Am I too obsessed? How to be a good girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I can't stop thinking about my boyfriend. I think of him every second of the day even when I'm doing stuff. I just can't get him out of my head. I text him a lot too and sometimes he responds and sometimes he doesn't and when he doesn't I get super peeved even though I know he's probably just busy doing stuff. He's my first real boyfriend and I don't want to mess anything up. So is it normal for me to be thinking of him all the time? And how do I be a good girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

When that happens, find something you can see touch or hear. Make yourself look across the road or the room and identify that object or it’s colour, to yourself. Then, look away and take a massive deep breath to reassure yourself it’s okay. Feel the texture of the steering wheel or the texture of the couch or a pen 🖊️.


Ground yourself and be in the moment. Pull yourself away from the distractive intrusive thinking and find something still that isn’t a person or a an animal etc. look at the bark on the trees or the water trickling in a creek.

[Asker]

Thanks. That was very helpful advice.

[Kaneki05]

He's your first all ya need to know is while it could work out this been your 1st is more of a learning experience for you. So you just kinda have to go through this and figure out stuff by yourself.
You have to learn will you feel the same in 6 months in a year? And yes it is normal to feel that way especially at first. Your crush will be at the highest, a Honeymoon stage. This naturally dies not always in a bad way though when it does die it either becomes Love or just stales out. But this is all stuff ya won't know until you get there.

[Asker]

I see. Thanks for your input.

[Sunssong]

If you want a man: Be the source of what man you want
If you want your man: Be the source of what he wants

If you want a man that is kind: Be kind
If your man wants food: Cook

2nd advice is:
Stay in harmony with your boyfriend even during disagreements. Stay his teammate.

3rd advice is:
Take the power of your emotions for him and use it to compel yourself to write down ideas of how to be a good girlfriend. How to last long in a relationship.

[Asker]

Thanks. All sounds like sound advice!

[Guy13]

You may want to see a counselor and ask about OCD. There may be a simple solution for you.

[Anonymous]

It's normal in the beginning to think of them all the time BUT yes, it's a bit obsessive and you'll want to hide that.

[Asker]

Ok I will.