Is it bad I do this?

[Anonymous]

I tell myself I’m too toxic and I’ll never be mentally ready to be with someone. I do this to the point where I suppress my feelings if i think about being in a relationship. I’m just afraid of what kind of partner I’ll be. It may sound bad but I gotta do what’s best for me and my future partner.

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I’ve been doing this since from a young age. I’ve been quite grown to it.

[Guy13]

When one speaks about relationships the way you have two things come to our mind. First possibility is that this woman is crazy, unrealistic, and detached from her intelligent design and a basic understanding of herself and others. The second is, "please, we all know you are dying for a relationship and the intimacy that comes along with it." Consistency would help you greatly in your search for completeness. Good luck !!

[Asker]

What’s your thoughts on having panic attacks thinking about being with someone? Because that’s what I get.

[Guy13]

Spend some time with a psychologist and learn strategies to manage those feelings. That's above my pay grade.

[Asker]

I do take take deep breaths and keep my mind busy. It helps a lot.

[Asker]

Whoops! Didn’t mean for that second ‘take’ lol 😂

[Guy13]

Anxiety, right... ;-)

[Asker]

Yeah, I guess anxiety is the right word than panic.

[Asker]

But, the positive side I feel better afterwards.

[Guy13]

👍👍👍. It’s a New ♥️ Year…. Never know who might drop in our lap. Tried www.meetup.com I play indoor outdoor soccer there and some socials.

[Asker]

What about my toxicity? I’m super toxic and have major red flags.

[Guy13]

I don’t know. If I knew you in person then I would be more comfortable giving that sort of assessment. You seem nice enough too me.

[Asker]

I sent you follow. Thought maybe I can message you and give you an insight about myself. If you like.

[AmeerX]

Actually I had this feeling for some time that I am being put in a dangerous situation by God where I might end up cheating on a girl and I go to hell. So, I feel like avoidance is becoming my trait especially lately. In the past I didn't overthink this much but I just don't know I feel like I want something I can't have and end up doing the worst things in life to get it. Even though I feel once I get it it won't make me feel any happier.

Glad someone else is also sharing the situation.

I think I will go crazy but the problem is if I accept my feelings and preferences I am given the scornful gaze by the people. So, I don't know what to do about it.

A YouTube psychologist said people like me are on Dopamine side while those who are content with whatever they have are on the serotonin side.

We want something new to happen once we attain a certain level or thing

[Summeroflove]

I suppose. But if you’re ready to date now. When you find the right one you’ll know

[Asker]

I don’t think I’ll ever be ready. I’m so comfortable being single that finding someone scares the living shit out of me.

[Summeroflove]

Well then be happy being single nothing wrong with that

[Asker]

To be honest, it gets so bad that I get panic attacks.

[Summeroflove]

Sorry about that. I think if you don’t have one you need someone whose a professional

[Asker]

I mean, I do find ways to calm myself down. Like, I take deep breaths and keep my mind busy. They don’t happen often but once in awhile they get me.

[Summeroflove]

Yes this is good but I also think if you’re going through something mentally you need a professional to help you

[Asker]

Probably. But, I feel like this is something so stupid to talk about. Hell, I’ve never talked to my friends or family about this either.

[Summeroflove]

It’s not your feelings are valid. I get family and friends sometimes for some are hard to talk to. This is why you need someone whose a professional

[BJP21]

Demonstrate your feelings and let the the man decide how he feels about it. Ill say men dont like drama, chronic emotional train wrecks, or being verbally/mentally/emotionally abusive. If you stick to these things alone, you'll do just fine.

[Asker]

I’m really toxic and have major red flags.

[Mansearching]

There's gives and takes to be in a relationship. Try to change what makes you toxic first then try to in one.

[Asker]

I was just going to stay single.

[Mansearching]

That's up to you

[JPresidente]

Try to find the best in yourself and others and realize that there is someone for you. Think positive! 😎

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Yes because it sounds like you are craving a relationship with someone.

[Asker]

Being with someone scares the living shit out of me. Liking someone gives me panic attacks.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Why would liking someone give you panic attacks

[Asker]

If a guy ever found out I liked him, he’ll get angry.

[Jamie05rhs]

It's good that you can be honest about that. Honesty is healthy.

[Bklynbadboy12]

What type of partner do you think you'll be?

[Asker]

A very bad one

[Bklynbadboy12]

For some strange reason I don't think you would be you come across has been kind caring and very nurturing all are good qualities a guy would want his girl to have

[Asker]

Until they get to know the real me. I may seem kind and caring on the outside, but in the inside, I’m a totally different person.

[Asker]

*on the inside

[Bklynbadboy12]

What type of person are you

[Asker]

I can be very bitchy to people.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Now that I believe but I also think your very protective of the people you care for