Don't let your age make you feel less than because you have yet to do something or find someone.
I use to feel just like you.
I didn't have anyone till I was 33!
That wasn't just romantically either. I felt like you do for decades.
Let me share with you something my grandmother told me long long ago. It helped me a lot, it might help you.
When I was young I felt the pressure from school about not getting around. I felt old a freakish because no one wanted me. I began to fear I'd be rejected even more if a guy found out I had no experience.
My grandmother told me that it wasn't a bad thing. Everyone is different. You are a very special girl and one day you will find a man that will be over the moon to have you all to himself. It's a great way to tell if a man is genuine. If he teases you about it then he is no good.
Well, my grandmother was 100% right.
It just took a lot longer than either of us expected. Wish you could meet him grandma he is everything you predicted. ♥
My point is. Don't loose hope and don't rush onto anything sexual or otherwise just because the world says you should have done such and such by a certain age. They won't be there for the regret or fall out of being badgered into something too soon or against what you want. It isn't worth the pain.
Go with what feels right to you and look for a good man that won't give a dang about this and secretly may even be thrilled.
Good luck. 🤗
Most guys value purity so at your age there is absolutely no disadvantage if you never had a relationship. There are other important factors but the primary factor that determines the quality of the guys you can attract for a relationship is your looks. For a one night stand, that absolutely you should avoid having, you can find exceptionally attractive guys. However, if you are not finding guys interested in a relationship, you may have unrealistic standards.
Most young women have unrealistic standards. That is because guys date down for sex, but they don't marry down. However, typically young women chase after the hottest guys that will sleep with them and reject guys within their league that would marry them.
Hard for me to say because I would have to know what cultural background you're coming from. It was common in women when I was in Japan... and it was kind of nice not being judged against a shit list of guys that came before me. They'd be like 23 and I was like the first real boyfriend. Here in the States though they might have a body count of 23 by the time they're 23.
Hard for me to think of it as a bad thing unless you're like crazy which I highly doubt. Crazy chicks get dick all the time. Maybe just conservative (not talking about politics) and probably don't even have naughty pictures online. That's a good thing in my mind.
Give it some time. It's OK not to be in a hurry to find someone. There are a lot of psychos out there and you don't want to end up with someone violent or narcissistic.
I think that's very wise of you to not jump on the first person that comes along. No one should find you weird, and if someone does, they are the one with the problem!
Maybe write down a list of what you look for in someone and carry it with you, so the next time you meet someone, you can see if that matches up any of the qualities on the list. They don't have to match every single one, but at least a couple would be important.
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You are just 19. Relax. You're still very young and only stupid people will judge someone for not being in a relationship. Everyone's journey is different. You cannot force yourself to like someone enough to be with them and vice versa. Take your time. There's so many things to experience and enjoy in life other than dating and relationship. When the time is right, you'll meet the right person you want to be with.
It depends on why. If she just hasn’t really found the right one but she’s into me. It’s a honor. If there’s a reason why guys tend to stay away from here that’s a good one… ehhhh
It's not a problem at your age. Over 21, it would begin to be viewed differently.
u That should not be a problem at your age.
I don't think it's good or bad one way or another. You simply haven't found The One yet, and honestly? You're still very young so you got plenty of time. 19 and never had a relationship is nothing to worry about, by a long shot. Now if you were 30 and never had one, then I'd be inclined to think maybe you have some inner emotional issues holding you back or scaring dudes off.
Most men are turned on by women who've never had a relationship, similar to how they like women who've never had sex, so I think it's rare for you to meet a man who wouldn't want to date you. Personally I'm not excited by that, but I'm also not put off by a woman who's never had a relationship either. You'll meet the right guy when you least expect it, don't worry.
I didn't date till 21. It's unusual, perhaps, and sure, I almost wish I had good girlfriends in high school, but, considering some of the girls I thought were ok at the time, it was probably better that I didn't date them - I had no idea what they were doing after school. Some were pickled out of their minds six months after graduation. And considering my parents... I don't think any of them would have lasted very long.
But even the girl I dated at 21 ended up not being all that great a person. I don't know if it was a red flag to women (probably was/is), but that's their issue. You date when you date. For me, if I was a 24 year old, and met a woman who was 22 and hadn't had a relationship, it wouldn't be a red flag.
I'm eighteen and I haven't been in a relationship either. I haven't even been approached. I sometimes worry that I'd be a red flag as well. I'm sorry you're in that position, but I am a little relieved to know I'm not the only girl who is almost in her twenties and has never dated anyone.
Im happy about this too bc you aren’t alone either girl. I just feel odd and behind everyone bc seems like everyone has dated some people at least one person or even dozens of people but I always had people like me and I don’t feel the same for them or the people I would go for I’m not sure they would go for me and I don’t think they would. If it makes you feel better I went on one date last year it counts, but never amounted to anything bc I didn’t like them I went out as a friend but other than that never been in an actual relationship with someone. I feel like the most I age not having one is making me insecure I don’t get approached a whole lot either I was approached by a few people and than I thought finally this is it maybe I’ll have a boyfriend or get to knkw each other enough to become their person but they just kinda stopped talking it always destroys me and also not dating anyone just makes me afraid bc then I have to answer all these questions and they will find stuff out not bad but different things and won’t like me so it’s like I don't know how to take it and if I do like someone I’m afraid to reveal my feelings too. I want sometime but at the same time I don’t than if there’s an opportunity where it could come close I back out and just don’t want no parts of it I’m afraid I think it’s bc I don't know how things will go not experienced in relationships
Than some guy friend of mine said it was a green flag bc im in it for the right reasons so maybe it is a green flag
What meant by find things out when guys get to know me and they ask how many bfs I had I’m afraid to say 0 I feel like I’ll get judged just reveals things to people and maybe they will see it as opportunity to mess with me and play me I’m afraid of that happening I don’t want that either I guess have to be careful with guys
I totally get it. I haven't been approached since kindergarten, lol. It's probably mostly because I live in a really small town, but yeah. The only guys I've liked so far haven't liked me yet, and I haven't met anyone to even consider in six years. I'm trying to be positive though, and believe the right person will come along and we'll just click. I don't get 'dating,' you know? Like going out with someone you don't have any interest in and scrutinizing all your feelings and interactions to see if you have chemistry. I just want something to feel right, and certain.
I hope we both have good luck this year 🙂
To be honest with you there are no Flags it really doesn't concern me or bother me and either way I mean I would look at it and say well she's very smart girl she has morals values and ethics and she's looking for something in life and she knows who she wants to be so I look at it as a good thing
I know a 39 year old whos never been in a relationship. And she's gorgeous. But there's some extreme internal trauma there that makes her stay away from relationships.
At your age, it does not matter. Tack on another 20 years and thats a red flag.
The less relationship experience she has, the better for me, being the first is actually honorable knowing I'm giving her the first experience of a love life, I know it would be pure even if it wasn't her first but the first must have a much better reaction.
Depends on her reasons.
Good god, you haven't even reached your twenties. Why are you worried? 19 is still pretty early.
Personally, I'm aro. I do not experience romantic attraction, and I don't trust people enough to bed them. Otherwise I'd have both things going for me.
Depending on the reason it could be a red flag or not. Rarely is it a green flag.
If the girl has never been in a relationship because she pushes all of the guys away, that's a red flag. If she's never been in a relationship because she wants to sleep around, that's a red flag. If she's never been in a relationship because she hasn't found the right guy yet, that's not a red flag but begs the question has she just been unlucky or are her standards crazy.
If she’s your age no. Even if she’s in her early to mid 20’s I wouldn’t think so. I’d assume maybe she was in college or trying to make something w her life before committing to something like that. Now as she’s approaching her late 20’s to early 30’s then yes I’d wonder why a lot more than I would w someone your age.
I'm 34, my longest relationnship was 2 year ldr and 5 months irl. Many dates, some one night stands, some short term love, some casual... Life is messy. But I don't regret anything, I still believe in love and think I just haven't found it yet. Never was in a rush and never will be. It can get lonely and sometimes anxious, but overall I mostly enjoy my single life. It's about making the best out of what you got right now, no one guarantees anything.
I had a female friend who didn't get into a relationship till she was 18 years old and later married at 19 years old. I would not find it weird at all if a girl didn't have a boyfriend at 19. Just take your time no rush to get into a relationship while you're in your 20's.
Don't worry about that, just don't bring it up during your conversations with prospective guys. Men tend not to be as concerned about things like that, and if/when you eventually have sex, I promise you he'll never know.
It's okay. I was that girl once, I was quite picky. (I have a boyfriend now. 😊) Do not worry so much to what society tells you. The right guy will actually treasure the fact that you value yourself enough to not rush into relationships.
red flag if her body count isn't 0 otherwise green flag
if she's giving it away to random dudes without commitment, don't expect the next guy to commit if the previous dudes didn't want to commit either
In this day n age it’s not weird unless you’re like 70 because dating is in at a low right now. Finding someone and they are a decent human being at the same time kind of feels like winning a lottery
I think it depends on the person. Some men will want someone who has some experience and their are others who don't really care. To me I don't see it as a red flag for the most part. Maybe when I get older it will be a red flag but for now it's not.
Red flag. Odds are she's wound too tight for living. EVERY woman gets approached by at least one guy. And most women multiple guys. If she's always remained single, it's by choice bottom line. You're still young enough that it isn't that big of a deal yet. But if this still is the case at 30. Guys will avoid you because they know you'll be wasted effort for him.
It´s a green flag because having had experience it´s not always good. Since having had no experiences is always better than having had bad experiences in these situations.
That’s actually a green flag, bc since when a girl has never had a boyfriend? Literally every girl I’ve met to this point is already taken in any form or way so, that’s rare if she’s never had a relationship before
If you don't make it an issue, it's not an issue. The ones who say anything else needs to do some soul searching and realize you don't need to have constant confirmation by others to be a normal human.
you're 19, it's literally okay... you give that exact explanation if anyone asks, not like it's any of their business.
u Neither red nor green at your age, it’s not a problem but I wouldn’t praise it. If you were in your 30’s or 40’s, then it would be a different story.
I don't see it as either flag. It's just tells me she hasn't yet met someone she's had a good connection with and doesn't want a relationship with someone she doesn't feel strongly about.
Its a good thing from a guy's perspective. Nothing to worry about. I think most guys will like it that you haven't been in many relationships before 🤗
At your age, it won't mean anything. When you start getting to my age, not having any relationship experience starts to get weird. It just gets to the point of like... why?
Not weird, I don't think that would be an issue for the vast majority of guys. You're still very young, plenty of people don't until later.
I'd say no flags. Whether someone's been in a relationship isn't a deal breaker or maker. Just depends on if they're ready for one.
It can be both, It depends on what age you are and the Guy and what he is Attracted to.
For me, If She was older than 30 I would probably wonder why, But if she was 25 or younger it would be understandable and i wouldn't really care.
It's a warning she is never pleased, otherwise she would have picked a guy by now.
It's neither. You have... or ya don't. Either way, if he wants to date you, he will.
Um, many many many people have not had a relationship by 19. Not unusual at all.
Depends, if she virgin then it's good thing, if she had lot of casual sex then she is a ho.
At 19 it wouldn't be a red flag, older (say 30) I'd be very curious why.
Male or female, it is always a concern.
What do you think of me,
Im 38, never been in a relationship, never even touched a naked boob, ass or anything between the legs. Never had a blow job or even a hand job.
There’s nothing good or bad about never being in a relationship whether you’re a male or female. I’ve never been in one. There’s no reason of being in a hurry.
Don't let that bother you. It's not a red flag at all. It just means that you have standards, which is a good thing.
At 19? That’s not a big deal. If you’re 49 and never been in a relationship, that may be a red flag.
Neither. All that means is you haven't had a relationship yet. You don't need to read to deeply into it.
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If you’re a guy, red flag. If you’re a woman, green. Women are more desirable the fewer relationships they’ve had. Men like to be the first to do things with you and if you’ve had a lot of relationships in the past they can’t do that.
Green. As she is green most likely. What young straight man wouldn't want to plow her field first?
Yeah, because it just means your standards are too unrealistic
Depends on the guy, but I would go for you. Its no. big deal to me.
I find no worry about it. Just try to enjou your life no mader what happens
Not as big of a red flag as it is for men in that boat
Not really a red flag, a bit interesting though. I've got no right to judge though I've never had a partner either.
Fuck the flags. Do yourself a favor and wait for that right guy who treats you like gold.
I can care less, a better question is does she have stds.
Its not a red or green flag it actually means that her pussy is still tight
At 19, no... at 59, yes.
Hey you only 19 not 91 so just chill.
I don’t think it matters tbh.
Depending on the guys she's encountered with.
No, it’s not a red flag. Why would it be?
it's fine at your age
Red flag as she might have been a he.
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