What do you do if your in love with someone have a kid with them but see a red flag?

[Anonymous]

I'm asking for a friend

[Jdjfjcjj]

In love with some and have a kid with them but just now seeing red flat?

Or

In love with someone who has a kid with them from one someone else and you wondering if this is a red flag?

The first sounds stupid, the second makes me wonder why you didn't consider the red flag during the point of not knowing him till the point of loving him

[Asker]

I'm not the one with him this is from a friend and she was dating the guy had a kid with him but he's been abusive to her and he yells at her and everything else but she loves him even though there are red flags she doesn't know what to do

[Asker]

That's her Bestfriend she's loved him since elementary school and after years of being friends she finally got with him and had a kid with him

[Asker]

Now she's seeing red flags and doesn't know what to do anymore

[megabamse]

This sentence made no sense. Do they have a kid from before? Or are the two of them getting a kid together?

[Asker]

The 2 of them have a child together she was dating the guy got pregnant by him and had a child but she is starting to see red flags by him and doesn't know what to do about it

[megabamse]

Talk to him about it. Go to a therapist

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Convince her to leave. You mentioned him being abusive, that's not a good environment for a child to grow up in.

[Asker]

I've tried but she said that he's her Bestfriend and doesn't want to lose him

[Guy13]

Go the other way.

[Finchie40]

What is the red flag?

[Asker]

I'm not sure she didn't say

[Finchie40]

The red flag is important here , just because they have a kid together doesn’t mean they should get back together for the kid , Now if it’s a minor red flag and something that can be forgotten then it’s possible they can work things out if they both love each other the same

[Asker]

They are still together they haven't broken up yet but I don't know what the red flag is I'm just trying to help my friend out both I do know there are a lot of red flags with that relationship

[Finchie40]

Some people just stay together for the kids sake thinking it’s the right thing to do and sometimes that’s true but if there is abuse and cheating then no they are best to walk away from each other