Have interest in older people?

[Anonymous]

I'm in my early 20s, do u think it's normal to date or have a taste for someone older than I am?

[SueShe]

I would say that a vast majority of people date people that are not exactly the same age (same birth year) as their partners. A gap of 2-3 years is normal mainly in the younger years of adulthood.

It is a known fact that women are more mature than men by about 1-2 years. That means that a 20 year old guy has the same maturity than a 18 year old girl.

What would not be that good is to have an 18 year old girl dating an 18 year old guy because his maturity is about the one of a 16 year old boy.

However, as people age, the gap closes and a 30 year old man will have the same maturity as a 30 year old woman.

Now, you being in your early 20s have the same maturity as a 18-20 year old girl. By dating an older woman, you just increase this gap. Since you are an adult, you are basically free to date any other adult. Whether there is mental compatibility is a totally different story. She may feel that she is dating a person that is way too young.

[Asker]

Hmmm 🤔. I think you're right in a way. But I think twill be nice to date someone older tho.

[PrettyPriya]

My first question is why is this only open to girls to answer? If anything, it should be the opposite since you are asking if it is normal for (you, a guy) to be interested in dating older women. That would be a question to ask the guys, not the girls.

That said, I can say that I am not interested in dating someone outside my age range. When I say range, that means a couple of years to me. My other half is just about a year older than me. I like to date someone close to my age because it means we are on the same page when it comes to a lot of things.

Now, that does not mean that I look down on those that date older. That is a personal preference. They say that you cannot help who you fall in love with. That is true no matter the age. If you meet someone that is older and things just work, good on you. Nothing wrong with that.

[Asker]

So technically I'm a guy and given that it's my question and wanted know what my opposite sex think about dating people within or out of their age groups. Like u said you cannot help who you fall in love with. I hope that answers your question.

[PrettyPriya]

Thanks for the reply. Personally, I date close to my age, married now. That is not to say that I would object to someone that falls outside what I consider my dating age range.

[Asker]

No problem. I myself, I'm single 😂

[PrettyPriya]

You are young still though. I just got married end of last year. Took me a long time to find that perfect guy. I really didn't date much. Stupid pandemic really put dating on hold. Give it time and wait for the right person is my best advice. Patience is a virtue.

[Asker]

Lol I might not really know what it feels like to date someone or get married but there's one thing I'm sure of, there's no such thing as a perfect guy. Its the love you have towards him that makes u think he's perfect. Happy married life tho ☺️.

[fonduegirl]

It's normal. But it can be unhealthy if the people you date are twice your age.

[Asker]

Well I haven't dated any yet, either within my age range, below or above. I just tend to have more interest in the ones that are slightly older with a 3-4 years gap.

[fonduegirl]

You can make it work with 3-4 years age gap. It's perfectly okay.

[Asker]

Lol thanks but I'm sure its gonna be hard

[fonduegirl]

Well good luck

[Asker]

Sure

[Anonymous]

A lot of people preferred older but most people have their limits.

[Asker]

Hmmm okay