No effort boyfriend vs. doesn't know how to give me what I need?

[Anonymous]

So my therapist says he loves me but he's just not there yet or know how to give you what you need...

I've told him flowers, cards, notes, like not everyday but damn.. where is the effort.

Other than sitting in bed all day watching movies and only intimacy we only really have is sex.

I put my foot down yesterday but I miss him BUT I'm tired of never getting what I want. he's a good man but maybe not the man for me?

[BlackBeauty90]

ROFL. You have no self respect or something?

He's been using you for sex.

If he really loved you or appericated you he'd do more than call you whenever he happens to be feeling horny like you are a free prostitute. And he's probably got a number of free prostitutes on his phone. Some he values, others he doesn't have to.

[FilmGuy93]

Giving someone what they need is not a complicated thing, if you have self awareness. Regardless of whether your boyfriend loves you, he doesn't have the self awareness and emotional maturity to know how to give you what you need.

[Asker]

I feel dumb... I kept his baby

[FilmGuy93]

Hope has made me do some dumb things too.

[BlackBeauty90]

Be real. He's using her for sex. If he really valued her, he'd do more than call her whenever he's feeling horny from the sounds of it.

[FilmGuy93]

@BlackBeauty90 could be. Hurt people hurt people. It’s important to be discerning in who we allow into our lives romantically.

[TrustOfWorthington]

for A second there I thought you were talking about your therapist😅

[Anonymous]

I did the cards flowers notes etc for that jerk and all she did was cheat on me and didn't even once say thank you for any of it

[Pterodon]

It won’t ever change so you have a decision

[Asker]

I feel dumb because I kept his baby...

[Pterodon]

Get court ordered child support

[BlackBeauty90]

Be real. He's using her for sex. If he really valued her, he'd do more than call her whenever he's feeling horny from the sounds of it.

[BlackBeauty90]

@Pterodon - as they're not married she'd have to prove that the kid's actually his

[Pterodon]

@BlackBeauty90 that’s very easy to do these days

[BlackBeauty90]

@Pterodon rofl 🤣 DNA

[Asker]

@BlackBeauty90 there's something extremely wrong with you. Assuming just makes you look like a whole ass