Boyfriend's female friend made my fake id and msgs, so he blocked her for some days then suddenly unblock her and she texts daily and do flirting?

[Anonymous]

6-7 months ago my boyfriend's new female friend started talking to my boyfriend, she used to text him daily used to send her pictures of her and even flirted with him sometimes. So I asked my boyfriend to not talk to her daily as he also didn't want the same from me. But he didn't listen. So out of anger I texted that girl and asked her to not text him daily. So she pretended to cry to gain my boyfriend's sympathy and he took her side, so I had to apologise her as I also felt bad that she is crying.

After some days she showed my fake texts to my boyfriend and also created my fake id and started texting my boyfriend's friends with that fake id that " i am his girlfriend and Don talk to him" and much more shit. Then when we came to know she is only doing all this i asked him to pls block her. But he didn't, so months passed and they still used to talk. He also broke my trust by sending his pictures to her when he said he will create distance. I asked him again and again to block her but he never did.

One day a fake id texted me and was trying to ask where I live and everything. So we both understand that it's only that girl. This time he blocked her on his own but after 15-20 days, he used to say in our argument that he is going to unblock her. Then he finally did and they started talking, she texts him daily. When i ask for screenshots I saw that girl was flirting like too much with him. So I again asked him to pls not talk to her and block her but he said he wants to keep contact with her. I feel so unvalued so I took the decision of breaking up with him. Bcoz he will always keep talking to her who did all that. I don't know if i am wrong somewhere. What should I do?

[SueShe]

You waited much too long to break with your boyfriend. You allowed this girl to interfere with your relationship and you should have realized that you have never been the priority of your boyfriend.

If, after voicing your concern, he does not react and allows this contact to go on for days, then he simply indicates that you are only coming in second place behind this girl.

This should have been enough for you to react right away and give him the boot rather than to have to go through the entire discussion with him.

He seems to be a player and enjoys this role. For him, you were merely another victim. Once he is fed up with this girl, he will look for another victim.

What you should do? Keep your distance from your boyfriend and don't allow him to follow you on any social media or to contact you in the future. You will save yourself a lot of emotional anxiety. Above all, don't try to follow him or to look up his social media.

[Asker]

I just couldn't breakup ever even after he broke my trust several times, I kept forgiving him as I loved him so much. I just feel incomplete without him. He kept saying she is no one. You are you and many more things. But i feel done sacrificing myself. And he never thinks that he is wrong. Although he knows that he would never be with me if i was doing all this. But i k i have forgiven a lot since past year, and it's time to let go 😞 he was really my weakness and strength both... But thank you for opinion 🙏🏻 I wish I would overcome all this soon.

[SueShe]

You will eventually overcome all this emotional ride. All it takes is to get rid of all those trinkets and memorabilia that remind you of him. Take a long week-end off, take up a hobby or join a club where your mind gets busy with other things. That is a good way to make new friends and to forget.

Good luck and happy Easter 🐇🐰🥚

[techgirl7]

Stay broken up with him. It sounds to me that he liked the attention from you both. If he hasn't already he probably would've cheated on you with her. Either way he is disrespectful for not shutting her down and blocking her in the first place. There are other men out there who you can date who will not play those childish games.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like the situation with your boyfriend's female friend has caused a lot of trust issues and hurt feelings in your relationship. It's understandable that you feel unvalued and frustrated that your boyfriend continues to talk to someone who has caused so much drama and hurt in your relationship. It's up to you to decide what you're comfortable with in a relationship and whether or not you can trust your boyfriend to prioritize your feelings and boundaries. If you feel like breaking up is the best decision for you, then that is a valid choice. It might also be helpful to seek support from friends or a therapist as you navigate your emotions and next steps.

[zayndan]

Your boyfriend was heading to the place where and and his female friend was going to get more intimate, so it's good that you broke up with him. After all, if you keep telling him to block her for good reasons, and he doesn't seem to take into consideration how you feel about her talking and flirting with him, then he doesn't value and appreciate you as you ought to be. Seems like he loved the attention she was giving him, so he kept entertaining it, and that's a red flag. Respect yourself and find a good person

[razelove]

I tried reading all of it, but then it started getting repetitive. So if I'm getting this right your man started getting attention from a girl that could have been a side chick, you said cut it out. Over time you got pushed to being the side chick, then tried to fix things up.
Once the trust is gone so is the relationship. When he believed someone else over you without good reason that's a red flag. When she tried to undermine your trust in a way easy to disprove, but he used that as an excuse to move you into being 2nd, you should have bounced.
Even if monogamy isn't important to you, people need to mean what they say even in a casual relationship or they aren't worth your time.

[Punk-y]

I'm very sorry you had to go through that, but you did the right decision (even if it took you some time), you clearly really loved him and thought he did too, but he's an asshole and doesn't deserve you (clearly didn't love you at all too); don't forget about that, if he comes back, don't accept his apologies or anything, there's no excuses for what he did. You will find someone who loves you as much as you love him and also respects you, don't worry!

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your kind opinion 😊

[TomMarks]

Sounds like to me he wants to have both of you.

Not sure what kind of relationship you all have sexually speaking. But sounds like he is keeping her as a possible “side chick” so he could be get with her if for some reason you don’t let him have what he wants.

I’m not defending him if that’s the case, if he can’t be loyal to you 100%, let him go. Before YOU become the “side chick.”

[Anonymous]

Female friend isn't the problem. She doesn't have any commitment. Its you and your boyfriend. Your boyfriend for liking other girls attention. You, for staying with him. Only read the first or two sentences. I would have already dumped a guy by then. So not worth it lol.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

End the relationship.

[Softlife808]

All y'all need to grow up. This is so elementary

[Anonymous]

You have to set some boundaries with him.

[Anonymous]

Why haven't you dumped him?

[In_Trance]

Gong show