Ever had a fantasy that you know is impossible but you brain just won’t let go of?

[Anonymous]

I have a simple “fantasy” if getting closure with an ex from many years ago. I do not fantasize about getting back together or being friends. Even if she miraculously asked me to reunite a damaged part of me would never fully trust her again. However just talking through the what happened a long time ago would do a lot for me.

I know it’s impossible. But my lizard part of my brain just won’t let go of it. It’s pain just slowly fades but never completely healed.

[Guy13]

Have you ever contacted her and asked?

[Asker]

I tried to a while ago. It’s a very touchy subject so I couldn’t just call her up and yell at her like I wanted to. Instead I spaced out “friendly” messages trying to start a dialogue. She responded curtly at times and at other times not at all.

While doing this I started to realize I was walking the stalker line there. Which absolutely sucked. But i had to get something out of my system. I finally sent her a very carefully written be tactfully honest about where I stood. She never responded but I am quite sure she read it.

Bottom line I think she cheated but doesn’t want to own up to it. It would explain why she never told me to stop contacting her and why she treated me like I was less than human (shocked) years ago. Never got it confirmed.

[Asker]

*written email

[Guy13]

Let it go. there is no chance that she will ever be honest. Remove the thoughts of her when they come into your head is all I can say. Read the Bible or whatever...

[Asker]

Yeah I’ve done virtually every thing I could short of contacting her again (which I won’t). It’s just a very slow healing wound. Any peace and Merry Christmas.

[Guy13]

Yep, the fourth quarter makes everything harder as we reevaluate life. I have to fight not to do that myself. I try to save that for Valentine's Day...

[MCheetah]

Yes. A loving relationship with a good (and sexy) woman who loves me fully and genuinely. I'm too short (and ugly, and old) for that though; not to mention how real women act and behave nowadays, so it is literally impossible for me to have a genuine loving relationship with a modern-era woman.

A loving, long-term, genuine relationship with a good woman. Impossible for me, but I can still dream, can't I?