no one to share it with. Sometimes a hug can fix everything but when there's no one or nothing to hug but a pillow... It's heart wrenching.
I have certainly have had my share of lonely nights through my times.I think people should live in the moment and take the best of where they are at today. So many of us want to be somewhere else or in some other status - and then when we get there, we either miss things about where we were at before, or we start thinking about something else they we want.
Live in the moment, enjoy your now. Things about being single are an advantage - and to be enjoyed. If you are single, enjoy that while you can and focus on the good things. Count your blessings. Don’t sit there and play a negative tape in your head. Later when you are married you may look back and miss things about being single. So enjoy those things now while you are in them.Kind of because it feels like there is no one compatible for me. Also, I an introvert so I really like having a lot of time to myself but sometimes wish I had someone to share stuff with. However, if I was in a relationship I feel like my partner would want more attention from me than I'd be capable of providing so single is fine for now I guess.
not, one, bit... no
almost two years single... no issues
but also, I am used to it... I usually spend around a year single between relationships, the pandemia just made it longer this time, but it's fine really, I'm in no rushYes.
I can't do most of the things I want to while I'm single, and 99.9% of them don't even involve anything sexual.
If I had a girlfriend, I would cancel my internet and any online subscriptions, stick to offline multiplayer in older challenging video games with just her, and spend lots of time collaberating on creative ideas and projects with her.
Yes I could do those things online, but its eay more expensive, buggy, laggy, and risks idea theft, and you can't poke someone over the net at 3am until they wake up because you thought of a really cool project idea, or just wanted to play soulcalibur 3.Sometimes it do and sometimes it doesn't!
I do feel lonely and I don't have another person who I can have share interest with, plus I do see these happy couples and terrible feel desperate because I don't have a girl on my shoulder.
While I am happy being single because I just need to focused on my own health and safety, usually most couples get into nasty fights and dispute on certain issues as a single man I don't have a girl who I would just constantly get into fights which is a great thing, plus as a person who doesn't want children at least being single I don't technically need to worry about possibly impregnating a girl considering I don't have a girl at the moment so basically I am both bothered with being single but I also super happy with the idea as well.When I was, it did bother me a little to be honest, but at the same time i enjoyed my freedom in general, i only had studies and parties in mind... as for now, growing up, i have a relationship added with other problems called LIFE
Either way, being single is not a tragedy as long as you find the correct distraction.Of course not. I totally love it. I just wish to remain single, lead a highly disciplined life with no bad habits and enjoy life in my way. Live life by my rules.
Doesn't matter if I am branded as someone unusually different from others.It used to. And I used to take women's rejection very personal. But now I realize how women judge guys and it's just comical to me. It's no wonder so many of them end up with complete zeros.
But it's like OZ. After seeing behind the curtain and seeing how foolish women are at the choices they make it's hard to respect them. Sorry but it makes a majority of the women undesirable to me. I've built a life without women in it. And while I don't mind a date here and there. And having women friends. Why would I ever make a woman a permanent fixture in my life?It used to. But I realized that I need to focus/work on myself more before I get into a relationship.
Not at all... i been divorced since 2013 and been single ever since and I have freedom... do what I want with whomever I want... not questioned about my whereabouts etc. If I wanna cuddle or get lonely nothing that a fuck buddy or a one night stand might benefit from!
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