Am I being taken advantage of?

[Anonymous]

so this guy im into, he asks me to buy a lot of things for him or borrow, mostly borrow. So far I let him borrow over $300 worth of things. Items I own, my netflix account, food, etc. He has his own money, two jobs, nice car and a place to stay. He has yet done anything for me except let me stay over at his house but we had sex that night.
I hate bringing up how im always doing stuff for him because he goes into attack mode and brings up how he has two jobs and can basically buy everything im lending him. We got into fight over something i let him borrow, he gave it back and told me someone let else let borrow theirs but shortly after he goes back to asking for mine back because the ones he has isn't good enough. I said no and he threaten to stop talking to me. This time he wanted me to do two things from him, buy him food and buy something for his house,. He says this time he'll give me the money but im sure it will turn into me paying for it.

[MaazHussain]

It sounds like you are being taken advantage of in this situation. It's not fair for someone to repeatedly ask for things from you without giving anything back in return. It's also concerning that he becomes defensive and goes into attack mode when you bring up your feelings about the situation.

It's important to set boundaries and communicate your needs in any relationship, whether it's romantic or not. You can let him know that you feel uncomfortable constantly lending him things and that you would like him to contribute more to the relationship. If he continues to make unreasonable demands or becomes hostile towards you, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship and whether it's healthy for you to continue it.

[Icybread]

Pretty much sounds like he's using you. I doubt any guy with genuine intentions would go into what you call attack mode when all you wanted to do was talk to him about it. It's almost like he wants to keep all his money to himself while borrowing your items for his own use.

[SphynxUK]

I find if a man has money, he would be more than happy to pick up the bill for the usual things like cinema, meals etc. He certainly wouldn’t be asking you to buy things for his house or lend him money. (Maybe just change for the parking meter!)
Have you seen him at either job? Do you know the house is his? something isn’t right here.

[OfMiceandMen]

Looks to me like you're being taken advantage of. I would cut him off and see what he says, the next time you say no. If he freaks-out, ask him for the stuff he borrowed and walk away.

He's a mooch and doesn't deserve your kindness.

[earthcitizen7]

If you feel like you are being taken advantage of, then you are. If you do NOT feel this way, then you are not. God gave you Free Will. Use it!

God created Our Universe with Love and Free Will. Use your Free Will to Love!

[Sparkie460]

Yes he's taking advantage of you. He's a user. Unless he came into some had luck and was having difficulty making money there's no reason he should be asking you to pay for anything. If I were you I would dump his cheap ass

[TheVigilantFox]

This is why he has nice thing’s because he’s using gullible people.


Get rid of him.

[MysteriousDarkness]

He is a big 🚩 Next time tell hime no and if he reacts negatively then tell him it's over with him and go uour separate ways.

[Crankor]

The fact he goes into defense mode is a huge red flag. So my answer is yes, yes you are

[noohair]

It sounds like your hard work has no value to him. You could probably do better.

[TrillXHippy]

You’re being taken advantage of

[jimmy2]

Be careful many scamers