Would you rather have your boyfriend last 30secs or 1hr if so why?

[Anonymous]

[Rosexøxø]

30 seconds. I’m not exactly the pleasing type… sexually. He wants me to be an alien girl for 3 hours.. and I may not be up for it 😂.

I don’t like the fantasy of sex. I don’t like pretending. Doing that for an hour would be bothersome.

Us enjoying each other can happen and unravel itself in natural timing, and I can choose to go further from there if I desired. For him to not be able to climax, only till after an hour, would be such a frustration.

If it took either of us that long.

If we did climax (shortly), and wanted to go on… that’s a different story and probably the better option.

[BarryLiverstone]

Good answer. If he finishes quickly the first time he still has hands and a mouth to use and still engage. Isn’t like he finishes and leaves right away right?

[Rosexøxø]

@BarryLiverstone mmmm good point but it’s not like I’d expect him to do that for me lol I can enjoy myself with my hand while being around him or still grind on his leg. No reason for him to slave away😂

Now if that turns him on or he wants to, I wouldn’t stop him lol

But you’re exactly right 👐😂

[BarryLiverstone]

Glad you feel confident to do it on your own. Some people would feel like he’s disconnecting if he didn’t participate a lot until he’s ready

[BarryLiverstone]

by the way you are right. It certainly is a turn on to give her pleasure and can help stimulate things seeing her reactions

[Rosexøxø]

@BarryLiverstone is that before or after his orgasm?

[BarryLiverstone]

So for me it’s both. The seduction and foreplay before my orgasm is exciting as I can see her get more and more warmed up until the point she just lets go and experiences pleasure. That’s a turn on.

After my initial orgasm watching her build up to the next one or just paying attention to her and staying connected is a turn on as I can start to mentally get excited again. If I see her orgasm again it’s encouraging as I know she’s enjoying herself.

If that makes sense?

[Rosexøxø]

@BarryLiverstone yeah it does! That’s awesome dude!

And thanks for explaining this in a clear manner. I’ll have to take note of that 📝

🤝

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome. Def you can take notes but also as we know everyone is different and maybe he just would prefer to go to sleep ;)

Part of the reason I will stay engaged even if I’m feeling tired is I don’t think every sex session is separated.. for me I think it’s a circle so when the orgasm happens it’s time to start seduction for the next one even if that is the next day or next hour lol

[Rosexøxø]

@BarryLiverstone lmao that’s a cool way of looking at it 😂 it does help open the thought and option plane as far as men go, but ofc I’ll have to be more understanding about guys and their variety in pref. s

#MajorHelp

Many thanks 💪😁

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome

[Apple1996]

30s would be better. Who has a 1hr to waste everyday?

[bamesjond0069]

Wtf? Lol. Who doesn't have 1hr to enjoy themselves and bond in their relationship every day?

[Apple1996]

@bamesjond0069 couples that have jobs/kids/real shit to worry about don't have a hour everyday for sex

[bamesjond0069]

I'd find that hard to believe though. In my mind that means they don't have time for TV or video games or reading a book or friends or going on a date together. They would be working at least 60 hour weeks and have recently had like quadruplet infants.

[Apple1996]

@bamesjond0069 truly most couples don't have time for date nights/tv/games. I'm over here barely even have time to eat, sleep, shower and that is the norm for parents
And still even if there was a hour of free time having sex for a hour would not be satisfying at all. Longer time does not equal better sex

[bamesjond0069]

I don't know I just don't think an hour is a long time. Seems about high average. 30 seconds isn't even sex in my opinion. Like why bother? It doesn't even do anything?

I don't know I never met a couple that doesn't have time for friends or TV. Like my friends just had a baby and they watch TV and I've hung out with them. And all that. They still have time.

But ofc if I'm friends with a couple or friend that's taken... clearly I'm only friends with couples that have time for friends or else I'd never know them. Lol.

[Apple1996]

@bamesjond0069 making time to see friends/family is easy when having a kid. Literally is a way to free up time since more people around to keep the kid distracted from trouble but when at home alone its just about impossible to find free time to be together.

And nah 30s is much better in my opinion. I'd rather get filled up quick and get the rush instead of having to wait. If a guy is over 20 mintues then something is definitely wrong with him like porn addiction/medical problems/possible trauma. Average sex last 5-10 mintues at most for a healthy man.

[bamesjond0069]

🤣 no comment needed.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@Apple1996
Not every couple has sex every day they have time for it.

[Apple1996]

@MysteriousDarkness yeah true depends on a couples sex schedule. If they are rarely doing it then a hour might be fine but a active sex life like a hr everyday/every other day would be a lot of time wasted

[Looksnicholas]

For question purposes: i'd rather my girlfriend (if I had one) last 1 hour than she last only 30 seconds. If she only wanted me to last 30 seconds, I'd find a new girlfriend. 😁😁😁... Now keep in mind, I wouldn't just be banging away hard for 1 hour, I'd be giving medium tempo thrusts, medium strokes, nothing that's jackhammer like.

And realistically I probably only last 5-10 mins max, if I'm pacing myself and that's after foreplay even. 😈😈😈

[SnowedIn]

Isn't this a false equivalency? Let's say there was an hour of foreplay complete with several orgasms for her as his tongue and hands satisfied her body. And then 30 seconds of thrusting followed by his orgasm. Isn't that better than an hour of mindless intercourse? Aren't you dried out by then?

[mobiusforniner]

From my experience, women don't find a constant slamming all that pleasurable. Sure, a good 30 min pounding may be fun but from what I'm told anyway, it feels like constant punching to the gut and lower back pain. Women prefer a guy giving them multiple stimulations (i. e. tongue, fingers, etc) to get off. So yeah, definitely longer than 30 seconds, but not more than 30 minutes.

[Looksnicholas]

Surely though that pain of 30 mins pumping or pounding depends on the intensity or if it's gentle to mild, surely more tolerable? Haha

[mobiusforniner]

@Looksnicholas depends on the day. When the wife wants it doggy style I know she's done with the session. I never last long in that position.

[Andres77]

If you had quality sex this wouldn't be a question. Try rewording the question to "would you like 0-1 orgasm or 10?" and see the responses.

If you haven't had 10 orgasms in a single hour then you've not had what I'd call quality sex. You've settled with whatever you got.

[bamesjond0069]

This exactly. I have two girlfriends and they both are getting off like every few minutes and i will just give one a few then go to the other for a few and back and forth for over an hour often approaching two. None of us find it a waste of time.

[Andres77]

@bamesjond0069 👍👍👍

[Anonymous]

I'm asexual. I don't mi d if he lasts 30 seconds. He sometimes does last an hour but I try to speed him up. What surprises me is when he's ready for round 2 or 3.

[Looksnicholas]

You mean he seriously won't ejac for 1 hour? Seems almost impossible. Ah well, some genetically gifted 😌😌😌

[GOOSEBOY78]

great lovers are made not born.

short performance isn't always cut n dry issue...

[Snedger____]

Why would someone choose 30s

[Asker]

Some girl said she rather pick 30s bc she find it offensive if the guy last long and don’t cum fast

[Snedger____]

Lol that’s strange. My girl want it harder and faster for long time.

[Looksnicholas]

I'd pick 1 hr as a woman