Being forever alone, how do I navigate a life surrounded by love?

[Anonymous]

It is in the movies, songs, and TV shows. It is all around me. All my former friends are married with kids. Right now, I am visiting family and my younger cousin has 3 kids with her husband.

Meanwhile, I am turning 29 this year and never had a real girlfriend. I only want a woman without a romantic past, and therefore, I am probably going to end up lonely, never getting to experience romantic love or intimacy.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Just enjoy life. There is more to enjoying life than just fucking and having mushy kissy lover time pillow talk.

Play video games, shoot some animals, and hide some dead bodies. Look into "real dolls" if you just want some humpy humpy time... I'm guessing it's better than humping on a anime pillow.

You never even had a girlfriend and almost 30? That's pretty bad... Honestly can't relate. But... women are not all that great if you think about it. Have you bought some hookers at least? Buy a hooker or two.

[Asker]

I had dates before, but pretty much all of them didn't last past the first date or first weekend. I almost had to sell my soul just to lose my virginity at the age of 20 to a 16 year old girl 8 years ago. I haven't touched a woman since.

[D_Bone_Steak]

If there is grass on the field, then it's time to play ball... I've done worse in Hong Kong where it was perfectly legal. Not being able to maintain anything long-term is more of a personality issue though. Money can get it out of the system but you should work on the gym game or the word game to get anything going... money game will buy you hookers, but that just is what it is... relief for a while.

[Anonymous]

Embrace being single. Too many people treat it like it's a bad thing, it's not. As long as you're still social you're going to find women approaching you in the next 5 to 10 years. man. You just weren't thier first choice. Then you get to decide whether you want to be thier 2nd... or possibly thier 30th choice. Personally I just enjoy wasting thier time. Cause they're only getting older. 😆😆😆

[Asker]

I don't want to be anyone's second or later choices. And I especially don't want to be the man she just "settles" with because she is getting older and cannot find anything better.

[Opinion Owner]

Most self respecting guys wouldn't. But you can't control how women see you man. But you can control how you see yourself. Like I say that's why I'm OK with wasting thier time. Because I know most of them aren't coming at me correctly. And most are going to flake anyhow.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Sounds like a you problem.
You want a diamond in the rough, but that's not gonna happen. Either lower your standards or quit feeling sorry for yourself

[Anonymous]

Why do you think you’ve never had a girl

[Asker]

Just very unlucky circumstances. I was an outcast growing up and struggled badly with mental health issues and social skills. I didn't attend college in a traditional sense. I am a self taught software engineer. I have mainly stayed introverted and had difficulties finding places to meet women. Online dating was unsuccessful and a huge waste of money. It only helped me to lose my virginity about 8 years ago. I haven't even touched a woman since.

[Opinion Owner]

Mental issues serious enough to get you committed in an asylum?

[Asker]

I have been hospitalized involuntarily countless times starting at age 13. They were mostly brief stays, like 2 weeks at most. I have been to 6 psych hospitals, some of which I stayed many times. I would say I have been hospitalized 15+ times, maybe even 20+ times.

[Opinion Owner]

Thats very concerning and if the girls you take interest in are aware, its seen as a red flag too

[Asker]

It is what it is. I am who I am. I am lucky to be alive today. I was in the ICU one time after an overdose suicide attempt many years ago. I also have a stalking conviction related to that one time I lost my virginity 8 years ago. I tried to win her heart and it backfired. I am short in height and inexperienced. Even this homeless guy I knew had better luck with girls than me, despite the fact I make $70k/yr.

[Opinion Owner]

I think you’ll find someone but it’ll likely be someone who has shared your mental health experience because they’d be more understanding

[Asker]

I seek a woman without a romantic past, meaning no previous romantic bonds. I will likely be single the rest of my life. I am scared to death and fear the day I am left on this earth alone.

[Opinion Owner]

Im sure you attended therapy for this mental thing right? Meet a rehab girl who understands you