Should I be worried? my boyfriend (25) said that he ran into his crush from when he was 12 and that she still looked the same and lives here?

[Mckennalopez]

He said that he saw her at the supermarket but didn’t talk to her. i asked him how did he know that she lives here in this city? And he told me because she told him that she lived here in middle school is he lying? And now he’s also telling me that he saw her when we first met too. He told me that she’s skinny and white looking with brown hair I wish I was skinny. Jealousy kind of got the best of me and I told him why didn’t he just go fuck her if she’s everything that he wanted and he told me that she was pretty in middle school. I don’t know why I got so jealous I guess my boyfriend can’t mention other girls to me.

[SueShe]

If you are the jealous type of girl, then yes, it is worrisome that your boyfriend mentions other women. However, he should not better not to talk about them since he is aware that you are dramatizing everything that relates to women he once knews.

He made the mistake to tell you, knowing how you would react. He should have kept his mouth shut and his thoughts for himself.

Now, you will always have this encounter in the back of your head and you will always think that there may be more than just a coincidental meeting.

He is not so much the problem but you are actually. Your jealousy will impact on your relationship and your jealousy will eventually lead to a separation.

Both of you live a very unhealthy relationship. You because you are so suspicious and he because he cannot talk about his past with you.

[Mckennalopez]

Hey before you wrote this I called him to apologize. I think it’s just the birth control getting to me (I just started birth control) and the fact that I was extremely exhausted because I haven’t been sleeping well.

[Mckennalopez]

Our relationship isn’t unhealthy yesterday was the only day that I acted like this we get along well and we comfort each other we’re not like those couples that argue all the time. Out of the 2 years that we’ve been together we’ve only argued once we’re always happy to be together. We’re both introverts too. Yesterday was just weird that wasn’t me.

[Mckennalopez]

Don’t judge the whole relationship based off of this question this is truly not how the whole relationship is I honestly think that the pills and lack of sleep messed me up and I called him to apologize.

[SueShe]

I had to judge based on your question and if you give us the reasons why you acted that way, that changes everything. I am glad to hear that this is a one time occurrence only.

[MidnightOwl57]

Hi SueShe, sorry to bother you, but isn't Howdoilook a more suitable category for this question? It doesn't seem to have anything to do with Relationships. Maybe it should be moved there, especially since it seems to include a child photo

https://w ww. girlsaskguys. com/relationships/q4987774-is-my-boyfriend-stupid-blind-or-b oth

[SueShe]

@MidnightOwl57 Thanks for noticing. I did change it as it should indeed appear in the "How do I look" section.

[Lucy68]

Yes all men cheat and hurt women just for fun. Trust me I know how guys are, they care less about our feelings

[Anonymous]

several reasons 1. because a part of him didn't want to hurt you 2. he still has feelings for her 3. he probably did want to fuck her but didn't tell you that part

[SnowedIn]

No, you should not be worried.

But please work on the jealousy thing or this relationship (and others) is going to go down in flames.

[Mckennalopez]

I apologized but he still won’t text me at all

[Mckennalopez]

I apologized and he even said that he loved me last night but he’s not texting me at all

[Mckennalopez]

I guess he’s still mad at me

[SnowedIn]

I would be. If you've always been like this, this might have been the last straw.

[Mckennalopez]

It was my first time. I started getting on the pill so I think that and a lack of sleep made me act up I apologized two hours after I called him to tell him that I’m sorry and that I think that the pill/lack of sleep is messing me up.

[Anonymous]

There is no point in worrying, but I understand your concern.

[Mckennalopez]

Do you think that he’s lying about knowing in which city that she lives in? I know I behaved really toxic and jealous

[nawtee_me]

So she looks like she did when she was 12 and he is interested?

[xJayleenx]

Do you think that he’s interested? He told me that he’s not and that he didn’t even talk to her he just knows that she lives in Dacula (I don’t know how) and he claims that he knows that because she told him in middle school but she could’ve moved so I don’t know how he knows.

[xJayleenx]

My mind was on alert because he never mentions a girl without me asking

[Juxtapose]

Do chill out. If he wanted to fuck her then he wouldn't tell you he saw her at all.

[Iron_Man]

Keep an eye open

[ERB62]

He will be boinking her before long

[In_Trance]

Uggh. Lame