I was never raised by a wife aka a submissive woman who won't put all if their emphasis or take charge and or decisions onto a man.
So basically I was raised by a single mother. I'm wonder how I can be a wife when I've never got the training to be one?
We are breaking generational curses so I'm just wondering
Embrace your femininity, and that's more than just how you look and dress, but also how you act. Presumably, you're only going to pick men whose morals and values you respect, and who you have determined that you can trust to lead you, so let him lead. A good leader is going to keep your wants and needs in mind, and he's going to make decisions based on your best interests. If you've chosen well, then it's likely that he's going to make the right decision the vast majority of the time - so learn to let go of the control and the instinct to argue about things and to have to always be right, and LET HIM LEAD.
This doesn't mean you can't disagree, respectfully, if there is something serious and you feel strongly, but learn to pick your battles, and disagree respectfully. If other people are around, take him to the side and express your concerns in private. In other words, think about how you might act around your boss's boss - you'd likely be respectful by default.
Learn to use positive feedback when he does something you appreciate, rather than negative feedback (i. e., complaining) when he does something you don't like or agree with, or when he doesn't do something. Is it going to be the end of the world if the lawn doesn't get mowed on Saturday morning? Probably not, so let it go. But when he does mow it, tell him how great it looks, and he'll probably find more motivation to keep it mowed.
A good moral man wants to lead because he can protect you more effectively that way from the dangers of the world, whether the danger is big or whether it's a minor inconvenience. Men WANT to care for their families, and make them happy, and most men are going to happily sacrifice in order to do so, but they need to feel respected and appreciated. Feminism will have taught you NEVER to respect or appreciate a man, because the goal of Feminism (as stated outright by many Feminist leaders) is to destroy the nuclear family and all relationships between men and women, so you will need to unlearn this horrible trait and learn to show respect and appreciation. If you do, then it's almost certain that you will benefit from this in many ways, and that your relationships will be far more satisfying.
Being feminine is not about cooking and cleaning, it's about your attitude and your outlook. Men don't wake up in the morning thinking about how they're going to oppress women, they think about how they're going to keep their families safe and provided for. When a woman doesn't respect that, or worse, tells him that he's unnecessary, then how can she possibly expect to have a quality, lasting relationship? It's impossible.
Feminism teaches women NOT to become the kind of women that men want, but rather to BECOME the men that women want to be with. That makes no one happy in the end. You have to come to terms with the fact that Feminism (which is NOT equality) teaches lies, and you can't keep defending those lies and have a quality relationship with a man, because that goes against everything Feminism teaches.
Feminism considers traditional relationships female slavery, but have you ever met a woman in a traditional relationship? Did that look like slavery to you? Or did she have a great life with a quality husband?
Firstly, it's important to recognize that being a wife does not necessarily mean being submissive or putting all the emphasis on a man. A healthy relationship involves mutual respect, communication, and shared decision-making. It's okay to have your own opinions, ideas, and goals, and to express them openly and honestly with your partner.
However, it's also important to be open to your partner's perspectives and to work together to find solutions that work for both of you. This may involve compromise, active listening, and a willingness to learn and grow together.
Some other tips for letting a man be a man in a relationship may include:
- Trusting your partner to make decisions and take charge in certain situations
- Allowing your partner to take the lead in areas where they may have more expertise or experience
- Praising and encouraging your partner's strengths and accomplishments
- Respecting your partner's boundaries and needs
- Being supportive and understanding during difficult times
Remember, every relationship is unique, and it's important to find a dynamic that works for both you and your partner. Communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to learn and grow together can all contribute to a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
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You don't need to be a "submissive woman" or "obey" a man to be his wife. If you're loud, talkative, elongate, and observant then you want to go for a guy who is analytical shy, quite or a nerdy guy. If you are more analytical minded then a confident extroverted guy would help balance it out.
Opposites attract. The reason you don't want a guy the same as you is because you personalities are too similar. With someone who is the same you will find Intellectual and sexual attraction, but you get the romantic attraction because your personalities are too similar and will clash with each too much.
A quite analytical computer might not seem right because confident and talkative, but helps balance you out because his so different from you and has a lot of traits that help complete you.
If you have simplicity and elegance than the an analytical and practical kind of guy will help you more than a guy who is similar. Pick the opposite of not someone who is against you.
So you can charge and make decisions for him because he might be lacking in that area. It's about neutral benefit. It's not about obeying your husband.
Why would you want to screw up how you were raised?
You definitely do not have the right idea of what a wife is.
A wife is a partner, not a servant.
Your mother taught you self-sufficiency and that you don't need to be some asshole's submissive slave.
Get your shit together because, really, that's what men want - competent capable loyal trustworthy women.
You have to consider yourself on his team and put his needs first. You have to support his ego and build him up. You should be the first person to take his side and be consoling when he fails. You have to not be adverse to taking direction or mild criticism. You can’t be argumentative or controlling. You have to anticipate his needs. Think mild mannered, bubbly, joyful, gentle, energy. You have to keep up your physicality. Don’t get fat and make yourself pretty according to his standards. You are on his team so you should wear his uniform ie look the way he likes you to look.
If you have conservative morals you would naturally be a good wife. If you have liberal morals you won't be a good wife or happy long term.
Same goes for the man. Think about what morals and life choices match each of those ideals and you will figure out what would work best for a long term happy successful relationship.
What?
My point here is you could as well be asking how do you let a cat be a cat, a dog be a dog and a man be a man.
So you are a tall dominant woman?
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