What qualities make a man husband material?

[Splithead]

I try to be chill, generous, caring, kind with my words, and ambitious.

But lately i wonder if there's a more do. inating element that i'm missing.

I have ambition, but i dont crush people to get there.

I have self doubt, but i never stop trying and nobody has to force me to move, i challenge myself.

At age 30 though i wonder if my potential should have matriculated into sometging more by now. Perhaps there's an element of grit. Of force that i haven't learned to wield properly yet.

What say you all. What traits sould you want in your male partner.

[WonderBell99]

I'm not big on marriage, but I don't mind it.

I prefer men who are chill, caring, protective, kind, respectful, has his emotions in control, courageous, faithful, humble and does not belittle me. I prefer men who use their intelligence to improve themselves and others around them. I like men who take care of themselves and their body, meaning, someone who likes to stay fit (not a fan of the crazy bodybuilder body).

I absolutely HATE men who lose their temper during arguments. I love it when a guy validates my emotions and lends a shoulder for me to cry on when I'm going through a hard time. I want someone who is good at communicating their emotions. Most of all, I want someone who knows who they are and what they want to do with their life.

Maybe you're focusing too much on being a perfect husband material that you are not being the best version of yourself but striving for societal perfection that just does not exist. Not every woman is the same. You will not be compatible with all of them. Being a perfect man on paper does not equal reality.

You need to be yourself, and that too, the best version of yourself that you can be every day when you are on a date with someone, because if you try to be someone you're not, you will not know if you are actually compatible with them or not until it's too late.

[Splithead]

Yea. I actuslly love myself. I just feel like i need to be able to juggle more things successfully. And also i feel like being black makes women afraid you won't make money so im dealing with that insecurity. That said my tride and true method of crushing insecurity is... stsring it in the face and disproving it by muscling through.

I csn get back to my fun self after the cash has been made.

And yes... im a total try hard. Not a perfectionist, but honestly im okay with it.

[Akam93]

Honesty, romantic, independent, loving, passionate, and just be himself.

[Akam93]

And also loves kids.