Is my standard for having a girlfriend too much?

[Anonymous]

basically i want a girlfriend that is not with me for the money. I am not stingy but i am not a fool to use money to obtain and keep a girlfriend. I am in it for the real deal so to speak.
In short: money is not the reason a girlfriend committed to me and is also not the reason she fell in love with me.

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[mermaidcancermoon]

Emotional connection and personality compatibility should be primary when dating.

However if you talk to ladies complaining about women wanting your money its a turn off. Why? Being on a first date with a pessimistic person doesn't set an approachable romantic tone, it ruins the vibe. You also dont wesnt to be so paranoid that you avoid fun dates for the sake of protecting your wallet. Just vet partners better.

If she's always contacting you and shows imterest in being together etc. you should have little to worry about. Just get a prenup when you get married or something. Its common with most millionaires its why they dont fear marriage.

[Anonymous]

No, it's not too much, and you should never lower that "standard" because that's literally what a pure relationship is like, not about interests, if she likes you she likes you.

[Anonymous]

Lol do you even have money? Ironically isually the guys who are so obsessed over this topic and so terrified to be found by a gold digger are the broke men, or your average joe at best, and has no gold to dig. I promise you that if a woman is looking to be with a guy for his money she’s got her eyes set on bigger fish than you (unless you happen to be an obvious rich person, which I highly doubt). I can also assure you that normal non-gold digging women are turned off buy cheapness and obsession over money. So if you’re the type of guy who won’t even pay for her ice cream every now and then and ask her for gas money when you go out for a date then expect to stay single for a long time. Nothing wrong about rather staying single, if that’s what you want then go for it, but then don’t whine about it either.

[Asker]

I hold myself to my own standard.

[Avicenna]

That’s great, but what do you offer her (I’m not saying you don’t offer her anything. I’m just getting you to articulate it)

[Asker]

Massages both giving and receiving. I can cook. I also do housechores. A partner for many things. Ladies love to dance you know? I can be their partner. Women claim they love all that in a man but I am yet single.

[Avicenna]

Those are all good things but other than dancing they don’t make you an exciting partner. Find ways to be more intrrrstibg to women.

[Asker]

Such as?

[Anonymous]

Women are biologically wired not to love you for who you are, but to desire 'you' for what you provide. It's an uncomfortable truth, often sugar coated by men that cannot accept the truth of hypergamy.

[Blackcosmo]

No that's not even a standard. Anyone who's with you for your money is not worth it so you should go after those who are better.

[Guy13]

Perfect criteria too me AS LONG AS you can balance spoiling, specialiness, and provision simultaneously.

[PatriceONeal]

You think you want a girlfriend. You don't. You don't want the hassle or headache or unnecessary risk. For every sexy unicorn there's a dude thats sick of talking to her and glad to see her go.

[Asker]

Nice. Less competition for me

[PatriceONeal]

Men don't compete with eachother lol

[Dinklex3]

?
I think that's pretty standard for a lot of people.

[BarryLiverstone]

I’m confused. You want a girlfriend but do you want a long term relationship?

[TacosRAwesome]

It's not unreasonable provided money isn't all you have.

[In_Trance]

The answer to your question is whether you have a girlfriend or not