Do you NEED to be in a relationship in order to be happy in life?

[Still-alive]

I genuinely don't need to be in a relationship. i welcome it when it comes my way of course but otherwise.. just meh.

Yes i need to be in a relationship to be truly happy in life

I need to be in a GOOD relationship in order to be truly happy in life

I do not need to be in a relationship in order to be happy. im happy being single or being in a relationship. either/or for me

I need to remain single in order to be truly happy in life actually

[RolandCuthbert]

You may not need to be in a romantic relationship. But we all need some kind of relationships. We are social animals. I think without social contexts, we kind of lose our way. It is why we have each other.

I remember I used to believe in that garbage that men were solitary and women were social. And I think that mess has seeped into Western definitions of masculinity. And now we have a lot of angry, bitter, lonely, young males running around. Being destructive of society because they feel disconnected from it. They see people being happy, enjoying each other's company. And they get sucked into racial/religious extremist movements. Who use that anger to fuel their political movements. As though politics is going to resolve the mental issues these young males are facing.

Of course, there are exceptions. There are folks who truly like being alone. They are at peace. Someone like Keanu Reeves;

“Someone told me the other day that he felt bad for single people because they are lonely all the time. I told him that’s not true I’m single and I don’t feel lonely. I take myself out to eat, I buy myself clothes. I have great times by myself. Once you know how to take care of yourself company becomes an option and not a necessity.”

But most folks are not like that. Look around GaG. People are angry, bitter and lonely. But it isn't their choice. Someone else is responsible for their predicament. And they adopt the most insane ideology to justify their feelings.

Ultimate insanity. Now "Black" males have superior genes to "Whites" making them more masculine? Who is being irrational here?

[Still-alive]

i definitely like Keanu Reeves philosophy there. i definitely learned to enjoy my own company more these days then ever before

[lightbulb27]

Define happy and I'll give a better answer.

No, I can be happy on my own... because I fill the time with things I enjoy. But I can be empty and alone as well and end up seeking. I'm glad I'm married, I live more this way and I don't feel alone like I did.

We are social, we want connection, it's whom we are.

Anything else is probably avoidance. People can fill the void being on a mission... like Jane Goodall spending time with chimps. But even she got married out in the jungle.

[Still-alive]

So are you saying people who enjoy being single are fooling themselves?

[lightbulb27]

You are quite perceptive. They are living a partial part of whom they are, and maybe that feels good enough. They can do that fully and feel good. But there is something else...

It may not apply to every person, some could be totally content on their own. But my guess is, most either cursed themselves, are functioning out of trauma, or avoiding pain. We are social, I've not met anyone non social... maybe dysfunctional.

I's like saying we can be very happy on an island with most everything we want, and choosing not to go to the mainland, where there are other things that are good for us that brings fulfillment of purpose.

[Still-alive]

so what if we live with people but are no in relationships with them? would that suffice for you or no?

[lightbulb27]

oh I see... like living with a partner/girlfriend but there's no relationship? If there is interest and sexual desire, that would more define hell. If there isn't, then maybe you can act happy but I'm guessing there is a part of you that is not fulfilled.
Living together with all the benefits of relationship... intimacy, sharing, etc.. maybe, not saying marriage is required. But there's flaws to that we already know.. there's flaws to everything.
There's a reason for relationship... control , stability, security, intimacy. Two together are better than one.. as long as they aren't chopping each other to pieces.

[Still-alive]

well all ill sa about myself is this. i want a relationship but a GOOD one, not just any relationship. i do not want to be in terrible ones where i will end up hating my life. you can even feel more lonely in bad relationships than being by yourself.

otherwise yeah im happy being by myself. i get fulfillment talking to people who understand me and are there for me when i need them. usually i can handle most situations on my own with relative ease though.

[lightbulb27]

for sure.
You may find a good one that is easy from the get go. Or it may require some work, some introspection and change. I had to make some changes to work things out with my wife, but I was ripe for change. I think you'll know when you've been stagnant too long and that is a sign to venture out and try some new. New doesn't mean bad, it means different.
I'm immersed in a different environment and it's good, was hard at times, but it's good. I was very content and "happy"... except I was lonely. Part of that, was my psychology was screwed up and I'd been ignoring myself.
You get to choose your life and there's no guarantees.

[LovingJo]

I do not need to be in a relationship in order to be happy. im happy being single or being in a relationship. either/or for me

If you need to be in a relationship, to be "happy" then you're not happy within yourself and you will not be happy in that relationship, either!!

You need to learn to be happy within yourself first, before you can learn to be happy within a relationship with anyone else. 💯❤️

[Still-alive]

*mic drop* haha nice

[LovingJo]

Thanks hun 🤗
Fucking GaG, getting SO pissed off with 1xper, for these types of responses.

[Still-alive]

if it were me i'd give you 100xper lol

[LovingJo]

Aww, bless you. Thank you 🤗

[LovingJo]

Thanks for the MHO 😘

Not that it's made any difference, again. 9 MHOs on the part week.. Hasn't moved. It's fucked. Really is!! 💯

[LovingJo]

In the past week

[Still-alive]

Damn you’re really into the xper stuff lol.

I wonder if you were around back when you used to be able trade in your xper points for Amazon gift cards. I miss those days.

[LovingJo]

It only bothers me because its there. If it wasn't, it wouldn't 😂

[Breanna_nonbinary]

I’ll answer your question when you or anyone explains to me what happiness is. What does it mean to be happy? Have you ever been happy? Even our forefathers didn’t even know what happiness is. They didn’t say that people are entitled to be happy but they have a right to pursue happiness because they had no idea what it was.

[Still-alive]

just overall contentedness with life. things don't get to you too easily. virtually un-perturbable. like an inner peace.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Well I think you answered your own question then.

[Still-alive]

ok so whats your answer now?

[Breanna_nonbinary]

I told you. You answered it yourself. If what you listed above is what you feel is happiness then then just achieve those things. Since you didn’t mention a relationship then apparently you don’t need one to be happy.

[Still-alive]

but my question is that what YOU need to be happy?

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Well I don’t know what happiness is or if I ever have been. So when I figure it out I’ll let you know.

[Still-alive]

ok then how about this: can you be overall content in life without being in a relationship? can you live the rest of your days not needing to be in one?

[Breanna_nonbinary]

That’s not for me to determine. It’s different for everyone

[Still-alive]

how is it not for you to determine? its you who this question is asking about lol

eh forget it.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

When I was a server people would ask me questions all the time that I couldn’t answer. Shit like: will this fill me up? Is this enough for two people? What the best thing on the menu? All of these things are subjective and things I can’t answer. Your question is subjective to the person you ask. It’s subjective to the who the other person is in a relationship. It’s subjective to a lot of different factors.

[Still-alive]

right it is subjective which is why i find it interesting to read different answers to this question. is there something wrong with that?

[Guy13]

No I do not need a girlfriend to be happy in this lifetime.

[DizzyDesii]

Wow thats my first time ever seeing the singer of the song. Not what i expected. Anyways... Sometimes i feel happier single. I just dont feel satisfied or fulfilled being single all the time. So i can be happy without a relationship but i won’t be fully satisfied without one. Still I dont think i NEED one. I need to become a mother someday but i don’t NEED to be someones girlfriend/wife. I just want to

[OfMiceandMen]

I'm good being on my own and don't need someone to be happy. I prefer her to be happy on her own too, so a certain amount of individuality and goal oriented.

I am a busy guy, travelling around so if she needs me at her beckon call and constantly on her arm, it isn't going to work. I will however, be forever faithful to her.

[menina]

I don't need to be in a relationship to be happy. Our individual happiness should never rely on a romantic relationship. We must be able to be happy while being single.

Of course, if you find yourself in a romantic relationship that makes you happy, then it's great. If not, then it's not the end of the world Lol

There's nothing wrong with being single.

[AsaKyo]

Nope, you don't need one, BUT a genuinely good-hearted person who is positive and not emotionally draining can add a lot more to your life and make things easier if you're struggling

[Still-alive]

those are rare to find as im sure you understand

[AsaKyo]

Well duh, I'm just saying lmao

[NostalgiaSenpi]

A romantic relationship has been a dream of mine since I was thirteen. Next year will spark the twentieth anniversary with no such thing happening. I'm usually happy with what I have, but I do want a woman to be with. I do get down in the dumps over it, especially when everyone around me has a partner or had one and I'm still single.

[Nikki1989]

Probably. I have rarely been single, so I don't know any different.

[Still-alive]

do you think you'd do well if you were single?

[Nikki1989]

Nah, the solitude would drive me crazy.

[Sour-rose]

Nah. I've been single since... high school? And it has been so amazing like you wouldn't believe to do what I want and not have some fk too slow to keep up with me.

[melanieeeB]

Not at all. I'm having a great time alone and I don't need another person to be happy, sure one day it would be nice to have a great partner but I don't need it and also don't even want a relationship right now

[melanieeeB]

I once had two dates with a guy who then told me he is finally happy cause he met me and pointing that he needs a relationship to feel happy and a few things more, I immediately got scared and told him I couldn't do that and won't be responsible for his happiness

[VanillaSalt]

I say I don’t but I do. Happiness isn’t a constant it’s a temporary state of being. I can find in between happiness easy but the happiness I seek is family.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I do not need to be in a relationship in order to be happy. im happy being single or being in a relationship. either/or for me

[petitedollbabee]

Romantic relationship, no, but other types of relationships like having family around and friendships? Absolutely. I’m a codependent person.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Of course not. Though, there is one that certainly will bring peace.

[Still-alive]

Whos your waifu?

[Dinosaursandanime65]

That’s not what I was talking about, but if you must know they are Paimon from Genshin, Gawr Gura, Koneko from High School DxD, and……. That might be it.

[serious]

No, a relationship is not required to be happy

[SnowedIn]

Need? No. It's often better but definitely not "need".

[RockyHammock]

Lol, no. My old neighbor was single since divorce a decade ago and is the happiest person I've ever met.

[Guardian45]

I have been in relationships before, that I was unhappy in, because they were NOT GOOD relationships!

In order to be truly happy in life, I need a GOOD relationship!

[goaded]

I can be content without, but my happiest times have always been in a relationship.

[soe11]

Absolutely yes that is why called "social human being"

[Jltakk]

I wouldn't say I need to be in one, I'd like to have experienced what it was like to have a partner in my life.

[Lizardman64]

No, but it would be nice to have someone care about you.

[Pudsmucker]

To be in that relationship to keep away the loneliness.

[snackthatsmilesback]

I think i can be happy single.

[douride2]

I am single & happy.

[magiusX26]

my only happiness is NOT being in a relationship

[TacosRAwesome]

No. It doesn't really matter.

[llorando]

Can't say that I do.

[LiamJHayden]

Nope.

[LiamJHayden]

A good relationship might be preferable to singlehood, but a mediocre or bad one is not.

[TrillXHippy]

I don’t