When you get older, will old people become attractive to you?

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Like when i’m 70 are 70 year old men going to look hot?

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

It would be interesting to know the age of the people voting "no."

I don't know if other older guys have had the same experience as me, and I have no idea how this works for women, but this is what I have realized.

When I was in my 20's, girls from 16 up to about 35 looked hot. (I've never pursued underage girls, but they are still cute.) Older women didn't look ugly, but they just weren't appealing. When I was in my 40's, girls from 16 up to about 55 looked hot, but older women. . . not so much.

After I turned 60, girls from 16 up to about 60 looked hot. Women my age didn't look "hot," but I was still attracted to them because of their personality, demeanor, their smile, our history.

In 2015, when I was 60 years old, I started dating a woman who was 63. I thought she was cute but not spectacular. We had SO much in common, and we had a big set of common friends and common interests. I fell in love with her. We didn't live together but spent most weekends together and I was very satisfied with our physical relationship. Eventually, I broke up with her because she liked me and thought I was a great boyfriend but she never loved me in the same way that I loved her. After a few months of no contact, I met her for dinner. I looked at her and wondered how I had ever been attracted.

So, at this age, physical beauty plays a much smaller role in sexual attraction. If you had told me that it would be like this at age 69, I would have called you a damned liar. Life is strange.

WindAtMyBack · Accepted Answer

To be blunt, no I am not attracted to  most  women my age. As I got older I was attracted to older and older women. But only to a point. By the time they are grey and wrinkled, I have almost no attraction to them at all. Everyone is different though. I know a lot of people my age and older who are actively dating others their age. I know multiple people in their late 60s and 70s who are downright promiscuous and hopping from one bed to the next. If you marry someone young and grow old together, that is something different. I don't think I would lose my attraction to someone I'd been with my whole life. But as far as initial attraction, no. Wrinkled old women just have no appeal to me. There are some exceptions, like the woman I was dating last summer who looked far younger than she was. But those exceptions are very rare. It has a lot to do with how well they kept themselves up and how well they naturally aged. If a woman doesn't keep herself up, I'm not attracted to her no matter how old she is. I'd rather be with a 70 year old who has kept herself up and is fit, than a 25 year old who has not. On the other hand, if it's very casual, with nothing physical, I'll "hang out" with just about anyone. So, dinner, hiking, maybe a few drinks, going out doing something fun...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think this is increasingly becoming a question for the younger generations where marriage is less of a sustainable thing. Like in the 50s, a majority were getting married and growing old with their spouse, so attraction as always still existed, but you were most likely already just with the one you love.

Now and moving forward, more and more people divorce, so even as you are getting older, many are still dating. I think it depends on yourself of course. You may feel differently when you, yourself, are older, what you define as beautiful. A lot of people at the age they are now, are saying, no they wouldn't, they'll always think a certain way, but you can't truly know that until you're in that position, looking not only at yourself and how you've aged and define beauty, but looking outwards at others.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

I think you become attracted to your own age as you age. Like when I was 18 I thought 30 year olds were gross. Like there were the rare hotties but I would never consider dating them lol. Now I think guys my age are hot unless they look super bad for their age :P

HawkPerception · Answer

I think for me I've always found girls around the ages of 16+ to be attractive (not that I'd ever act on that). It all depends on facial structure, body proportions and fitness, but I'm currently attracted to ladies even up to the ages of 50+ sometimes. When you get older, I think you do tend to be attracted to older people. There's something called the similarity and familiarity attraction effect in psychology. People that notice certain features in people that they have themselves become points of attraction.

Levin · Answer

I mean, hopefully, you don't think I'm old enough to be able to answer this question fully.

But I suppose hotness is one thing. Younger people are 'hot'. They arouse some raw kind of desire in you. I still find younger women very alluring. That is just the nature of biology.

I suppose as you get older, you're looking at the whole person. The entirity of their consciousness and being. Plus love takes over. So while some kind of physical attraction on some level is important, there are other factors. Love, that wedding of hearts, causes you to see people in a different way.

The other issue is just people taking care of themselves. Age doesn't have to be such a big problem. But people are lazy, don't exercise, and eat poorly. They age quickly.

ClaircognizantEmpath · Answer

well lmao, for me its an absolute No unfortunately... and believe me im well aware of my own ageing body/skin lack of collagen etc, its hell but men my own age, mostly look too old plus having a boy toy spell in my early to mid 40s hasn't helped me! lol

mobiusforniner · Answer

I think attractiveness matures with one’s own age. For example, I don’t find 20 year old girls as being attractive now that I’m in my late thirties. I do find many 30 and into late 40 year old women attractive. I mean, if you’re 40 and still want to date a 20 year old, well……I think that says enough.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Love your question 👍🏽, and the answers, especially the old cat

Since you are 18-24, I assume you want to foresee, when getting older, if you will still be attracted to people in your age range. Several people named the keyword here: what attracts you now is not set in stone, it will evolve, you probably can't feel what it implies, but you can read what we say about it. And speculate.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Certainly :D

In fact... to me the very young people may be interesting and capturing with their wits or appearance - partly, that is...

but ''sexually'' and ''intellectually'' they appear to be some kind of incomplete to me.

Not a judgement, mind you. But I (and ''we'', perhaps') often expect more than just a pretty piece of meat :D

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nope.

What features you're attracted to stays the same your whole life.

You could find a 70 year old attractive, but only if you either already do, or if that 70 year old looks as youthful/healthy as much younger people.

I'm almost 40 and still look 14, so its possible, but most people in their 70s today are going to look very damaged, and unless society shifts away from the mentality that aging is inevitable, and starts living healthy, its likely to stay that way.

Apple1996 · Answer

For any healthy person their idea of beauty will change with age. For example at 12 I only ever crushed on 12 year old boys. At 27 it's the same I only find people within my age range attractive so at 70 I'm guessing I'll like 70 year olds

DizzyDesii · Answer

I find older men attractive already, I just don't want to be with an old man unless I’m old myself. I’ve always preferred a close age range like 0-3 year age gap. I made an exception for like 2 people

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think as you get older, the age gap increases both ways, for me I like younger women (not too young) but then find women 10 to 15 years older than me attractive too, if they've taken good care of themself.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

I seriously doubt it. I feel 20 years younger than I am and I dated/married 20 years younger and it felt like we're the same age.

qualityybacklink · Answer

Attraction can be influenced by many factors, including personal experiences and cultural perceptions. As people age, they often find beauty and attraction in qualities like wisdom, kindness, and life experience. If you're considering how your views might evolve, it could be helpful to think about the attributes and values that you find meaningful and attractive as you grow older. What are your thoughts on how attraction changes over time?
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Anonymous · Answer

I don't like how women past a certain age look now, so I can't imagine liking it when I'm that age or older. It's no offense to them, it's just what I find attractive. I like how young girls look and I think I will always like how young girls look.

thearchjoker · Answer

From the little research I've read on the subject 70 year olds as a whole will not become more attractive but your partner will remain as attracted as he/she was when you just met

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

You can be attracted to any age man if them seem fit or have an awesome and entertaining personality. Same goes with men and young boys they can be attracted to younger or older women

Ladsin2 · Answer

No, regardless of age, location, or culture men find women ~18-25 the most attractive.

Women typically find men 35-40 most attractive, but theirs changes far more significantly as they age. Typically women like men their age or older.

smashleyy · Answer

Probably. I don’t fancy guys younger than me I always date older

Kaneki05 · Answer

Press F to doubt. The only difference is it becomes normal and you adjust.

Starrrboy · Answer

I think it depends.. If I'm 40 and I look 40 , I'd probably find people my age attractive... If I'm 40 and I look younger , I probably won't be that attracted to them.

Anonymous · Answer

For women, yes they are attracted to older men when they are older. I'm almost 70 and I have a million women my age after me.

But men want younger women. I'm not attracted to women my age. I'm attracted to younger women.

Jersey2 · Answer

My interest in women always stayed within a few years of my own age. It just happened that way.

DrPepper12 · Answer

OMG I've wondered that too and so far youth still reigns supreme.

SunnyGirly · Answer

Old guys are already more attractive to me I just don't like guys who look like boys lol

genericname85 · Answer

in my experience so far: yes. but the younger ones don't stop being attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

Women look attractive till about 40. I can't say for women how long men look attractive. Based on some women responses on G@G you wonder if guys ever do.😆

Anonymous · Answer

It's the maturity that stands out. Political stance too.

Staximus · Answer

That's usually how it goes unless you're rich

LiamJHayden · Answer

Perhaps the things that one finds attractive change with age.

ICanSmellTheCosmos · Answer

Currently I like women from 18 - mid forties. So, I dunno.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Hopefully not, as old broads don't do it for me.

Ironco · Answer

18 to 80... If you think she is hot, go for it.

Deserter2 · Answer

Nah, always been attracted to women in the 18-50 range

Nikki1989 · Answer

Many already are.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I do think about that, and I would imagine so

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes. Older people are already attractive to me.

Anonymous · Answer

No clue lol. But probably?

Bigantdog69 · Answer

I'm not attracted to old people..

Anonymous · Answer

Indeed.

Rohaan2020 · Answer

I don’t think so

Anonymous · Answer

Go for it

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