For those of you not into monogamy, what are the perks of being with more than one person?

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I’m honestly too jealous to share. And i feel trapped being shared. So i feel monogamy or even simply remaining single is best for me. There was a time where love triangles were my thing. I think it started in childhood. I didn’t get along well with girls and always had two good guy friends. I probably was in about 1 in preschool, 3 in elementary, 2 in high school, 4 in college, and I lost count after that. I often felt overwhelmed and guilty for having options. I didn’t intentionally get into love triangles, but I didn't stop them either. After college, to ease the guilt, I would tell both dudes about each other up front... not in hopes they’d compete but in hopes they’d be patient with my decision (if they chose to stick around). I liked how they balanced me out and one dude would match me emotionally while the other shared my sexual interests. But I wouldn’t be physical until having made a decision. When I couldnt choose, I’d just drop both. When I could choose, I often felt obligated to choose whoever I knew the longest, despite him not being my true choice. Or when i felt like I loved one, I’d choose him despite the one who took things at a slower pace being the one who truly made me happy. I dealt with this shit too many times and just never want to feel that way again. So i feel getting into something possibly worse like polygamy wouldn't work for me. Anyways, I said I’d change my ways when 2020 hit and I definitely toned it down. The tempting thought still tries to creep up on occasion, but I’m just glad I don’t allow myself to have close male friends anymore. Nothing good will come of it if things don’t stay platonic #FeelFreeToList

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

Well when it comes to being in a sexual relationship, I am monogamous! However, when it comes to just dating, I have dated more than one guy. Guys are usually the ones who don’t want guys commitment anyway. The benefit of dating more than one man is that I can more easily see which one I like better when there is only 24hrs between dates. I don’t really like comparing people, but if you may spend the next year or more with someone, it’s a good thing to make sure he was the most compatible guy for me!

Blackcupcake · Accepted Answer

only time I would not be into monogamy is if I’m dating someone I’m not super into… lol
but in general, I do not share… once I claim him, he’s mine physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

Guy13 · Answer

Polygamous Alimony 🎉🎉🎉🎉.  Perk from Hell

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I'm not into poly relationships, but I've watched "harem" animes before (i'm not talking about the porn kind), the kind where it's not really a harem, but it's actually a bunch of women hoping they end up with this one guy. And in pretty much all of them, 1 of 3 things happen:

1. An endless "comical" fight over him that never escalates too far and never goes anywhere.
2. They all get along, but end up just never progressing past friends physically, but its mentioned that they all love him and things just "stay as they are".
3. He picks one.

I think the same is true in real life, feelings get in the way, having to "wait your turn" gets in the way, most people like the idea of multiple sexual partners until they mentally acknowledge that these are people, not sex toys, and if you actually love even one of them, you are going to want to spend all your time with that one. Feeling that way about 2 or more people at the same time sounds maddening tbh.

Finchie40 · Answer

Monogamy for me , I tried the other way once after my heart got shit on by a girl
I gave My heart to I went through a faze of just not giving a shit and not trusting girls so I just played the field dating and hooking up with multiple girls to come to realization it isn’t who I am , I realized I needed to feel chemistry and connection and that it meant something that she wanted me like I wanted her , When I was hooking up with those random girls and just having fun with them I started to feel dirty and degrading within myself and felt bad that I was being such a selfish asshole , I remember the day I snapped out of the funk I was going through , let’s just say I had 5 girls calling me the same day asking to see me , I honestly didn’t know which one to pick , I took a step back and Shook my head on how much of an selfish asshole I was being fucking with those girls hearts so that was my wake up call to look for true love find someone I can stay loyal and faithful to , find a girl that loves me like I love her , so out of those 5 girls I choose the one that I had the deepest connection with and ended it with all the others , that girl I choose became my wife , even though my wife ended up cheating on me after all the years we were together I can now only Commit to a girl is if she is into monogamy herself and believes in one on one relationships. I realize I can’t force someone to love me I can only treat them the same way I want to be treated , When I entered the dating world again after my divorce I been so lost on how much times have changed from the experiences with girls these days to the point I am just blown away questioning of monogamy still exists because of the experiences I have encountered with girls today , I still have hope that is does , I just realize it is just harder to find these days but I will stay single until I find her

Anonymous · Answer

I'm going anonymous because I swear you get judged for everything in here. Polygamous works for me, but I wouldn't know what to tell you if you want to date 3,4,5+ people. I think 3s my limit there.

You get you explore different desires with someone who is actually into it (maybe partner A doesn't like oral but partners B does), you can schedule so you can always have someone to spend time with and you can still plan for/ have your alone time. More people in the house also means more help and no one feels overwhelmed by anything

Jerre · Answer

Over 20+ years ago I was engaged. She wanted to fuck as much as I did, probably 5 times a week, sometimes 2-3 times in a day. Unfortunately, she was killed in an auto accident 2 weeks before our wedding. It took me many years to recover, most without sex. When I retired and moved to Florida around 2015, my cock woke up. Word got around about the size of my cock and the huge amount of cum I shot, so was fucking 4-5 times a week. I enjoyed different girls, different tits, different likes. Seems like every girl I met wanted to fuck me, even my married neighbors. I think if I ever met the right girl, I could be with her and put my past in the history books. Just fuck her and only her.

exitseven · Answer

I cannot imagine a polygamous relationship. I can barely walk and chew gum at the same time.

kellytheman · Answer

I never been with more than one girl at a time I just feel I be cheating on them and just appreciate who I am with. Now it's a little different if its friends with benefits deal I have had more than one friends with benefits before and they knew each other and at times we all three had sex together.

Agape93 · Answer

I don't get bored. If one partner is into something I like but another isn't, I have options. If one is busy, I still have options. If I have a gift idea for one, I can get the opinion of another. Etcetera

AimeeKyle · Answer

I don’t think a poly type relationship would be for me. I could see being I a committed relationship and then the two of us deciding to do some fun/wild stuff like bringing another guy or girl or couple to be adventurous with. But the two of us would always have to be doing things (somewhat) together…. I don’t think I could ever do any swapping.

JDavid25 · Answer

I don't even like thinking about other girls when I get a crush, let alone have multiple.. I like one at a time.. Although, I'm okay with talking to multiple girls though as long as I'm not attached emotionally to them.. Like on a dating app..

Aqueeld · Answer

Mostly i prefer one
But sometimes there is this craving for poly 🙈🙈
And that makes it very hard to deside &
Sometimes It's very exciting when i think about poly🙃🙃

It's hard to explain... Coz i keep getting confused about this one

WhitneySnow · Answer

I don’t wanna share or be shared. But I’ve never been in a love triangle and tbh I’m not sure what I’d do if I found myself in one.

Anonymous · Answer

You are never bored and life is far more spontaneous.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

The perks are that you're not tied down to one person which gives you variety.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I'm not interested in sharing my wife. I'm selfish in that sense

krin_m · Answer

I love both my girlfriends and I don't know that it is any different for me than a monogamous relationship (at least emotionally).

headphonekim · Answer

I have a few friends who are poly and they love it. I just can't do it.

Rudon00 · Answer

Well I will read the comments on this here. I cannot comment here.

jimmy2 · Answer

Just a little more fun, Plus for you bbfs what if your gal get pg from the other guy? I saw a movie on that wow

Anonymous · Answer

Variety. Like not eating the same thing for lunch and dinner every single day!

Msputiton · Answer

Good question

Guardian45 · Answer

Double the chances of a date anytime!🥵😈💜

TrillXHippy · Answer

I can only be with one person

Mark987 · Answer

Never been... but multiple partners

Alcoholic_Wannabe · Answer

I actually get to have a fuckin life.

Wish4UrB00ty · Answer

Well plaid!!

Anonymous · Answer

I mean i love blowing dudes more than anything

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