Another woman told my husband she misses him? Is he having an affair?

[Anonymous]

So I read his conversation on text at night and the woman said that she misses him and he replied by saying "I'll meet you tomorrow" and specified the time and everything and even gave a follow up text the next day asking her if she's coming to meet him. I saw her profile picture and she's quite attractive too.

Is he having an affair with her?

[burlen]

Short answer: Yes and No.

Long answer.

It seems possible that your husband may be having an affair or at the very least, engaging in behaviour that is inappropriate and potentially damaging to your relationship.

The fact that your husband is making plans to meet up with another woman and exchanging messages with her that suggest a level of intimacy and attraction is cause for concern.

While the situation described raises some concerns, it's also possible that there could be innocent explanations for the interaction between your husband and the other woman. Consider all possibilities before jumping to conclusions.

For example, your husband may have a platonic friendship with this woman, and his offer to meet up with her could be completely innocent. It's also possible that he may not have realised that his interactions with her were inappropriate or that they made you uncomfortable.

It's important to have an open and honest conversation with your husband about your concerns and to approach the situation with an open mind. It's possible that there may be a reasonable explanation for his behaviour, and it's important to give him the benefit of the doubt before making any assumptions or accusations.

[Asker]

Well she clearly told him she misses him and he didn't tell her off or anything instead he made a plan to see her

[Guy13]

Sounds like it to me.

[Asker]

He should have told her off right? when she told him she misses him

[Guy13]

I would have blown him off and not given him the satisfaction of knowing that I was mad...

[Confusedashell123]

Follow him and watch how he greets her. That will tell you everything. Plus, did he keep this secret from you? Has he ever mentioned this person before?

[Asker]

I have never heard of her or seen her before

[Confusedashell123]

The fact he hasn’t mentioned her would concern me. Can you go follow him and check?

[Confusedashell123]

Whilst you’re at it, I would make sure that would look to protect yourself and your assets. In other words, make sure he can’t clear out any joint savings and that your home is at least protected. You can guarantee that if he finds out you know he is having an affair, all cards will be off the table and he will bail to be with this other woman taking with him everything YOU have contributed. Now is the time to be smart because if you aren’t, you could be paying for this for a very long time. Do you have kids? Also you need to take photos if you can if evidence of these conversations he’s been having etc so you can prove he was the one who went outside the marriage

[Confusedashell123]

Please don’t be a fool. Men who have affairs do not love you and there is someone else out there who will and who will not cheat on you

[prensesmishka]

I don’t think it’s normal until they’re very close friends that you also know her very well.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

So I read his conversation on text at night

The fact that you're already suspicious about it shows that you probably should have ended it already.

[Asker]

ended what?

[Qinart]

It sounds suspicious. Maybe you can find changes in his behaviour as well if you think about it.

[Nikki1989]

99% chance he is cheating. It is a good thing you read that text.

[Mangospacho]

Yes, that’s a major red flag. Talk with him first but there are very few excuses for that that don’t involve him cheating

[OddBeMe]

Um yeah. No other reason to say that, unless she’s his mother…

[Anonymous]

if it looks like a pig oinks like a pig smells like a pig chances are it's a pig

[Asker]

What?

[Opinion Owner]

clearly you never heard that expression before.. it means yes he is having an affair

[mobiusforniner]

Been this guy. Yes, he is.

[Sasha0426]

You had an affair? Why?

[mobiusforniner]

@Sasha0426 emotional, yes. The circumstances which led to it are very complicated to summarize here. Measage if you want to know.

[Sasha0426]

I followed you so we can message.

[Anonymous]

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