Am I bad for doing this?

[Birdylove]

So I'm 33 and just was talking to a 27 year old. Im working and hustling and whereas he helps out with his parents cleaning business part time.

Everytime we go on dates I pay for everything except the one time he paid which is fine. I don't mind paying. I took him on adventures to places he's never been.

His parents lost a major contract and I tried to give him some help to get them back on their feet by offering to design and build a marketing campaign for them. He didn't take the offer which is fine.

I feel that I may be used as a sugar mommy and we had a date planned but I cancelled because I fear that I may play a role as the rescuer.
I have love for him and I care about him so much. I want to be his friend and be there for him. Am I horrible for leaving him at this time? I'm doing it tactfully and limiting my access to him until I move on. We haven't had sex yet and I don't think I will.

You are bad

Understandable

[Anonymous]

You've created a self fulfilling prophecy. If he didn't refuse your help, you would have been even more convinced. The simple solution is to find someone on your level and leave this guy alone completely. That means no friendship. I suggest you tackle your existing issues before going back to dating. You may have a rescuer complex yes.

[TenkRealist]

Just don't go running back to him after he gets back up on his feet. Those who leave during bad times, shouldn't be present in good times either. That's all.

[Birdylove]

I am not like that at all

[TenkRealist]

Cool

[1GoldTwins]

If you think you're being a sugar mommy, just do dates that do not involve spending.

[Wise4myage]

B. Its ok to pitch in and help, but only to a certain extent. He sounds like a moocher.