What's the difference between SETTLE and SETTLE DOWN?

[AviatorTom]

SETTLE vs SETTLE DOWN... In a relationship, what is the difference? Or are they the same?

[Guy13]

It’s a big difference to Settle on who someone is verse relationally Settling Down with partner within the said realization.

In a relationship connotation Settle verse Settling Down can affect both happiness and success. 1. Settle suggests a negative outcome such as settling for 100,000 rather than that 150,000 salaried man. “I swore that I would never date another life wasting, Momma basement dwelling, and couch sitting Gamer again BUT, sure enough, he is Gamer.”
Compromising on everything is an example of settling for the sake of having something to settle down into. This will implode as those things being avoided or ignored will exacerbate into annoying or negative settlements.

Settle can also be a good place to be. At least in our head we have come to terms with who the person is. We are beginning to settle in with the actuality of who we MAY settle down with.

Settle down suggests a permanent and fixed state where one is calm and comfortable with Self, partner, and the formation of two into one. Settled down seems purrrrfect in its beginning but, as we soon learn, this dynamic is anything but fixed.

Let the nagging and changing and fixing and realignment, and “man, can I deal with this 🦇 💩 Crazy woman thinking on how I should be and act…. I didn’t leave a Mom to go get another one….”, begin as we rediscover one another at least monthly….

[exitseven]

They are not the same When you settle in a relationship you choose somebody that was not your first choice but you think you will never get the one you want so the person you end up with is a consolation prize

When you settle down you decide on a partner and intend to mate for life

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Sorrento-Sun]

They're totally different

Settling generally means you are just with someone for the sake of being in a relationship. Because you have given up on finding the type of person you really want to be with.

Settling down means you are committed to one person and you both build a future life together.

[TacosRAwesome]

For me, settle down means that you had a fun fulfilling single life and now it's time to find someone to ground you and keep you calm. Settle means lowering your standards to do so.

[AmandaYVR]

Compromise vs. get out of the rat race.

[Chazmatazz269]

There is little difference. They are related in name and in practice.
Settling means lowering your standards, usually to satisfy someone else’s expectations rather than your own. Settling down means slowing your pace of life, also usually to satisfy someone else’s expectations.
It’s tough to lower your output without sacrificing your standards. People change, but rarely drastically and rarely suddenly. Sudden and drastic change is almost unheard of for good reason. It’s usually no bueno.

[Pitalynn]

Settling is when you know that the person isn’t the best fit or you don’t love them the way that you should or they don’t love you the way they should or because it’s better than being alone or raising kids as a single parentdo you know when When you know you put out more than they do or you’re willing to do more than they are you’re settling

Settling down is when you No longer feel the need to go out to clubs over parties date different people you found somebody that you would rather stay in and watch TV with all night your pajamas raising kids working planning things to look forward to in life and making memories settling down is when you know you found somebody that that you want to share and make memories with something like that I guess

[Pitalynn]

May I just add if you even think that they’re close to the same thing and I don’t mean this in a bad way towards you I’m sorry but you definitely need to reevaluate whatever relationship you’re in if it’s pertaining to that because there’s such a difference between the two that’s the difference of being in love and wanting to share your life with somebody I am curious if you don’t mind is this pertaining to you are you in a relationship and what do you think are you settling does this help you at all just curious I’m bored lol no one to talk to

[CrazyGirl2]

To settle is to except less than you deserve,
whereas settle down has multiple meanings:

1) To become quiet, calm, or orderly.
2) To begin to live a steady life by marrying, and getting a “real” job, house etc..

[NotTacocaT6969]

To settle means to choose something you did not particularly want because the thing you wanted was not available.


You order a chicken sandwich, they tell you they have no chicken and give you turkey. You settle for turkey because the only other option is nothing and you’re hungry.


To settle down means to remain in a relationship with one person, settle into a home together, fall into a routine and…well, that’s pretty much it.

[NathanDavis]

Settle Down is a cool song...

https://www.youtube.com/embed/u1mUwwuw4Ik

[Amy10223]

I think a "settle down" means to quiet oneself and remain calm, while to settle (something) is to is to make an effort in order to fix something, or to pay a debt.

[perpetial]

Easiest terms to settle means to commit to a person out of convenience. Settling down means finding the right person.

[DizzyDesii]

Settling is just taking anything because you’re slick desperate. Settle down means you're tired of hoeing and want to stick with one and commit

[Sasha0426]

Settle means you settle for someone when you feel you have no other option and you’re desperate to be in a relationship. Settle down means you’re ready for marriage and spend the rest of your life with your partner. And have kids, if you want any.

[UniquelyBasic]

It's what you do with settling that determines if it's bad or good. It's not a negative by default.

[LiamJHayden]

Settle: accept less than you really want

Settle Down: marry. The partner might be someone one settles for, or might be just about perfect.

[Agape93]

I see no difference aside from what you do once you settle.

[purplepoppy]

Jane decided to settle for Paul not John.
Paul could not settle his debt.

Are you going to settle down with John? Ie establish a home with
Are you going to settle for John? Ie choose John

[exitseven]

I guess you like The Beatles

[Curmudgeon]

@exitseven I am surprised she didn't use "Cynthia" or even "Yoko" for her name.

[exitseven]

@Curmudgeon hahahaha Yoko.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Settle reminds me of physical diffusion. Settle down reminds me of social stuff. I’m horrible at the latter!

[Iron_Man]

For example, like you are just settling for somebody, then the other term is use as settled down calm down, have a seat

[Figurine89]

Settle down means you're ready to get married, and live in a house and have kids. Settle means, you're settling for whatever you have at the moment, until something better comes along

[Anonymous]

Dating versus a relationship. Your question is silly.