Would you live with the family of your partner if necessary?

[lemonette]

Let's assume that the circumstances require it. Is this absolutely impossible for you or can you just adapt such a situation?

[Guy13]

As landlord, I see the 3rd generation family moving into bottom of split-level with daughter, SO, and 2 children. Retirement money for 3000 4 bed/2.5 bath home Rent and daycare savings is a necessity today.

Can you imagine the initial boundary setting and compromise discussion on the front end of such a move. And if one worked remotely from home …how all that is complicated in another’s home.

[Anonymous]

I don’t mind because I want to have kids and they are going to be helpful beside children need to know who’s their aunt uncle etc they need to grow close to their mom fam and dad fam side in my opinion
That’s why in the US majority is homeless if they are fired or without a job because they don’t even knows who’s their 1st cousin or family to give them a HAND
Shit happens in life you need and have to know your close blood - or raised family members.
You don’t need to suffer for things like not paying a rent or fig isn’t a job or starting that’s what family is about for bad days. But to have this opportunity you need to be close to them and “grow” near them or at least keep in contact with them.
Something in the US is hard to do
One lives in Texas 1 in NY lol

[Opinion Owner]

Or finding a job * not fig lol

[Opinion Owner]

Starving * not starting

[Tracker1958]

The longer people live a certain way, the harder it is to change the dynamics. Single people that live years alone, will never be happy with anyone living with them.

[Prettygurl12]

If the option was that we live together or we're homeless, yes, I could live with them.

However, not under any other circumstances. We lived with his parents for 4 months when we moved back to our home state and were house hunting. I'm very grateful for their hospitality, but it was a rough 4 months 😅

[ArtemisSilver]

I've done it. I had hoped that we could all work together and help eachother through the financial woes of the era, but boomers are too arrogant and selfish in north america.

It ended with us moving back out no better off than when we'd come and with my prideful mother in law losing her house.

I had offered to take over the mortgage on the condition that I be given fair equity in ownership and that she and her sister move into a mother in law style secondary suite.

Wasn't to her liking, and frankly my offer was saintly kind. I'd rather just have my privacy while fucking her daughter rather than share the place and have to keep things quiet.

[Tracker1958]

Maybe you should have F the mother also. That's were you went worng. Lol.

[Spiritofn]

My boomer grandma is amazing when it comes to finances but she used to also be amazing when it came to emotional support
She doesn’t offer that to me anymore.

[whorable]

if they got along with me.. because i’m pretty low maintenance and keep my opinions to myself and don’t start drama.. yet if they start with me i’m not gonna ignore the conflict for long even though i will try for the sake of my partner. long story short yes if they liked me

[Chazmatazz269]

Highly unlikely, but we often don’t really know the extents to which we’d submit ourselves until circumstances present themselves. I wouldn’t rule much out short of the fact that i’m almost entirely self sufficient under the most dire circumstances for no less than twenty eight weeks. I have few rules that might interfere with tapping into those resources ahead of schedule.

[ManOnFire]

It would have to be for a really serious reason, like we lost our home in a fire or something and her family's place is the only one that had room - or generosity - enough to let us stay. The biggest thing I would be concerned about is the privacy when we have sex. Ya know, being heard or not.

[God_of_Thunder]

I did, when I was younger (very early 20's).

My fiance and I stayed with her father, while we were saving up for a house of our own. It was a decent arrangement, if somewhat awkward.

That was when I was younger, though. At this point in my life, that wouldn't be an acceptable arrangement, because it would be unnecessary.

[mstbooblover]

If very serious circumstances forced me, sure that would be possible, but I will always prefer living on my own, single or with an intimate partner, than squatting in my partner's family home. I've had enough of forced living together at border schools and the army. Not likely I'll ever live with anyone's family.

[libsaretards]

Depends on how well we get along.

For example, I love my mom but she is way too damn controlling and that makes me want to live on the street before living with her.

If her family is accepting of me and we get along, I'd have no problem with it. However, I would not feel great about it and I would do everything in my power to show them I am working on getting us stable. I NEVER want them to think I cannot take care of their daughter.

[Anonymous]

It would be advantageous for raising kids as it allows said kids to get the wisdom and support of the generation that had actually lived life while the parents are out working to support them.

This is how human populations survived and passed on such skills and culture since day one until about 80 years ago when Social Security allowed grandparents to live on their own. It really shouldn't shock anyone what happened to every generation thereafter.

[Sparkie460]

I've had to do that. The place we were renting went to foreclosure even though we were paying the landlord every month. We were only given 30 days to vacate the house. We couldn't find a place fast enough. My wife, baby and I moved in with her parents. It lasted a year because we decided to have a house built instead of renting again. It wasn't easy but we managed.

[Kori1236]

I would only do it if it was my very last option. I like my own space. And the boundaries I’d have to set. But if they have kids it’s a hard nope I’d rather be homeless or move back in with my mom.

[Haha456]

In most countries outside of the US, most adult children live with their parents and families. Its considered the norm for the rest of the world. But not the US.

[jorfan3]

If it were a absolutely necessary, I'd create some VERY strong boundaries, and my immediate priority would be moving out. Living with a friend would be preferable.

[DizzyDesii]

can't believe I considered that BS once. But hell no!! I dont even know if i wanna live with anyone

[DoctorSex]

As a woman I guess it's fine. But as a man it's absolutely abhorrent.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[Lliam]

If the circumstances required it, I could adapt and make it work for a while, as long as I got along with her parents.

[petitedollbabee]

Sure, I love his family, they’ve always been very welcoming and kind to me.

[lightbulb27]

Yes. Lets hope not, but I'm fairly easy to live with... or so I think... haha.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I can try for sure. Further things depend on how they unfold.

[mobiusforniner]

I can't even stand my in laws living in the same state...

[suckmytitties]

Freshly in the relationship, absolutely not. If we have been together for a couple of years then I would consider.

[7offman]

You said it’s necessary , so it’s seems it’s necessary to do so at least at the moment. You can always change your mind and leave if things don’t go as expected.

[Anzyy]

Yes I would. But I would make all the necessary arrangements like locks on the door. Sound cancellation stuff. And a bed that doesn't creak or make noise that much

[AmeerX]

I might live with them but only temporarily. İ don't like the idea of being in debt to my in laws.

[Summeroflove]

This just totally depends

[nawtee_me]

I have done it for a little while so we could save some money for our own place.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Well that all depends on if I get along with them or not and if I had absolutely no place else to go

[KathrynTaylor]

I’d rather not, but yes.

[dustybiker]

Yes. They are wonderful in their own way.

[DarkCarousel]

Under certain circumstances, yes.

[SnowedIn]

Have and would.

[Agape93]

Nope. I've already a mind to beat their heads in.

[IveGotNoName]

Not if it were a permanent/long term thing

[douride2]

Not a chance it would ever happen.

[moonpie89]

I can adapt. I'm cultural too

[Alex8736]

as long as we have our privacy

[Thatguy77786]

Yes, but only for a short time

[Anonymous]

I like big family. The more the merrier

[Iron_Man]

Yes.,.,

[hothirldoll]

If we get well

[jimmy2]

Not sure

[MuhammedNada]

it depends

[Anonymous]

It's possible