Should a man feel guilty for wanting a lot of children?

[Anonymous]

It seems unfair for me to ask that of a woman considering how much of a toll it would take on her

Yes

No

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I want a lot of children too. If I were a man, I would probably have a one child of each race, would love to spread my genes.

But I am a woman, I am limited.

So, I have to act like a woman, since I can’t get men pregnant. Good for you, boys.

There’s nothing wrong. That’s your biological role, to want to spread your genes.

[Adaeva]

If a man wants a lot of children, that is fine provided he discussed it with his wife prior to marriage and she agreed. After marriage, in the unlikely event she develops health problem or otherwise changes her mind, she cannot be forced. In that event, if he can afford it, there are surrogate mothers or they can adopt older children.

[Sour-rose]

Unless it's like that dude from law and order: SVU where that dude literally is insane about kids, no. He fked a lotta women of many colors and had kids with all of them. And he felt he did no wrong because he wanted to be a father to all of them with the women... and counting.

So as long it doesn't get that bad, nah. :)

[Puppystarfish23]

No I don't think so as long as you are willing to support that family and be a good dad to your children I don't see the issue as long as you know that your wife/ girlfriend is also happy with having lots of children and you don't expect the government to raise them.

[Adaeva]

Not okay for a man but it is okay if a woman and expects the government to pay to raise them.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBqjZ0KZCa0

[Puppystarfish23]

I literally said that

[Subarugirl]

No, not at all adoption is always an option.

If you are wanting biological children that is selfish honestly. Considering all the kids who need loving families, but as long as the mother wants them too and you are able to financially support all of them, no, you shouldn't have to feel guilty as long as you do your part in caring for them and raising them.

[annabananna]

No, I don’t think you should feel guilty for it. I think it’s good to go into a marriage with both wanting the same thing however once she has one if she had a difficult pregnancy be understanding if she changes her mind about wanting a bunch. I almost died in my first pregnancy so I don’t think I can do that a bunch of time but I’d still like to try it one more time.

[sunflower00]

No, but you should find someone who has compatible views and should discuss this before planning to have kids/getting married. Otherwise there may be resentment, difficult decisions to make, pressure, etc.

[melanieeeB]

Feel guilty? No, you can wish for as many children as you want but you can't force someone against their will to give you that tho

[sheikalana]

Nothing to feel guilty about but he should also be aware that a lot of women will not want the same as him.

[Anonymous]

No, it is a good thing. Quality men want marriage and children, and that sure beats sitting with your buddies and jacking off.

[Asker]

But isn't asking a woman to through pregnancy for your child asking a lot from her?

[TacosRAwesome]

No not at all. Just find a woman that wants the same thing. It's easier if you're more religious for example but I'm sure non religious women who want a lot of kids exist.

[TrueConfection]

You're not asking when it's her desire to have many children too.

[panerabricks]

no he just needs to find someone who wants the same. Not easy to do though in 2023