What sacrifices have you made for someone else?

[MementoMori777]

[MrOracle]

Oh, in the past, as a much younger man, I was very naive and believed in traditional relationships as being the norm, because that's what my parents taught me, and that's how it was for them - but their generation was the last.

I made the mistake of getting into a long-distance relationship, but I thought I had the solution - I drove 4 hours in each direction to see her every weekend for more than a year, and then I moved to live with her for a year, all at my expense and resulting in a lot of debt. When I realized that I could not afford to continue (she lived in an area with high unemployment, which was also a college town full of people willing to take any job for minimum wage - only life-long locals had any chance of being hired for "career jobs" and even then, there were waiting lists).

She moved back with me and had a job paying double by her second day, but she moved back after 5 weeks, because it was "too busy" in my suburban town compared to the little seaside town she was from. Needless to say, that was the end of our relationship.

I realize that it was my fault - you should never invest so much into someone who doesn't invest as much as you do - but I naively held out hope. I had to learn that lesson the hard way. It took 3.5 years to climb out of that debt.

This is also why I advise people against long-distance relationships - the success rate is under 1%. But everyone wants to believe that they are the exception...

[MementoMori777]

Yea bro damn, sucks you went through that but I'm glad you climbed out the hole and managed to climb out of debt, believe it or not it builds character

[MrOracle]

Character wasn't really what I was lacking, but I suppose I got the reality check that I *did* need. It was an expensive lesson, though.

[MementoMori777]

Yea Hella expensive

[PointTaken]

Everything twice. Had to restart twice. Also, $40,000 debt I had no idea she put on my credit.

[MementoMori777]

Damn that's messed up, is she still with you?

[PointTaken]

Nope. Both were crazy. Literally. Second one didn't really see how crazy till the end. I don't talk to either one.

[MementoMori777]

Is it a stretch to tell her she owes you 40k

[PointTaken]

Kind of hard when she's in a mental hospital.

[MementoMori777]

Damn ots gonna be kinda hard I guess

[PointTaken]

It was. All good now. Got about everything I used to have again.

[MementoMori777]

Oh okay nice, I'm glad br9

[MementoMori777]

Bro*