Do you find it to be a Red Flag🚩when someone's an adult & they still do not have any friends?

[bannacookies]

You can just answer the poll if you'd like, but there's also a story time below.😁

I should start off by saying, I'm an outgoing person, I like being around people so I find it very easy to make friends. I think have a hard time understanding introverts who struggle with making friends, so I'm sorry if I sound rude. I dont want to be that way. I hope I don't come across as such. * hug * Okay, ready for story time? Lol

There was someone on social media who was saying that summertime is hard for them because people have not always shown up for them and it makes them feel lonely. I responded with saying that it's important for them to handle situations on their own and not always rely on people but not to give up. Friends can be found in unexpected places.

They snapped back saying I was insensitive and that people end their life because people aren't always there. (Always? Of course not always. People have lives.)

I think it's concerning if somebody always relies on another person. It's part of adulting to figure out how to handle situations on your own I believe. I'm not saying you need to handle everything on your own, but you don't need to sulk around when you don't have someone right there because you've learned how to mentally equip yourself with situations on your own. I've met people like this in real life too.

One guy kept complaining about how he can't make any friends. It was always everybody else's problem to him. The guy was in his mid-30s, no friends.

I used to have a friend who had a photo album and in this album she had 30 plus pictures of all these different kinds of friends who she said did something wrong to her. It didn't take long until she accused me of something I didn't do. And it was the most hilarious one of all. She said I was doing witchcraft in her kitchen when I was making a pot of tea.😂😂I most certainly was not.

Yes, red flag

No, not a red flag

[Purpleronnie]

I agree with most of what you said in your little story BUT I would say the outcome is less important than what has happened as a precursor. There are an infinite number of events that could occur to affect how a person develops the personality they have. So maybe don’t think of it as a red flag but more a marker to attempt to understand more of “why” that person believes what they do and why their personality or character is.
On one hand you ask the question over having no friends is a red flag , you clearly believing this but on the other when you tell your little story you point out the need for a person to stand on their own 2 feet and be independent so this kind of hints at a contradiction? No? I really make an effort not to judge people , to really try to understand who they are and to some extent why they are , after all we are all the sum of our lives to date. This becomes particularly important the older we get. A person with “ No Friends” as you say would only intrigue me , that has potential to me , there is perhaps a hidden strength.


So NO ! , I don’t see this as a RED FLAG 🚩, I see it as an invitation to understand and learn and make my own decision

[patois]

It's harder to maintain friendships in adult life. When you are a kid everyone goes to the same schools, everyone lives in the same neighborhoods, you often get part time work at similar places, everyone goes to the same parties/clubs every weekend, etc. So you have decades to build friendships with people that are always around. Once you are an adult, you work at a place and every couple of years people switch companies for new job opportunities often moving to different cities or states never to be heard from again. People get married and have a family life to maintain, children to raise, children's sports games to attend, houses to maintain, etc. So friendships are lower priority for most adults. A lot of people you might call friends often end up more like acquaintances you run into every once in a while. You might shoot the shit with certain people at work, or at your kid's sports games, or see people you know every now and then in a parking lot or at a bar or restaurant, talk to your neighbors, or whatever, but it's not like you're going to hang out every day with your friends. Adults often have too many other responsibilities.

[patois]

When you're a teenage or in your early 20s it might seem weird to not have a lot of friends, but that tends to change as the years pass by. In the United States people change jobs on average every 4.2 years. So say you get a new job at some company, after 3-6 months someone you work with seems like a pretty cool person so you start hanging out. They've already been working there for 2 years or whatever. You hang out for a year and a half or whatever and then they take a new job a 1,000 miles away in another state. Maybe you keep in touch over the internet and play multiplayer video games for like a year or whatever afterwards but you can really create solid relationships like that. People come and go...

[provokeesmokee]

You're absolutely right.

Honestly? I've met a lot of really socially anxious nerdy people who not only regularly hangout with friends but run meet up groups as organizers.

When an adult can't regulate themselves enough to engage in social contract and environments well, that's not necessarily a life limiting thing. But that's up to the person themselves to determine what they want out of life.

If they want friends, but then refuse to do the work and feel the discomfort in seeking and refining those relationships, then that refusal becomes life limiting.

Considering modern tech and values, an adult with zero friends is a massive red flag. It means they not only don't seek friends, but that they probably don't do much with themselves and also don't have the capacity to push themselves to do what they need to live well.

Someone who can't live well as an independent adult is a red flag for me. Even those who have chronic disease or illness or disability can live independently or at least make arrangements and be responsible for their own care. In most cases (some defs can't be independent).

[Rosexøxø]

Everyone is capable of handling situations on their own. Accomplishing or at least completing “adulting.”

Some people just lack faith in themselves and need that pointed out to them. Those types wouldn’t do worse with some constructive, authentic, and genuine therapy.

They need to simply find belief and train themselves to believe in their self, and then go on adulting as anybody else would.

They shouldn’t want friends to feel confident or only feel better and confident with friends. They should feel comfortable enough with themself to do things in their own skin and with their own two hands.

Friends aren’t saviors. Just merely friends. Someone to talk to. And sometimes they can have a smart aha moment that could save a life or be/ say something at the right place and at the right time. Yeah I don’t think this should be the go to.

The person in question just need assistance to trust themself.

“Give man a fish, he’ll eat for a day; teach a man to fish, he’ll eat for a lifetime.” 💯

^^True words^^

[Rosexøxø]

To add, it’s a 50/50 thing.

If there weren’t other crazies who believed in and practiced witchcraft, she wouldn’t have to worry about it or sound crazy herself worrying about it.

Seems uneducated.

And with that, not everybody get the same round of friends, circle of mentors, set of life experiences, and cluster of educational opportunities.

She needs to be educated on reality, mainly trust herself to handle any kind of negative approach- “witchcraft” starvation or debt. The other friend also needs to trust themself.

If people are isolated, I don’t judge them. Simply for not everyone is Mr Roger’s and not everyone learns how to protect themselves from all types of negativity- pit pocketing, assault, verbal abuse, and etc.

Who knows what kind of parenting they had or their childhood was like?

BUT if they’re by themselves and they seem a bit far from realistic situations. They seem paranoid and get irritated or have outbursts- that just tells me they’re afraid and don’t know how to handle things themselves- haven’t learned to, they don’t know how to plan for success and go for what they want, and they haven’t learned how to address their emotions and cope.

They’re essentially lacking.

If they don’t have any hereditary/genetic disorders outright, and just have these shortcomings, I don’t see why they should be labeled with red flags, or tossed to the curb.

They’re not demons. They’re people who need assistant intervention, to regain control of their life in order to live their life how they wish as a true adult and to be able to socialize with others in non toxic/ healthy ways AND benefit and contribute to that.

They could have red flags for others who are merely looking for extra people to socialize with, but they don’t need any red flags to be shunned by society and such.

There’s always deeper things at play and that’s why we have psychologist and therapists, etc.

[nolabels]

I agree with the vast majority of your comments, except that as a former extreme introvert converted to being a bivert at my own choosing at any given time, but still being on the introverted side of the spectrum as my natural position, I don't "struggle " to make friends, at all.
I don't feel that you were rude in saying so, either.
I choose to believe that you have a different perspective than I do, and that's okay.
I do have a few close, very good friends.

As a kid and young man, I was extremely, cripplingly shy.
I recognized that in myself and worked very hard to overcome my shyness.
It took a couple of years of really pushing myself to overcome that shyness, but now, 40 years later, I don't have a shy bone in my body.

Additionally, with my having succeeded in overcoming my shyness, I began to see the possible benefits of extroversion as well as my natural introversion (not to be confused with shyness, they are of course totally different things).
I firmly believe that if I hadn't been so shy and had to work so very hard to overcome the shyness that I wouldn't have had the awareness that I came to appreciate of extroversion.
After overcoming my shyness, making a conscious choice to be biverted when I chose to do so was an absolute breeze.
In other words, I can "turn it on" when I want to, which is wonderful to be able to do, but I'm still naturally an introvert.

When I meet someone with whom I feel a connection, I may pursue a friendship, or I may give off a vibe inviting a proposal of friendship from my new acquaintance.
No problem at all.

Regarding adulting, absolutely, many people just seem to want to dump on others constantly without doing any growing of their own.
I'll listen, but if I deem it to be the proper thing to do, I'll assertively inform such people that no one is capable of bearing all of another person's problems, much less fixing problems for them, and then suggesting therapy as an aid for them.
As a young adult, a good friend did me the great favor of informing me of that fact of life when I was in need of hearing it, suggesting therapy to help me where he couldn't.
He was very kind in so doing, even though it took a couple of repeatings for me to get the message.
His suggestions of my getting into therapy were miracles to me.
We are great friends to this day.
His telling me in his way that friends "sharing" in both directions is the way that a friendship works was one of the best favors that anyone has ever done for me.
He could have dumped me by the wayside.
He didn't, he lovingly guided me into a direction that helped me, and us.

Finally, regarding trauma and the one-sided desperate need of trauma victims to be unconditionally heard, being absolutely unable to absorb anything that anyone may say to them for a while other than "I'll help you as best I can", "we'll find help for you", just purely supportive words are all they may be able to hear for however long it takes for them to process their trauma, with professional help as needed, but sometimes just an ear is what is needed.

You may wonder why I may sound so passionate about that subject.
Without going into detail, I'll just say that I've experienced four separate extremely traumatic events over the last 4 months.
When I say four extremely severe separate traumatic events, I am not exaggerating in the slightest bit.
I wore out the ear of my loving sister, who kept trying to suggest fixes for me, which felt overwhelmingly complicated to my fragile ears.
We finally snapped at each other, her telling me that I shoot down everything she suggested, and me crying that I can't even conceive of fixing anything yet, please let me spill my guts until I'm able to even comprehend any forms of recovery.
To her credit and some credit to me, she continued to love me and listen. I began to recognize signs of frustration in her holding her tongue, so I acknowledged her frustration, and tried my hardest to give her a say, although I was still in no shape to act upon her suggestions.
God bless her.
Unfortunately, 2 months ago, I began to develop a stutter that has progressed into my being completely mute in many situations.
My sister is still there for me every day.

I enlisted the aid of a loving, neighbor family a few evenings ago, who so very kindly took me in off of their doorstep and aided me until their sons later walked me home, providing further love and support to me.
I still very much need one-sided care, but in the last few days, I've noticed that I'm beginning to be able to listen to others, so I feel as though I'll be able to soon talk again.
All four traumatic situations are ongoing, they did not just happen and end, with life going back to normal.
No, that's not going to happen.
But I'm beginning to be able to deal with it with very tiny baby steps, very tiny.
But I can relapse completely in a micro-second.
Those I've found who love me will help me whenever I need help.
God bless them all.

I relate that story to differentiate between those who need to grow up, and those who've been traumatized.
In my situation, it's very clear to anyone of reasonable intelligence that my speech and bodily movements are of a person who has suffered severe trauma and needs help.

Sometimes the seemingly whiny neediness of a one-sided "friend" may be an indicator that they need professional help for processing past trauma that is affecting their lives in ways in which they have no idea, and not the tired ear of a long-suffering "friend".
Maybe suggesting that sort of help could and would lead to a greater friendship down the road.
It did for me as a young man.
Dave, if you can hear me out there, I love ya, man.

So, if you were to see me on the street, struggling to speak and to walk, you might seriously consider calling the police or an ambulance.
I'm not kidding one little bit.

But here I am, safe at home, I can type, I have my wits about me to an extent.
I believe that what I've written here makes sense, I hope.

I believe that I will be able to rejoin mainstream life, limited maybe, but to some degree.

Thank you for providing the platform of this question as a means for me to answer your question somewhat and allowing me to address the content of the expansion of your question.

It has felt very therapeutic to me to have shared this with you.
My postings of the previous few weeks were mainly of me whining, so I'm getting better, I believe.

One last topic.
I left G@G almost a year ago because I was allowing trolls to get to me very badly, but I have a few very good friends here.
I've missed them.
I came back to G@G a few weeks ago in my despair but knowing that I mustn't push my friends away with my neediness.
I needn't have worried.
My friends here love me as if I'd never left, and I've made more friends since being back.


Cheers to one and all! 👍😊❤️🙏

[Anonymous]

No it’s not. The thing is women are generally more prone to worrying about “bonding”, social lives and keeping “friends”. There are some evolutionary reasons for this. Women relied on bonding and support from their friends for protection, emotional support and even survival in history.

Men on the other hand are taught to be independent and more importantly have a bigger societal expectation protect and provide for women. Even in the so called “modern” society women still look for financial reliability in men. Especially when they get older.

Anyway this gives men more of Freudian drive to focus on money and their careers. Some too much. But still many if not most men would rather be rich loners vs. broke bums with lots of friends. Especially when they get 30 and older. They are usually more worried about practicality and money vs their social lives.

However sociability does have some impact on earnings potential depending how who you make friends with. There is an old saying that you “are the average of the 5 friends you are closest to”. It’s important for networking too.

Anyway be careful how you judge guys on having lots of “friends” especially if he is 30 or older. Do not compare their lives to being the same as yours. Far from it. The world and in particular women have radically different expectations on him.

Also men don’t magically make more money just because they are men. I absolutely hate the asinine and pedantic feminist “wage gap” myth on that bs. Men make more because they generally pursue more lucrative careers/ventures. They are often willing to go the extra mile to make it and we put our “social lives” second.

[Jbear27]

I used to have tons of friends but as got older I started looking at my social circle and asking myself, do these people bring any value to my life? Most of the time the answer was no. They were filler friends just there to help me pass the time and vice versa. No real deep emotional bonds or connections. So I broke ties with 98% of the people I used to associate with and have reduced my friend list down to maybe 2-3 people. In the end it’s amazing for time management and I’m a happier individual. I actually think it’s a red flag if someone has a ton of friends. I feel like they need a ton of validation and lack the ability to be happy in their own company.

[JustinTheGreat]

Yeah tbh. I’m like you. I’m a pretty extroverted, outgoing person. I can get along with everyone. I understand that not everyone is like that. But it is crazy to me when someone is an adult and has nobody in their circle. At that point, they have to be the problem… or they’re so socially anxious that they can’t even try to make the effort to make friends. Which I feel bad for those who struggle with that. But geez at some point, you need to do something about that.

nobody likes to be alone. Even those who claim they do. Social interaction is a human need.

[Account]

Making friends as an adult is incredibly difficult. The last person that I made my friend, I met 6-7 years ago.
I am an introvert, most of my friends have been my friends for more than 14 years. I am incredibly difficult, and yet still I have managed to build and maintain friendships. It takes a lot of work to do that and a lot of accountability from both sides to achieve that. To me it is absolutely worth it since I consider friends as an extension of family.
As for people who do not have friends let's just say I consider it an "orange" flag if I may call it that way. I won't lie I would wonder why that person doesn't have one single friend and perhaps my first though would be that there might be something off.
I would give them the benefit of the doubt though.

[Paul09]

No , not a red flag. But can depend why they are alone. I have a small group of friends I trust and have known for most of my life now. But meeting new people or finding a girlfriend is hard for me. I do not have the charisma for it. I will definitely talk to people if they talk to me. But going up to strangers trying to start a conversation, will turn into a fail. Plus I do not trust a lot of people. A lot of people are horrible. Some introverts prefer the be alone. I myself am ambiverted. And back in the days I'd talk to everyone and anyone. That just started the change when I kept meeting horrible people. I started to trust them less and less.

[Unit1]

Nein. Friends come & friends go. Betrayal is worse.

In 2022 after I escaped from a dictatorship infested region, my friends became dispersed. I kept holding on to contact and messaged them. Only 1 remains active contact with me. The rest went radio silence on me.

[bannacookies]

Jehovah's Witnesses?

[Unit1]

What? What do they have to do with my statement?

[bannacookies]

😂Nevermind. I quickly read your message and thought you said religion but I see you said region. I was about to rant on how I've heard of Jehovah's Witnesses that disown members who leave but now I see you put REGION. 🙃

[MisterWack]

They simply could be introverted, shy, quiet, awkward, friendships ended in moving / stupid drama / not a roommate anymore / realized they were a douchebag / fake friends / they passed away.

It depends on the situation and the individual’s character & personality to make the judgement.

[TommyMountainFigure]

There was not a solitary word there I didn't agree with. Now, can I have a pot of tea please witchy :P

Talking of red flags. What do people in Russia call it, seeing as their flag is red?

Yes I make friends easily too, and no If they can't be there for me sometimes then they don't stop being my friends!

[TommyMountainFigure]

Oh I tell a lie.. just once I did break off a friendship. He asked me to fix something for him, I spent several hours round his house fixing it and when I'd finished I asked him if he could give me a lift home. He said no because he wanted to take his daughter running, it would have taken him 8 minutes out of his way by car, and she wasn't even late!

[FreyaRed]

As far as the person knows social rules and can behave among others, I don't see it as red flag.
Lot of people are tired of false friends who just know you if they want something from you, so they don't want to play the "friend" game for a while.

[Lynx122]

I don't think so i make my mind up about a person from being around them seeing how they behave and stuff. I know some very toxic people who have tons of friends and people who even give them money and stuff they use other people but still always find new people that like them. And there's people who are honest but maybe just not charismatic, or they're awkward who have no friends. But if someone is too much in their victim mentality about not having friends then it is a problem.

[SkatPak392]

I was bullied as a child by other black peers, bullied in the home and abused by my mother and her boyfriends, verbally, mentally and physically abused, belittled by women and girls, disrespected by men.

Human beings turned me into a misanthrope.

[PatKirby]

Jesus was an adult and all his friends left, so what does that make him?

That's okay that he has no friends here, he's got millions upstairs. How many do you have?

In addition, it's okay to be broke. Jesus and his father have no money either.

[SotiCoto]

No. The opposite. Someone who has too many friends obviously isn't invested in them and is using the term VERY loosely for people they vaguely know and would discard at a moment's notice. Someone with few or no friends would definitely be easier to get along with.

[WhitneySnow]

Not sure. I’ve heard a lot of people my age complain that they have no friends. But I just graduated high school and I’m going off to college and I have plenty of friends so I don’t know.

[luvstoned4him]

Quality over Quantity I like to say and if you haven't found it then best to stay by yourself until they come.

[Anonymous]

no because part of that includes reciprocation that's outside of one's control

hypothetically if everyone is racist, how do you expect a person of color to make friends with them? of course it wouldn't work and we shouldn't blame them for something outside of their control

[Kaneki05]

No it's not.
Many of us prefer less drama and having not to deal with people who are weird to us.
People are weird and one example is judging you based on how many friends you have than ya know judging you?

[Nirmroth]

Judging based on number of friends is stupid but having none at all is definitly weird and suspicious.
Even introverts seek companionship, humans are a social animal after all.

[Kaneki05]

We do but not really anything besides internet.
And well that gets you a lot of dead ends maybe you get lucky and have one best friend online like myself but I could easily live in a world without her if I wasn't lucky enough to have got that first message from her on here.

As for IRL friends they go away easily once you stop wanting to go out and do things. And to no surprise if your not doing that how you gonna meet friends of friends? your not. So if your friends are already not that close to you more just people ya know.
Then how you supposed to find more close IRL friends? Going to a bar and randomly start drinking? Sounds bad. Go to a event well that would defeat the purpose of been introverted. Go to Cinema? yeah to watch a film by myself lol.

If you want to call it a red flag than just ask them, figure it out and make your own judgement after the fact then do so. But guess who's now finding you weird ironically.

[Nirmroth]

Ye relationships have to be nutured but its not like you have to see them every day or week. I meet with my friends maybe every 1-2 months.

All my friends are the ones that sticked around after school and all new ones are from work.
Overall I have 2 core friends and 3 normal ones.

Dont mix up beeing introvert with beeing anti social. I hate people like you lumping us toghether. Beeing introvert is not an illness or condition its that you need more alone time between social interactions to recharge. Yet those with actually mental illness like the above mentioned anti social or anxiety claim to be introvert.

[Kaneki05]

@Nirmroth Hate me all you want for whatever bs your making up right now which I wasn't even talking about. At what point did I say introverts were antisocial?
Do you even know what APD is? probably not because you would know that has nothing to do with what I am talking about but well done thanks for proving my point of why I don't want to deal with drama like you.

[Nirmroth]

Bec you're claiming to be an introvert despite beeing mental ill.

No, I do not know what ADP is and thank you for confirming that has nothing to do with what you're talking about lol?

you're not an introvert but an anti social outcast. Introverts are able to socialize, people that have mental illness or any other disorder for that matter dont fall into that. Thats all I wanted to bring across.

Blame your disorder not your apparently introvertness for your lack of social life.

[Kaneki05]

@Nirmroth imagine calling someone mentally ill when you know nothing about them or their life.
Don't know what APD is but have the courage to call someone mentally ill and anti social.

Go take some psychology come back to me. Before you even try to speak upon things you lack any awareness of this, is funny.

[Kaneki05]

@Nirmroth and since I am annoyed since i have yet to sleep I am gonna dumb myself down to your level. And make a really dumb point copying you.

Hey you must have narricism because I said so. You must be mentally ill yeah that explains it! Don't you dare say your a introvert when your a narrcist really come on now.
I hate people like you pretending you are the same as me.

[Nirmroth]

I said anti social or mentally ill, my fault for forgetting to put it yet again in the first sentence tho.

No, I dont need to know every tiny bit of random disorders there is but please feel free to educate me what illness do you have and how it keeps you from forming social contacts?

[Kaneki05]

@Nirmroth random disorders lmao okay now I can get to sleep. That made me laugh thank you. Really didn't think I would hear someone say antisocial then when one talks about APD that person then says random disorders.
As if that's not related at all.

That's brilliant.
You and I mean this without a doubt are seriously that dumb you made me actually laugh when annoyed well done.

[Nirmroth]

I am glad I could brighten your day with a smile ;)

So you are anti social bec of a disorder/mentall illness or whatever. Guess I was right, right from the start. Why have this long ass conversation then?

you're not an introvert you are anti social.

[Kaneki05]

@Nirmroth Sure buddy and your a narcist.

[bannacookies]

You sound hurt, like someone hurt you & then you gave up on friends. Is thay true @Kaneki05?

[Kaneki05]

@bannacookies Well of course, people leave me all the time so what else I am supposed to take from that.
But I don't see how that don't make my point any less right about judging a person for them which someone how = Nirmroth's mind I am mentally ill lol.

[Nirmroth]

didn't you just say yourself you have a neuro disorder?

[Kaneki05]

@Nirmroth You really have a hard time reading or understanding because no I literally never said that.

[Nirmroth]

You mentioned ADP

[Kaneki05]

@Nirmroth Seriously... you just wow.
Please find and quote where I said I have that.
Mentioning it is not the same as saying I have it smh. That was a point to prove you have not clue what you are talking about which then you confirmed by saying you don't know what it is.
Get out of here lmao.

[Nirmroth]

Why would you mention it in the first place anyway? Do you like throwing in random stuff into discussions when you are loosing or dont like what you hear? I assumed based on the content and flow of our conversation that you have that disorder.

Maybe go out and try to learn how to talk to real people again

[Kaneki05]

@Nirmroth The fact you think APD is random when talking of Antisocial disorder says it all.
Search up Antisocial and read the first thing that comes up then think of the initials.
Tbh that maybe too hard for you.

[Nirmroth]

I wasn't talking about a disorder but beeing anti social by avoiding or not beeing able to interact with humans irl. Maybe its the language barrier but I wanted to express that you are an social outcast that is apparently to weird or far away from the norm to be able to hold on irl relationships. Which isn't what an introvert is about yet you made it seem like that, which I corrected.

[Kaneki05]

@Nirmroth Anti-social is a disorder smh.
So you just don't understand the word. But also now you are just lying to quote yourself 'Bec you're claiming to be an introvert despite beeing mental ill.' your whole point was about me been mentally ill due to been anti-social.

Do me a favour would you? Don't talk about psychological issues and mental illness if you don't understand it at all.

[Nirmroth]

Thats what I meant with language barrier. Here it means people who dont have any friends are usually pretty shy/ have weird hobbies or flee into fantasy worlds to cope. Not a disorder but a type of people.

ADP is much different from what I describing here.

That you have a mental illness is only the next logical conclusion. Human interaction and wanting to be around others is basically coded into our dna. The amount is different but every healthy human has it as basic need.

There doesn't have to be a name for that like with ADP. Best example are gay/lesbians, transgender people.

[Kaneki05]

@Nirmroth If it's a type of people then why in every one of your comments were you saying I am mentally ill.
You are just going back on what you are saying.
And yes there does need to be a name for it because that's how psychology works we don't just call depressed people sad.

You've been the one calling me mentally ill this whole time because I am introverted. But guess what I ain't and even if I was my Introverted nature wouldn't prove that. If it did then every introvert is mentally ill and so are you.
Dumb logic.

[Sharkstealth]

I have very long lasting friendships and I have fake friends. When I go out in social situations I meet all kinds of people but I'm just not interested in most of them in my life. Women are the strangest of all. Women that I approach and meet decide their friendships by looks and whether they like my job or not. After that there is no further conversation a lot of times.

[Sharkstealth]

Isn't that what friends actually do? Rely on another person? You want them to have friends so you can choose between them and whore yourself out to whom ever has something to help you out any given moment. If you want to go on a boat because it's hot you rely on a guy to bring you on the boat. If you need your garage door fixed you don't fix it yourself. You rely on another person to fix it for you.

[strangeatcircleK]

You know... I don't have 0 friends but I wish my friend base was bigger.

Id say overall, watch how they treat people but it does sound strange with no friends maybe they have a social outlet in some other way 🤔

[Juxtapose]

Friends are super easy to make and if you get a decent amount of them you can get a few solid friends. I'm saying this is an autistic guy by the way so if you do worse than me then what the fuck are you doing with your life?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Not a Red Flag, I don't leave the house because I don't drive plus I am a fall risk, if I walk outside I get scared of falling plus I got mental health and physical disabilities.

[Danny_dan92]

Not necessarily. In my lifetime I’ve met and have made MANY friends. But only a handful of the hundreds of them proved to be genuine friends

[Sugar100]

You sound very ignorant as many introverts cannot make friends for a reason. I myslef was born with a disorder where you literally cannot talk in social situations. This happened since I was 5. It’s extremely difficult make friends. People hate you or avoid you as you aren’t loud and talking super extroverted. People make fun of you , bully you. It’s like being sick and no one cares or likes you because you aren’t healthy perfect like them.

[bannacookies]

Well hey, at least you can chew people out online.😂

[RingOfFire]

Maybe if you didn't call people ignorant who you don't even know you might have a better shot at making some friends.

[Iron_Man]

Not in these times, everybody always wants something. It’s like what can you do for me and what have you done for me lately?

[hisstarrr]

I don't have friends but I'm a cool person. Most people just aren't worth being friends with in my opinion. But that doesn't make me a horrible person or anything.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I mean, making friends as an adult is hard. So, I wouldn't call it a red flag.

[Kelly6]

@bannacookies It's not a red flag because it's their personality

[Stef12]

I can't stand being around people. I have a few close friends. Lots is pointless. I am solitary and create my art alone.

[clampfan101]

No, I can relate. Being an adult doesn’t mean you’re always over the moon.

[on_my_knees]

People who use the word "adulting" will instantly send me into introvert mode.

[DizzyDesii]

I find it hot honestly. You can still be social and not have/want friends

[Anonymous]

Didn't really need the pages of text with this question but sometimes friends come and go in people's lives for all kinds of reasons, so find out first before you ditch them like a child.

[captain_voidwalker]

I don't have many freinds because I have to work 12 to 14 hours per day 6 days a week.

[thomastown]

Could be many reasons for this. Find out before you reject someone.

[KelsoAlexander]

Nah, not everyone is good with people. Besides they're not gonna be involved in the relationship if she did have them so wouldn't matter if she didn't

[Anonymous]

No, some people are just introverted. Your witchcraft comment made me 😂

[Anonymous]

I don't have any due to various reasons some passed away some moved some falling out with

[DishLady]

Yeah, 0 Friends = 🚩🚩🚩

[Jennz6]

Yes, red flag 🚩 for sure

[JamesRandiDebates]

Friends are over rated.

[jahaims]

Duh.