Does he seem like a player?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy on a dating app and at first I asked him what he was looking for? He said I am not really looking for anything, I’m going with the flow. We are in regular contact and I see him once or twice a week. Sometimes he will contact me with short notice. But It’s a pattern so I know when it will be. Does the fact that he regularly sees me mean that he is not a player? Or the fact that he contacts me at short notice and says he is going with the flow make him a player? What are signs he is a player?

[spartan55]

I love how girls throw the 'player' label around and have no idea how to define it.

[Asker]

How do you define it @spartan55

[spartan55]

What is a 'player' anyway? ↗

[Wraith_Cemetery]

Yep. Women throw a lot of words around and have no idea how to define them. Nor do they properly defend their arguments on certain concepts.

[Asker]

@spartan55 thank you! His behaviour is not at all the same as what is mentioned. And I have no idea if he seeing any other women. But I guess he wouldn’t be since he has no time, works 3 jobs and is in regular contact with me. I dealt with a player before whom I knew had many women on the side and only contact me once a month and never reply. This guy does not have the same characteristics

[Asker]

@Wraith_Cemetery yeah I don’t even have any proof he is a player lol.. I shouldn’t have asked this question

[spartan55]

@asker don't be so quick to look for a reason to dump this dude. It seems like that is what you are doing. Were you clear about what YOU were looking for?

[Asker]

@spartan55 he told me. He is not really looking for anything, just going with the flow. I told him similar. But after my ex I haven’t really met a guy who keeps in regular contact like this guy does. I’m looking for a reason to dump him because I’m scared I’m going to fall for him and it won’t work out. He is the whole package (for me he is) by the way he isn’t my boyfriend so can’t really dump him.

[slatyb]

What do you want?

[Asker]

What do I want from him you mean? @slatyb

[slatyb]

Yes.

[Asker]

Well not sure at the moment because I don’t know how he feels. And from experience I prefer to take it slow. Get to know him before deciding anything. But I definitely have feelings for him.