Do you think a relationship can make someone happy?

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I’ve been single for about a year and a half. Lots of ups and downs but glad to be out of the last which was toxic. I’ve been depressed and had anxiety ever since. I went to therapy to try to get better and it helped but still the effects of the last relationship remain a little. The part is the last told me she was single and for a while we were going out and doing stuff then next thing you know she tells me she had a man the whole time and he’s after me. I wanted to leave her but dude wouldn’t listen. Luckily nothing came of it but I have trouble trusting that a girl is single. But I want to have a girlfriend and wife that I love. Like I have homies that I talk to but they all got girlfriends and i feel stuck between getting a girlfriend or focusing on myself getting money up, working out, etc.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Never rely on a relationship to make you happy , make yourself happy first by focusing on yourself first. Doing things that make you happy. You can still flirt with girls’ and hit on girls’ and treat Girls’s’ the same way you want to be treated , that’s all we can do man , also , don’t try to rush into a relationship with a girl, if you eventually meet one that catches your interest , especially nowadays and with the shit you already experienced with your last relationship , is sadly pretty common these days , because most people in general , especially girls’ have selfish mindsets that only think about themselves , and what is best for themselves , sadly selfishness is pretty much the number 1 relationship killer , and social media played a big part of making people more selfish , so it’s best to take things slow when you meet someone new , we can’t read each others’ minds and we don’t know what someone else’s intentions truly are , I pretty much been in your shoes man with lying selfish girls’ that told me they were single and really they weren’t , I didn’t find out until after we had sex a handful of times , so it goes to show how selfish people can be. Guys’ can be just as selfish but I don’t date guys’ lol we can’t force someone to love us , all
We can do is treat someone the same way we hope to be treated in return , that’s all we can do , if they choose to walk away from you? Let them go , if someone truly wants to be by your side they will be by your side and not walk away period , never let a girl manipulate or control you , find yourself a girl that makes you feel wanted the same way you should make her feel. If she is lying to you, that is her problem not yours , if she is cheating on her husband or boyfriend with you, that’s her problem and she will suffer the consequences of your actions. The best thing to do , is just be honest , honesty will make it easier for you , to meet someone you can pretty much trust , if they are lying to you that is something they have to deal with. Why you should always protect your heart and not give it right away , when a girl wants to be with you, she will not hesitate to be by your side , never chase after a girl that tried to make you chase , find a girl that looks up to you and stands by you

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Man that's a tough situation. Breakups always mess with your head, especially when they end bad like that. But don't lose hope in relationships just cause of one toxic ex, you'll bounce back.

As for what to focus on now, honestly bro a little of both wouldn't hurt. Keep working on yourself for sure - staying fit, saving money, all that will make you feel good and be attractive to potential partners down the line. No need to rush into anything.

But don't cut yourself off from the idea of finding someone new either if the right girl comes along. Just take it slow at first till you build up that trust again. And don't be afraid to put yourself out there on the dating apps or trying to meet new people through friends. Having a caring girl by your side who respects you can definitely help make life happier when you're feeling down.

You'll find your confidence and groove again in time. For now just do your thing, improve yourself, and be open if a good situation arises. But don't stress if nothing happens right away - you got this either way bro, just stay positive!

bobalife · Accepted Answer

Yes, the right relationship can make you happy :) But it won’t define your whole happiness because happiness is defined by you in different areas internally & externally. It’s okay to be in a committed relationship and continue to heal / focus on yourself as well. But you can’t depend your sole happiness in a relationship. I know people who are in great solid relationships even when their position or life stages does not seem ideal. They were lucky to find the right person in midst of what’s going on. Everyone deserves to be love and find love/happiness no matter where they are in life and internally.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I think you should be happy alone and relationship should only enhance that happiness. If you are unhappy alone, then you will feel the same once the initial sparkle is faded in a relationship.

DreamCrescent · Answer

you want to have a girlfriend, that’s great but you can’t exactly get those at a random supermarket

so what’s the use beating yourself up about your insecurities?

when it’s meant to be, a girl will strike your fancy. meanwhile, take it a day at a time

for the record , girls who say they’re single don’t generally have a man the whole time. what you’ve been through is a bit of an anomaly

ManOnFire · Answer

Never rely on a relationship to make you happy. It can bring happiness, but never see it as an ultimate source of joy. Many people look at relationships like this and still feel empty and unhappy, because they haven't learned how to create their own joy and be happy even when not in a relationship.

Sorry that girl lied about being single. Seems to be a common thing. She might've been lying because she was already looking to move over to another guy and you were maybe like a try-out, and while you guys were 'dating' she maybe decided to stick with her man. You did the right thing by getting out of that. As for focusing on yourself and building your life, that is always a great focus for a young man, and if you're feeling that conviction then you should follow it.

menina · Answer

It can if you find the right person and if your relationship is healthy. However, you should never rely on a relationship to find happiness. Even if you're happy in your relationship you still need to be happy with yourself, enjoy your own company and go after your dreams and goals.

I know what you're feeling, I feel the same way sometimes. But maybe you need to focus on yourself now. You need to take care of yourself.

lightbulb27 · Answer

maybe look more to whom you picked and why... and what should be changed. maybe you are too nice? you have to be able to say no, walk away, and pick ones with good character. then you'll be in a good place. I found a good wife, be patient. don't be desperate. yes a good relationship can give you lots of joy, good memories, and life.

Account · Answer

I know for sure it CANNOT make me happy. But I know that for others it can work on giving them a sense of relief depending on the way they view themselves and other people.
It is also based on what they deem as important. Personally speaking, I don't base my self worth on romantic relationships nor do I place them high on the list. But that is just me.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

A good relationship can make you a very satisfied man.. You don't need to be happy, but content enough in your life on your own, that you won't fall to any old relationship that comes your way. Maybe making sure you have some things together in your life, having fun with your guys and yourself works as well. I understand where you're coming from. Just don't let it consume you.

jshm2 · Answer

Eh... that is the whole point of a relationship.

In business, it's making you a happier supplier or retailer as it's getting you more, or reducing your burden.

In love, it's making you happier as it's someone on your level adding to make you better, or helping benefit in your life.

It's when you know you have a "bad" relationship, that it's costing you more, than you're giving into it.

Natasha2024 · Answer

A relationship will never be enough to make someone happy. You need to work on being happy with urself, depending on a relationship to make you happy will always end badly ans you'll always be disappointed. And before looking for a girlfriend work on those trust issues.

SotiCoto · Answer

You think people would bother if it didn't?

... Well okay, they'd probably still do it. But I figure people generally assume that being in a relationship will make their life more emotionally fulfilling... and they wouldn't assume that if there wasn't some sort of valid basis to it.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Women want a "winner" who they can extract resources from. Women do not want to "make someone happy", they want you to make them happy. If you are not happy and have resources to offer, women won't want anything to do with you.

monorprise · Answer

Anything can make you happy if you have the right attitude and point of view. But only you can keep yourself happy with the same attitude and point of view.

As such it is not possable for anyone else to do that job.

sawno · Answer

You can't solely rely on a partner to make you happy. But it definitely made me the happiest I ever was. But that was with me already being a 7/10 happy on average. A relationship bumps that up to a 8/10 average for me.

sheikalana · Answer

A relationship that is meant to be will make you really happy, however, your happiness should not depend on your relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

No. No one can give you happiness. Happiness is something a person has to choose for themselves (and it's absolutely a choice). The best another person can do is put a band-aid over your misery if you're unhappy. And that almost always ends badly.

robhazelnut · Answer

One can be happy or miserable in wealth and poverty, in a thunderstorm or a desert, in solitude or among a group of kind people. Both joy and misery only come from within.

YesterdaysChild · Answer

I know love can. If there is love within a relationship it will.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

It goes back to the age old you need to be happy with yourself first, a relationship may make you happy in the beginning, but if you are not happy with yourself it will only last temporary.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It can but you need to be happy for yourself too. You can’t expect a relationship to fix all your problems.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Being in a great relationship is the best feeling there is.

Unit1 · Answer

For me yes, definitely. I just need a nice and good girlfriend.

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