No Contact Experiences?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been pushing and pressuring this guy I liked for like 6 months constantly.. it’s been miserable for both of us.. So I have committed to 60 days of no contact. Has anyone ever done no contact? What was your experience? Did anything change for the better whether you got that guy or girl or not? I am going to be focusing on myself and improving myself and I want to change a lot of my behavior such as pushing others and not having patience. Do you think it’ll make a difference to him and the way he sees me?

[MrWolf]

Talk about that hunt lol I mean if he doesn't get it early what's the point. And I'm speaking for something serious of course. Not a short slap and run. Even there 6 moths is to much.

I mean is that a cat mouse game or what?
How will it feel probably not as good as expected. I'd say it will feel normal or like time wasted while so many things could happened or moments wasted. Girl you have patience I gotta say that. And nerves of steel. Super girl definitely here.

I hope that guy is worth all that trouble and I hope he at least acknowledges the fact that this is like one I a billion to be chased after.

Most long run I had in hide and seek was like a week or two but whole 6 months hell no.

[Asker]

Yeah I’ve wasted a lot of time, energy and precious money on him. Spent $800 alone on him for his birthday.. I’m definitely tired of over exhausting myself.

[Anonymous]

No contact can be an effective strategy for individuals who are struggling with a relationship or trying to work through personal issues. Taking a break from communication can provide space and time for both parties to reflect on their feelings and priorities, and to work on personal growth and self-improvement. However, it's important to approach no contact with a clear purpose and plan, and to communicate your intentions and boundaries with your partner beforehand. It's also important to maintain a respectful and compassionate attitude towards yourself and your partner throughout the process. While no contact can potentially lead to positive changes and outcomes, it's important to focus on your own growth and well-being rather than solely on the outcome of the relationship. Ultimately, it's up to each individual to determine what they feel is best for themselves and their relationships.

[Anonymous]

Don’t commit to a length of time, because all you’ll do is focus on when those 60 days are over rather than focusing on your betterment. Already you seem to be prioritizing him — what he’ll think, how he will perceive you after the 60 days, will it make a difference, and wanting to feel assured he’ll still be there after the time has passed. You need to adjust your focus to only yourself and what you want to accomplish. Detach from him in a real way otherwise this is pointless.

[Asker]

You are absolutely right! Thank you for opening my mind.

[Opinion Owner]

No worries! Good luck with the process🙏

[OfMiceandMen]

I recommended no sex for 6 months in a relationship, bc I really liked the girl and wanted us to know for sure that we were meant for each other. She had manipulated and hurt a few times. So, I wanted to put her mind at ease that I am not one of those guys.

[OfMiceandMen]

My bad - She had been manipulated and hurt a few times.

[Anonymous]

I don't think any smart guy wait 60 days for hole... lol

[Asker]

What? Lol