Which one is better: having a baby after getting married or having a baby while in a boyfriend girlfriend relationship?

[straightmax12]

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After marriage. At least, if you can picture you can spend the rest of your life with that woman, that is one more warranty for the baby to have a longlife united family, and father at home. Almost all the problematic, immoral and dysfunctional traits any person has comes from bad parenting, so you better be very sure you want to be an active, good father, for at least their childhood and teenage. You can't de-responsibilize yourself once you become a parent, but while you can leave your girlfriend and it won't be a tragedy, if you leave your child it will be a tragedy most likely. So if you can't bear the responsibility of being a husband, let alone being a parent. When there is a baby in the game you have to think in function of the baby, not anymore of yourself.
You may want to have babies outside of marriage as well (maybe you are against marriage for some political reasons) but that should be done only with a partner you are sure to share the entire life with anyway, so like, you live together from 5 years already, or something.

[Anonymous]

... you obviously should get married first before having a baby... it's way better for the child's mental wellbeing.

[AFretiredTXn]

After marriage. But anything can happen today, with no legal abortions.

There are many families today with children prior to marriage or no marriage.

[Guy13]

You mean, is it better for the child to be born out of wedlock or with two contractually obligated Parents.

[Razp_Sorbet]

Whatever works best for you. Not everyone wants to get married and that's perfectly okay

[slatyb]

After getting married.

[Anonymous]

I think it covers you to marry.

[LazerBean]

After marriage.

[Anonymous]

After marrying

[straightmax12]

Why?

[Opinion Owner]

The kid will have your last name and be covered by your health insurance if you’re married

[AnonGiraffe]

Stats show finishing high school, maintaining a job, and not having kids out of wedlock are the three strongest predictors to lifelong success.

[Opinion Owner]

@AnonGiraffe this is very true and a wise choice