I dont like my boyfriend dad, but he doesn't see the issue with the things he says?

[Anonymous]

about a month ago, my boyfriend dad came to visit an he stayed with us for bout a week before he left, an during that time, hed insult my fiance, but then make horrible comments about me, especially my health, well i was on my period an @ 4:30 in the morning he was expecting me up to cook an clean, but because of my period i was cramping, an he told my fiance after i got up from bed, he said to my fiance you better not have a girlfriend with problems or im sending her away, an makes several threats about making him leave me

[SnowedIn]

You have a choice. Accept your boyfriend/fiancé and understand that his dad comes with him or decide that dealing with the dad isn't worth it and you give up the boyfriend. You're not going to change the dad. Frankly, it sounds like your boyfriend isn't doing much about his dad so you may want to rethink this relationship.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah that’s terrible and shitty. He shouldn’t be coming to your house and demanding things out of you. That’s entitlement and he’s capable of cooking himself or going and getting something to eat

[OlderAndWiser]

Who maks the decisions: yur boyfriend or his dad? Better figure that out now!

[Asker]

his dad pays all the bills, an will force his decision by flying me home, an him back to nevada, so he gets scarred his dad will do that to if he tries to argue with him

[OlderAndWiser]

That goes with the territory when you date a boy instead of a man. If he can't take care of himself, he obviously can't take care of you. Enjoy this while it lasts.

[Guy13]

Hateful and unhappy old man... let it go if possible.

[Asker]

but every time he talks to him on the phone now, his dad gets mad im with him, an if im sick an his dad finds out, his dad says i need to leave to go back home, an then gets mad at my income.

[Guy13]

That Dad is one meddlesome man... who needs to get a hobby !! Is his Mother accessible?

[TallAnon]

A lot of what you consider normal comes from your parents. He night really not realize something was wrong. Sounds like a terrible experience, you definitely need to talk with him about it.

[Asker]

I've talked to him bout it, but he tells me not to worry, or just gets fustrated talking bout it, but after he gets done talking with his dad i end up getting yelled at to.

[TallAnon]

It's good to consider what actions you want him to take