its pretty easy to make small efforts that have huge impact, he doesn't have to dedicate every waking minute to you, however as you said, a spotify playlist is the least he could do.
thinking of romantic dates is usually the guy's job, regardless of what era we live in today.
if he is not willing to follow trough with small things to show his love for you, how do you know he'll do the big ones if need be.
to be honest, i do not know him, what he actually does, but right now, he does not seem comitted to your relationship.
if this is something that persists, you should take a close hard loook at your relationship and wether or not its worth fighting for.
I have this feeling that you know the answer and maybe just need affirmation. You clearly care more about the relationship than he does. But good thing for you there's something I can recommend to help. What you wrote here, say it word for word except not to us but, to him. Get his reaction and his response and you'll have a much clearer picture on where the two of you stand. GOOD LUCK!
When you asked this question, it means you don’t satisfy with your relationship. It normally ends up the girl wants more and the guy gets tired or stressful.
If you want him to take more effort then you can take less effort, don’t be nice and available all the time, develop something new and interesting for your life (dancing, sport...). When people lose attention, they will search for it.
If he doesn’t care then you know this guy is not into you that much.
If her is not putting effort into the relationship how do you know that he actually loves you? From all the healthy relationships I have seen both parties put effort into the relationship. Actions speak louder than words.
It means you should move on. You should find someone who values you and is willing to make an effort in your shared happiness otherwise what's the point of it?
Sounds like he's good at saying what you want to hear but if he can't even follow through with a playlist where is it really going?
s That he isn't bothered.
As the saying goes actions speak louder than words.
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Tricky situation. Thing is it might be completely unrelated to you. I have known guys act like that because they are trying to struggle with something in their life but dont want to see weak or pathetic to their other half. That usually ended up in the guy feeling really low and depressed. Like I said, its tricky but I have discovered this is usually the case.
He works two jobs. Give him some slack.
Does he change the tires? Put out the trash? Clean the dishes, laundry, or other chores? Does he fix or repair anything else around the house/apartment?
Remember men try to fix things more than anything else to show he cares.
Then again you can always tell him point blank. Listen if you don't come up with 3 dates or date ideas Imma gonna bail.
Either he'll comply or he's gonna call your bluff.
A counter question: Would you find it more or less attractive if he put in a little too much effort as opposed to too little? Are you sure he isn't putting up the no-effort façade because he knows at some deep level its attractive and you like it? Would you really be dating him if right off the bat he was berating you with affection and Spotify playlists?
I think if he makes you feel isolated and unloved it would be good to let him know and if you go unheeded it may be time to move on. Be real with what you need and if he won't leave him to what he may be more interested in; himself.
I think if he doesn't put effort in your relationship than you need to move on i mean it seems like your putting all the effort into it but yet he's not making any effort to do anything.
Guys can't think of a relationship 24/7, we have other people and many interests. I think you know your answer, but at least talk to him maybe you have too many expectations
Be real and add some preassure, or just keep going with it and see what happens in the long run. Or try to mix your intrests with yours see if that sparks something.
He might not show love in the same way you do/want him to. Stay the course, be encouraging, and he might surprise you
Girl just by asking urself (and us random people) this question means only that.. well.. he doesn't give a shit..
It sounds to me that he doesn't care about spending time or doing anything special for you. I think you deserve better
Tell him how you feel. If he doesn't change or even seem to care, you have your answer.
Maybe try remembering he is a man, Spotify lists don't appeal to guys. Maybe compromise, do something you think he will be interested in and then something for you. If he still doesn't do It, then he's too comfortable with you and needs a boot
1. He's selfish. 2. He doesn't see you as worthy of putting effort into because you don't put in any effort yourself
It's over find a guy who will you can beat a dead horse but it won't get up and run
Find someone who will treat you like a queen.
He doesn't like you as a person
Probably not really interested
Does he make the money in the relationship?
That he dosent care
U got good pussy
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